If only we did know! September is such a long time away. She could've changed totally by then!
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Taking an 18 month old to a wedding
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If only we did know! September is such a long time away. She could've changed totally by then!
Dragging up an old thread...
Under alot of family pressure we agreed to go to the wedding and booked the hotel. But now I'm totally regretting it
The more we are told about the itinerary the more unsuitable it sounds for a toddler and adding two full days stuck in a car either side I am just dreading the whole weekend.
She will be wanting her lunch during the ceremony and will (hopefully) be asleep during the wedding lunch, which is expected to go on for 3 hours so no way she will sit quietly during it if she doesn't go down for a nap (and if she doesn't nap she will be a nightmare later in the day!). I've no idea what we will feed her for dinner as the next meal isn't until an hour after her bedtime and she does not wait for food when hungry. I've been told there is a room she can sleep in but I am not feeling comfortable with this and expect I will spend the whole evening watching the baby monitor and not actually enjoy myself.
We've just had a long weekend away from home with her and it totally recked her routine and she's been a nightmare since with naps, bedtime and just generally very cranky so not filled me with confidence.
Really don't know what to do.
Under alot of family pressure we agreed to go to the wedding and booked the hotel. But now I'm totally regretting it
The more we are told about the itinerary the more unsuitable it sounds for a toddler and adding two full days stuck in a car either side I am just dreading the whole weekend. She will be wanting her lunch during the ceremony and will (hopefully) be asleep during the wedding lunch, which is expected to go on for 3 hours so no way she will sit quietly during it if she doesn't go down for a nap (and if she doesn't nap she will be a nightmare later in the day!). I've no idea what we will feed her for dinner as the next meal isn't until an hour after her bedtime and she does not wait for food when hungry. I've been told there is a room she can sleep in but I am not feeling comfortable with this and expect I will spend the whole evening watching the baby monitor and not actually enjoy myself.
We've just had a long weekend away from home with her and it totally recked her routine and she's been a nightmare since with naps, bedtime and just generally very cranky so not filled me with confidence.
Really don't know what to do.
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I really feel for you. We have a christening to go to on Sunday and we've decided not to take the kids. At least it's local and not family so the boys are getting left with SIL for the afternoon. There's been a few raised eyebrows and comments about our kids not coming when there will be lots of other kids there, but if I'm spending the money on going I want to make it worth my while and to relax and enjoy it child free.
I think some well meaning relatives who put pressure on with these things don't quite appreciate or understand how much of a faff these things are with kids. My sister got married in Gretna Green, and it was a lot of expense and hassle before we even had the boys. I couldn't have done itwith kids iin tow!
If that was OH and I, OH would probably take LO off out from the church or the reception to get something to eat, have a nap in the pram or sit with them in the room while I spent time with my family.
Or you could just sit next to the people who pressured you into going all day and let them see first hand what you were talking about!!
I think some well meaning relatives who put pressure on with these things don't quite appreciate or understand how much of a faff these things are with kids. My sister got married in Gretna Green, and it was a lot of expense and hassle before we even had the boys. I couldn't have done itwith kids iin tow!
If that was OH and I, OH would probably take LO off out from the church or the reception to get something to eat, have a nap in the pram or sit with them in the room while I spent time with my family.
Or you could just sit next to the people who pressured you into going all day and let them see first hand what you were talking about!!
I was thinking the same.
I'm taking my 3 month old to a family wedding soon, but we haven't had to pay for an overnight stay in the hotel (which is where the wedding breakfast/night do is). They've also been really nice in seating us somewhere we can have the pram with us.
Is it too late to cancel? If it was me I would say I was really sorry I wanted to be there and started to make the plans but I realised it is just too much travelling for me to cope with with the kids and that we'd like to give them some of what we would have spent on the trip as a wedding present instead.
I agree with BunnyN. I have a daughter who's been to quite a few weddings and in all honesty she's been a nightmare. Obviously not her fault but when she's out of her routine she acts up and it's just been exhausting. At the wedding where she was 22 months we left early, half way through dinner because I'd bribed her with so many milky bar buttons that she threw up on my husband and the floor right in between two tables. Not my finest parenting moment and utterly mortifying! That's quite an extreme negative example to give you but in my experience toddlers and weddings are a headache to be avoided!
If you can't cancel then def do what someone else suggested in taking your lo outside when the church bit is on and when nap time is due, take them for a stroll in the buggy (if that works)? But be prepared to leave relatively early.xxx
If you can't cancel then def do what someone else suggested in taking your lo outside when the church bit is on and when nap time is due, take them for a stroll in the buggy (if that works)? But be prepared to leave relatively early.xxx
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Hi lovely I totally sympathise, my step son got married abroad when DD was 14 months, it was a a 4 hour flight, cost us an arm and a leg, was swelteringly hot and the whole day was totally unsuitable for a baby. It had a hotel bit, (not our hotel) a beach bit and a restaurant bit. We ended up leaving at 10 pm and none of us had had an evening meal yet...it started at 4.00pm. We couldn't wait any longer and it was just generally awful for us and DD.
If I could change my decision I would have just gone to the UK part and not put ourselves and DD through it. I feel really awful saying it as we are obviously very close to them but it was just a bad idea.
Xx
If I could change my decision I would have just gone to the UK part and not put ourselves and DD through it. I feel really awful saying it as we are obviously very close to them but it was just a bad idea.
Xx
