To those that have had 3 or more...

[Steelgoddess]

Firstly if you have I would like to say sorry.

I also wanted to ask if anyone is now preggo and how its going?

Also have you had extra care to make sure this pregnancy was safe? Or extra meds (ie hormone tabs, aspirin etc).

What was the outcome of your investigations?

Sorry im just curious now

 

[sophie]

Hiya, ive not spoken to u before but i wanted to reply to this post, im sorry about your losses hun.
I myself have had 4 m/c's all in the last 2 yrs or so, i had a very early 1 when 1st TTC then 1 at nearly 15 wks but it was a missed m/c so baby had stopped at around 13 wks, then 2 early ones after that, im now 21 wks pg an everything is goin good, i had been refered to the infertility clinic and whenide got there i thought i might be pg so they scanned and i was, only 4 wks but never the less, i then had scans every week up till i was 9 wks then they discharged me to go to my MW. The care has been really good but now everything is ok i am back to normal visits at MW!
I just wanted u too know that there is hope!
x

 

[Steelgoddess]

Thanks and sorry for your losses too that must be hard!

Congrats on your new preggy too its brilliant

Did they say why you were miscarrying or just one of those things?

Also at your scans do they monitor the growth etc or is it just for reassurance...

Im a bit scared of scans now...

 

[fynemum]

Hi, Sorry you have lost too sweetheart.....I just wanted to reply to your post too...

I have had 3 miscarriages, but they were not all in a row, so NO investigation was done...... that silly law Hence the petition I posted on the forum..

I lost my first , a twin, over 17 years ago...... I have scan pictures of my two babies at 8 weeks then 14 weeks good heart beats, then my 16 week scan, one one heart beat.... But i feel fortunate I carried my son (other twin) full-term and he celebrated his 17th birthday yesterday.

I had another son just over two years later...nice healthy easy pregnancy, just one scan at 12 weeks then healthy happy ending.. he's 14+ yrs now.

I lost an angel 6 years ago around 8 weeks (didn't have exact dates for this baby)...... but i was going through terrible personal emotional family issues then, so maybe stress? who knows....

Last year Oct 9th (babyloss awareness day too) I missed miscarried again, My baby son Connell had no heartbeat again, second tri and he looked so perfect....I have my scan pictures, but i also have the memory of holding my tiny baby with this one... i never made hospital medical assistance.... until after he was delivered at home... I did take him and all the pregnancy tissue i passed to hospital with me, asked for a postmortem, but was refused.... told that it was just one of those things, natures way..etc... and the 3 mc rule sited again...

I am fortunate to be expecting again now... I am due 31st october so around 33+ weeks now....


I wasn't offered any extra care, but i did call the EPU myself and they gave me an early scan... 5 weeks 6 days .. Saw a heartbeat and little bean... posted pics then too...

Then I got my ONE and ONLY scan by the NHS midwifes referral....14 weeks..... it was wonderful...... baby growing well and strong heart beat again..... I was give blood tests then too... standard stuff.... risks of downs etc.... Being over 35 thought more risk but results came back LOW risk..

despite the fact i also have some renal problems and have both blood and protein in my urine, this is not their problem but the kidney doctors ....
To Date.... i have saw my midwife a total of 3 times.....i have felt my care has been disgraceful considering my past, But i am lucky that i am doing well now... my next appointment is 2/10.2007 then 12/10.2007........ hopefully all continues well and i still don't need them before then..

Please note I live in East-Kilbride Scotland, and care here is well documented to be poor...... people expect it now... and know they won't get a 20 week anomaly scan....... but if we have any bleeding we just go to A&E or the maternity hospital direct.. miss out the midwives....

I am sure you will receive much better care and be monitored more closely like the majority of pregnancy after loss mothers....

I wish you well and a happy ending too lv and baby dust to you... yvonne xx

 

[babydust]

hi sharne, how you feeling today its horrible having to wait over a weekend to have a d&c, have you to go in on monday are are you waiting for an appointment? I have had this happen b4 so now i will not go for a scan on a friday just incase.
i had a scan 5 years ago and it was the same as you a sac but no baby after that i go pregnant again and got a reasurance scan at 6weeks saw a heart beat then went for a scan at 8 weeks and there was no heart beat it was a missed m/c, tests were down after this and nothing was foundtold just bad luck, i then got pregnant again and had my daughter i had a scan every 2 weeks up until 20weeks this pregnancy was fine and my daughter healthy, i then got pregnant straight after and had the same care as above and my 2nd daughter was fine too. Sorry this is going on a bit, but inDecember last year i got pregnant again got a scan at 6 weeks the heart beat was fine then a couple of weeks later there was no heart beat the baby had grown fine up to about 8 weeks. pathology results were negative no problems found, then as you know i had my last pregnancy there which ended in august at 13 weeks, i had been having scans every week here too. again i was told that what went wrong here too was just really bad luck. I dont accept this i am currently researching it myself and i have found a dr in the states who does genetic research, i am currently looking into it being caused by male babies as i know that 2 were male and i dont know what the first 2 were but it is possible they were. I have also had bloods done for ?clotting problems, i think its terrible the amount of people that dont get answers, i hope you find what you are looking for good luck and keep us posted.

 

[babydust]

sorry i forgot to say i know the law is tests will not get done until you have had 3 but i managed to get them to test after the second one. so i wouldnt just accept that you need to wait to see if it happens again. i forgot to mention they are doing a study just now to see if regular scanning makes a difference in m/c rate they think that if you get regular scans you will be reasurred and not stress and therfor less likely to m/c, they are also testing to see if asprin and a blood thinning medication will help prevent m/c even if you have not been diagnosed with a clotting problem. i can send u the link about thi if you want, just pm me.

 

[Steelgoddess]

Wow girls thanks SO MUCH for all your replies, that must have been really hard but it is so helpful to me.

Im so sorry for everyones losses I guess i feel lucky knowing its not a baby I have lost and to have to give birth to a baby that has passed away is just devestating to me you ladies all sound so strong!

I dont think they do enough TBH it feels like they are passing the buck a bit by not attemping to help *sigh*.

I would love that link Claire? i think i might pm you aswell hon

x