Symptom spotting

[Nikkibiscuit]

Why do we do it and drive ourselves mad?

So I tested at 5 days prior to AF due date. BFN. But then not 100% sure on dates as last 2 months AF have been erratic. Went from 5 months of steady 28/29 day cycles to a 37 day followed by a 23 day. So not sure where I am really. App had split the difference so had me due on day 26. So quite possible that test was earlier than 5 days before missed AF.

And yet I know I am kidding myself despite having DTD every other day through best week I still reckon I am out.

But then I have been constipated most of the week....but then last night woke up just after going to sleep with horrible stomach cramps and terrible wind and diarrhoea (sorry TMI) was the same this morning. And have had wind moving around my stomach all day feeling bloated and heartburn. Diet not been brilliant this week but not been so bad I would expect to feel like this. On top of that have had a bit of nipple discharge this week. I know this can be normal but I've never had it before.

Sorry ladies just needed to vent really and feel like I'm not alone in my second guessing and pondering. Tried to promise myself I won't test again unless I go past 30 days and no AF xx

 

[_GG_]

Why do we do it and drive ourselves mad?

So I tested at 5 days prior to AF due date. BFN. But then not 100% sure on dates as last 2 months AF have been erratic. Went from 5 months of steady 28/29 day cycles to a 37 day followed by a 23 day. So not sure where I am really. App had split the difference so had me due on day 26. So quite possible that test was earlier than 5 days before missed AF.

And yet I know I am kidding myself despite having DTD every other day through best week I still reckon I am out.

But then I have been constipated most of the week....but then last night woke up just after going to sleep with horrible stomach cramps and terrible wind and diarrhoea (sorry TMI) was the same this morning. And have had wind moving around my stomach all day feeling bloated and heartburn. Diet not been brilliant this week but not been so bad I would expect to feel like this. On top of that have had a bit of nipple discharge this week. I know this can be normal but I've never had it before.

Sorry ladies just needed to vent really and feel like I'm not alone in my second guessing and pondering. Tried to promise myself I won't test again unless I go past 30 days and no AF xx

It's a nightmare isn't it. Constantly mindful of every little feeling, all the time.

Have you tested again yet?

 

[KatD]

Nikki

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Thanks ladies

GG I caved and tested the day after posting this and still BFN. So just waiting on AF now. I'm cycle day 29 today and no sign yet. Just half wish the witch would get it over with so I could move on again. Really hope my cycle aren't gonna be all over the place. Not sure my nerve can take it.

Trying to relax but for mayhem going on in life generally at the minute so not doing well with that. Off work next week though and taking my mum for a spa break for her 60th birthday so hoping that is some good down time. So long as she doesn't ask me if we are ttc!! Can't bear to tell her for fear of the weekly questions about how it's going. Love my mum dearly but couldn't cope with that! Lol

 

[_GG_]

Thanks ladies

GG I caved and tested the day after posting this and still BFN. So just waiting on AF now. I'm cycle day 29 today and no sign yet. Just half wish the witch would get it over with so I could move on again. Really hope my cycle aren't gonna be all over the place. Not sure my nerve can take it.

Trying to relax but for mayhem going on in life generally at the minute so not doing well with that. Off work next week though and taking my mum for a spa break for her 60th birthday so hoping that is some good down time. So long as she doesn't ask me if we are ttc!! Can't bear to tell her for fear of the weekly questions about how it's going. Love my mum dearly but couldn't cope with that! Lol

I did blurt it at my mum and dad but they generally leave me to update rather than ask for updates. I occasionally get a quick but unobtrusive, "are you okay" in *that* caring voice and it's so they can tell me they're thinking of me, which is perfect in my book.
My MIL on the other hand has gone to great lengths to try and hurry us up over the years, even using oh sisters brain tumour diagnosis as emotional blackmail but...we told her after the second loss. We knew we'd be speaking to her sometime soon and didn't want to cope with the inevitable, "when is the wedding, when will you finally have a baby" questions, so we told her what was happening. She was sad for us but not heard from her since. Because it's not about us you see, she's just happy to know we're trying at last. She did of course say she wanted to be the first to know when it does happen!

I'm so sorry you got a bfn but it may well just be too early. I'd test again in a couple of days. Xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

Sorry Nikki I skipped September's testing and I swear it's been forever for it to be over hahah I'm supposedly ovulating today according to my app so...should be entering the tww tomorrow. Symptom spotting hell haha

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[LuckyLaura]

Thanks ladies

GG I caved and tested the day after posting this and still BFN. So just waiting on AF now. I'm cycle day 29 today and no sign yet. Just half wish the witch would get it over with so I could move on again. Really hope my cycle aren't gonna be all over the place. Not sure my nerve can take it.

Trying to relax but for mayhem going on in life generally at the minute so not doing well with that. Off work next week though and taking my mum for a spa break for her 60th birthday so hoping that is some good down time. So long as she doesn't ask me if we are ttc!! Can't bear to tell her for fear of the weekly questions about how it's going. Love my mum dearly but couldn't cope with that! Lol

I did blurt it at my mum and dad but they generally leave me to update rather than ask for updates. I occasionally get a quick but unobtrusive, "are you okay" in *that* caring voice and it's so they can tell me they're thinking of me, which is perfect in my book.
My MIL on the other hand has gone to great lengths to try and hurry us up over the years, even using oh sisters brain tumour diagnosis as emotional blackmail but...we told her after the second loss. We knew we'd be speaking to her sometime soon and didn't want to cope with the inevitable, "when is the wedding, when will you finally have a baby" questions, so we told her what was happening. She was sad for us but not heard from her since. Because it's not about us you see, she's just happy to know we're trying at last. She did of course say she wanted to be the first to know when it does happen!

I'm so sorry you got a bfn but it may well just be too early. I'd test again in a couple of days. Xx

Your MIL sounds like my mother it's all about her. But I've also no privacy as I'm living at home temporarily and my mum went through my stuff and found my basal thermometer and seven seas trying to conceive tablets. No pressure

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[_GG_]

Thanks ladies

GG I caved and tested the day after posting this and still BFN. So just waiting on AF now. I'm cycle day 29 today and no sign yet. Just half wish the witch would get it over with so I could move on again. Really hope my cycle aren't gonna be all over the place. Not sure my nerve can take it.

Trying to relax but for mayhem going on in life generally at the minute so not doing well with that. Off work next week though and taking my mum for a spa break for her 60th birthday so hoping that is some good down time. So long as she doesn't ask me if we are ttc!! Can't bear to tell her for fear of the weekly questions about how it's going. Love my mum dearly but couldn't cope with that! Lol

I did blurt it at my mum and dad but they generally leave me to update rather than ask for updates. I occasionally get a quick but unobtrusive, "are you okay" in *that* caring voice and it's so they can tell me they're thinking of me, which is perfect in my book.
My MIL on the other hand has gone to great lengths to try and hurry us up over the years, even using oh sisters brain tumour diagnosis as emotional blackmail but...we told her after the second loss. We knew we'd be speaking to her sometime soon and didn't want to cope with the inevitable, "when is the wedding, when will you finally have a baby" questions, so we told her what was happening. She was sad for us but not heard from her since. Because it's not about us you see, she's just happy to know we're trying at last. She did of course say she wanted to be the first to know when it does happen!

I'm so sorry you got a bfn but it may well just be too early. I'd test again in a couple of days. Xx

Your MIL sounds like my mother it's all about her. But I've also no privacy as I'm living at home temporarily and my mum went through my stuff and found my basal thermometer and seven seas trying to conceive tablets. No pressure

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She went through your stuff? Oh my god, she is like my MIL. Me and oh hide all paperwork and personal stuff down the yard when she comes to stay. Can't trust her.

God, does she think it's acceptable to do that? You're a grown woman ffs!

 

[MrsLK2017]

Can't believe your mum still goes through your stuff, that would drive me insane

Can I join on the craziness of the 2ww. I'm currently 7dpo and i'm constantly squeezing my boobs to see if they are tender (first sign I had last time) and I swear my nipples were tingly. So far had nothing really, have been getting quite a bit of lotiony cm.

Although I did have a weird pinch feeling on my left side yesterday but then had a really sharp pinch on right side hour later

Am trying to resist the urge to

 

[_GG_]

Can't believe your mum still goes through your stuff, that would drive me insane

Can I join on the craziness of the 2ww. I'm currently 7dpo and i'm constantly squeezing my boobs to see if they are tender (first sign I had last time) and I swear my nipples were tingly. So far had nothing really, have been getting quite a bit of lotiony cm.

Although I did have a weird pinch feeling on my left side yesterday but then had a really sharp pinch on right side hour later

Am trying to resist the urge to

Could jist be ligaments adjusting. Could be twins implanting 🤤❤

 

[MrsLK2017]

Can't believe your mum still goes through your stuff, that would drive me insane

Can I join on the craziness of the 2ww. I'm currently 7dpo and i'm constantly squeezing my boobs to see if they are tender (first sign I had last time) and I swear my nipples were tingly. So far had nothing really, have been getting quite a bit of lotiony cm.

Although I did have a weird pinch feeling on my left side yesterday but then had a really sharp pinch on right side hour later

Am trying to resist the urge to

Could jist be ligaments adjusting. Could be twins implanting 🤤❤

The thought crossed my mind I also got 2 days of positive opks and on another forum a poster had this and she ended up with twins

 

[KatD]

How freaking awesome would it be if it turns out to be twins??? FX!

 

[LuckyLaura]

Thanks ladies

GG I caved and tested the day after posting this and still BFN. So just waiting on AF now. I'm cycle day 29 today and no sign yet. Just half wish the witch would get it over with so I could move on again. Really hope my cycle aren't gonna be all over the place. Not sure my nerve can take it.

Trying to relax but for mayhem going on in life generally at the minute so not doing well with that. Off work next week though and taking my mum for a spa break for her 60th birthday so hoping that is some good down time. So long as she doesn't ask me if we are ttc!! Can't bear to tell her for fear of the weekly questions about how it's going. Love my mum dearly but couldn't cope with that! Lol

I did blurt it at my mum and dad but they generally leave me to update rather than ask for updates. I occasionally get a quick but unobtrusive, "are you okay" in *that* caring voice and it's so they can tell me they're thinking of me, which is perfect in my book.
My MIL on the other hand has gone to great lengths to try and hurry us up over the years, even using oh sisters brain tumour diagnosis as emotional blackmail but...we told her after the second loss. We knew we'd be speaking to her sometime soon and didn't want to cope with the inevitable, "when is the wedding, when will you finally have a baby" questions, so we told her what was happening. She was sad for us but not heard from her since. Because it's not about us you see, she's just happy to know we're trying at last. She did of course say she wanted to be the first to know when it does happen!

I'm so sorry you got a bfn but it may well just be too early. I'd test again in a couple of days. Xx

Your MIL sounds like my mother it's all about her. But I've also no privacy as I'm living at home temporarily and my mum went through my stuff and found my basal thermometer and seven seas trying to conceive tablets. No pressure

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She went through your stuff? Oh my god, she is like my MIL. Me and oh hide all paperwork and personal stuff down the yard when she comes to stay. Can't trust her.

God, does she think it's acceptable to do that? You're a grown woman ffs!

Yeah she opens all my post too so I've switched to paperless bank statements we have had to get creative with hiding stuff and even then she finds them and accuses us of being secretive and how she doesn't trust us

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[LuckyLaura]

How freaking awesome would it be if it turns out to be twins??? FX!

Omg that'd be amazing. I wish I had twins in my family cuz I'd like to know I could maybe have 2 kids without having to try to conceive twice haha

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[KatD]

How freaking awesome would it be if it turns out to be twins??? FX!

Omg that'd be amazing. I wish I had twins in my family cuz I'd like to know I could maybe have 2 kids without having to try to conceive twice haha

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That was EXACTLY my thoughts!!

 

[_GG_]

Thanks ladies

GG I caved and tested the day after posting this and still BFN. So just waiting on AF now. I'm cycle day 29 today and no sign yet. Just half wish the witch would get it over with so I could move on again. Really hope my cycle aren't gonna be all over the place. Not sure my nerve can take it.

Trying to relax but for mayhem going on in life generally at the minute so not doing well with that. Off work next week though and taking my mum for a spa break for her 60th birthday so hoping that is some good down time. So long as she doesn't ask me if we are ttc!! Can't bear to tell her for fear of the weekly questions about how it's going. Love my mum dearly but couldn't cope with that! Lol

I did blurt it at my mum and dad but they generally leave me to update rather than ask for updates. I occasionally get a quick but unobtrusive, "are you okay" in *that* caring voice and it's so they can tell me they're thinking of me, which is perfect in my book.
My MIL on the other hand has gone to great lengths to try and hurry us up over the years, even using oh sisters brain tumour diagnosis as emotional blackmail but...we told her after the second loss. We knew we'd be speaking to her sometime soon and didn't want to cope with the inevitable, "when is the wedding, when will you finally have a baby" questions, so we told her what was happening. She was sad for us but not heard from her since. Because it's not about us you see, she's just happy to know we're trying at last. She did of course say she wanted to be the first to know when it does happen!

I'm so sorry you got a bfn but it may well just be too early. I'd test again in a couple of days. Xx

Your MIL sounds like my mother it's all about her. But I've also no privacy as I'm living at home temporarily and my mum went through my stuff and found my basal thermometer and seven seas trying to conceive tablets. No pressure

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She went through your stuff? Oh my god, she is like my MIL. Me and oh hide all paperwork and personal stuff down the yard when she comes to stay. Can't trust her.

God, does she think it's acceptable to do that? You're a grown woman ffs!

Yeah she opens all my post too so I've switched to paperless bank statements we have had to get creative with hiding stuff and even then she finds them and accuses us of being secretive and how she doesn't trust us

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She has serious issues and needs to be told to stop. Staying there doesn't give her a right to your life and as I said to my MIL once...it's not a secret, it's just none of your business!!!

 

[LuckyLaura]

Thanks ladies

GG I caved and tested the day after posting this and still BFN. So just waiting on AF now. I'm cycle day 29 today and no sign yet. Just half wish the witch would get it over with so I could move on again. Really hope my cycle aren't gonna be all over the place. Not sure my nerve can take it.

Trying to relax but for mayhem going on in life generally at the minute so not doing well with that. Off work next week though and taking my mum for a spa break for her 60th birthday so hoping that is some good down time. So long as she doesn't ask me if we are ttc!! Can't bear to tell her for fear of the weekly questions about how it's going. Love my mum dearly but couldn't cope with that! Lol

I did blurt it at my mum and dad but they generally leave me to update rather than ask for updates. I occasionally get a quick but unobtrusive, "are you okay" in *that* caring voice and it's so they can tell me they're thinking of me, which is perfect in my book.
My MIL on the other hand has gone to great lengths to try and hurry us up over the years, even using oh sisters brain tumour diagnosis as emotional blackmail but...we told her after the second loss. We knew we'd be speaking to her sometime soon and didn't want to cope with the inevitable, "when is the wedding, when will you finally have a baby" questions, so we told her what was happening. She was sad for us but not heard from her since. Because it's not about us you see, she's just happy to know we're trying at last. She did of course say she wanted to be the first to know when it does happen!

I'm so sorry you got a bfn but it may well just be too early. I'd test again in a couple of days. Xx

Your MIL sounds like my mother it's all about her. But I've also no privacy as I'm living at home temporarily and my mum went through my stuff and found my basal thermometer and seven seas trying to conceive tablets. No pressure

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She went through your stuff? Oh my god, she is like my MIL. Me and oh hide all paperwork and personal stuff down the yard when she comes to stay. Can't trust her.

God, does she think it's acceptable to do that? You're a grown woman ffs!

Yeah she opens all my post too so I've switched to paperless bank statements we have had to get creative with hiding stuff and even then she finds them and accuses us of being secretive and how she doesn't trust us

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She has serious issues and needs to be told to stop. Staying there doesn't give her a right to your life and as I said to my MIL once...it's not a secret, it's just none of your business!!!

Trust me I've asked her a million times to stop all the crazy behaviours she's been doing since I was about 14. She never changes or backs off she's really controlling too which was part of the reason I moved to Edinburgh to get away haha but I'm stuck back now due to circumstances beyond my control so I'm just trying to work at moving out again

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[LuckyLaura]

How freaking awesome would it be if it turns out to be twins??? FX!

Omg that'd be amazing. I wish I had twins in my family cuz I'd like to know I could maybe have 2 kids without having to try to conceive twice haha

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That was EXACTLY my thoughts!!

Fingers crossed xx

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[Alexis2017]

How freaking awesome would it be if it turns out to be twins??? FX!

Omg that'd be amazing. I wish I had twins in my family cuz I'd like to know I could maybe have 2 kids without having to try to conceive twice haha

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I am a twin and loads of twins in my family. My mum said its mega hard work. My friend just had twin boys who are identical. She had to paint one of their toes to tell them apart!

 

[MrsLK2017]

I'll settle for one to start with

Must not