things are going a bit weird

[neeko_1]

i've never posted here before.... anyway me and my partner have been together for 2 years now, and i love him... his been there and stuck by me thought a lot... and he has been my rock when we had two miscarriages last year.

we now live together and are having a little girl in June... but he has been quite difficult since i've been pregnant...

okay so i'm pregnant and i might of put on a little weight as you do... but he always goes on about it, a lot and it really gets me down..he had not said anything nice to me and does not make me feel special anymore

it's like he has lost all interested and does not want to be around me... and recently have been quite emotional and crying by myself when he turns me away...

i don't seem to know what is going on and where it is going but i just feel like i'm just this chick that's just there

 

[Riley's Mommy]

oh hun. im so sorry things arent going so well

what he is doing is very insensitive.

have you spoke to him about it? maby he is worried about hurting the baby.

speak to him hun and tell him how you feel. he isnt being very nice

 

[Sabrina]

It's really tricky trying to get into men's heads at times. I'm sorry your OH isn't being very kind to you Neeko.

Your body is a beautiful thing and right now it is being used for it's true purpose - to create a new life. How amazing is that? Surely he can get over the temporary addition of a few pounds in weight to see the "bigger picture" hey?

If you can then talk to him and explain to him you are adjusting to the changes too. It's a time when you need to work together and try to look forward happily to the birth of your LO. You need his support rather than his indifference.

When I was very down with my OH a few months ago I showed him a post I'd put on this board about the situation. I found it difficult to talk to him but he got the message after reading the thread (and the replies!). Maybe you could try that?

Big hugs

Sabrina
x

 

[mummykay]

he needs a kick up the backside if he thought u carryin his baby wasnt goin to have an impact on ur body!!!!

 

[TipsyDipsy]

Oh hunny I know how you feel it does cause lasting resentment.

My hubbie didn't mention the weight but started to avoid being intimate before finally in my last few weeks during my last pregnancy saying that he didn't find me attractive being so heavily pregnant.
Well I was really upset and it knocked my confidence but karma won out in the end and after I had my daughter I lost 5 stone in weight and went down to 8 stone whereas he'd put on quite a bit and then I had the great pleasure in giving him a little of his own medicine. Men don't like at all when they are being rejected.
Anyway giving him a taste of his own medicine worked and I think it made him realise how he had made me feel and he hasn't said anything during this pregnancy.

Keep your chin up hun you won't be pregnant for ever remember
And perhaps you should remind him of that fact and that women never forget.