Symptom spotting help <3

[LuckyLaura]

Hi guys

I'm 5 dpo and just wanted to ask if anyone has experienced this for their bfps.

I have:
Abdominal cramping
Feeling high temperature but in reality it is okay but then also freezing randomly.
Headaches
Flu symptoms
Feel like my stomach muscles are achey(could be flu)
Ewcm (have I just gotten confused about O)
Bloated and horrible feeling
Upset stomach

Not sure if I left anything off but yeah I'm just concerned I'm reading far too much into this all xx


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[candymycandy]

Hi Laura, it's the curse of SS. They could be symptoms but equally could just be random annoyingly. I always get cold symptoms before a bfp, starting with a blocked nose. Usually get an upset tummy too. Fx for you and let us know when you test!

 

[Alexis2017]

I've had all of these symptoms so many times that I don't read in to them anymore. Ive had dizziness and upset stomaches you name it...you just never know. I am really hoping these are signs for you! Is this your 3rd month ttc? X

 

[LuckyLaura]

Hi Laura, it's the curse of SS. They could be symptoms but equally could just be random annoyingly. I always get cold symptoms before a bfp, starting with a blocked nose. Usually get an upset tummy too. Fx for you and let us know when you test!

Thank you, I think they're kinda sticking out in my mind cuz I don't normally get like this before AF plus its not due for like ...a week and a half at least and I'm pretty much like clockwork each month xx

 

[LuckyLaura]

I've had all of these symptoms so many times that I don't read in to them anymore. Ive had dizziness and upset stomaches you name it...you just never know. I am really hoping these are signs for you! Is this your 3rd month ttc? X

Thank you yeah its the third month of actually trying, 4th month since we decided to try but we took a complete solid month break with no sex haha I never have these symptoms

Two more weird things happened today:
I was sitting in work nd suddenly i got this overwhelming smell of coffee that made me just want to gag and throw up all over my computer. It was so freaking strong it was unreal, I was engrossed in work so not at all thinking of symptom spotting and then I actually turned to my colleague and asked him if he made a different type, or like a stronger batch of coffee it was so unusual cuz he has it like every day.

Then we were just out shopping for some clothes for my wee 2 year old niece to send to India cuz we are making a wee warm winter clothes package for her, and we stopped to get food (I've eaten this a million times before, and love it) and I literally had my husband tasting each bit and the sauce cuz I was convinced that they were off or something was wrong with it cuz it tasted so gross and weird to me. It wasn't until I got home now when I thought about it- could this be a symptom?!

I feel like I am getting my hopes way too high, it could also just be my flu. I mean I hadn't had a sense of smell for a few days last week so maybe it was just intense cuz its coming back or maybe the flu and being ill has made things taste funny. I duno I just know im dpo and its way too early to test so it's going to drive me insane

 

[KatD]

Oh my gooooosh! That can SO be a symptom! And a promising one! I can't wait for you to test!

 

[LuckyLaura]

Oh my gooooosh! That can SO be a symptom! And a promising one! I can't wait for you to test!

This is the first month since ttc that I've actually wanted to test! My periods always arrive on the planned days so I put my testing date that date and then AF arrives and I've never poas-ed yet!

I've bought a few internet cheapies that should be arriving tomorrow and might actually test on Friday instead of my AF due date

I also feel like I'm going to be mega mega disappointed

 

[KatD]

I know! The other day GG gave me a real eye opener when she said that statistically only 30% of fertilized embryos implant, that's an estimated failure rate of more than 70%!

And here I was....so naive....thinking I'd be one of those lucky people who get knocked up first time around. What a plonker!

 

[LuckyLaura]

I know! The other day GG gave me a real eye opener when she said that statistically only 30% of fertilized embryos implant, that's an estimated failure rate of more than 70%!

And here I was....so naive....thinking I'd be one of those lucky people who get knocked up first time around. What a plonker!

I am sure it's going to be speedy for you though xx

 

[Pidgeridoo]

I know! The other day GG gave me a real eye opener when she said that statistically only 30% of fertilized embryos implant, that's an estimated failure rate of more than 70%!

And here I was....so naive....thinking I'd be one of those lucky people who get knocked up first time around. What a plonker!

I was so naive too! I thought the second OH and I dtd unprotected I would get pregnant be it around ovulation or not lol

 

[LuckyLaura]

I know! The other day GG gave me a real eye opener when she said that statistically only 30% of fertilized embryos implant, that's an estimated failure rate of more than 70%!

And here I was....so naive....thinking I'd be one of those lucky people who get knocked up first time around. What a plonker!

I was so naive too! I thought the second OH and I dtd unprotected I would get pregnant be it around ovulation or not lol

I know but I think its cuz we are all brought up in this atmosphere of OMG YOU SLIPPED UP OMG YOURE GOING TO BE PREGNANT FOR SURE GET THE MORNING AFTER PILL AHHHHHHHH hahah

 

[Alexis2017]

Yeah I thought tbe same. We started trying in Dec 2016 and for 1st 4 months I thought I was pregnant each time...then it went to 6 now 10 and now I realise this isn't easy at all. It's heart breaking.

 

[KatD]

Alexis

 

[LuckyLaura]

We are gonna get there tho!! It's so good to have people who understand hehe xx

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[Alexis2017]

I work with 8 girls and all have babies...1 just had her baby 2 months early and he is fine. One girl just told me shes 10 weeks. Thats now eberyone apart from me has 1 or 2 babies. I am the only one left. To make it worse the girl text me cos she couldn't tell me to my face as I had told her we were trying and having no luck. I am now that girl who ppl feel sorry for and don't want to tell me their pregnant. I have been reading some fertility books and posiitive frame of mind linked with fertility but I still have lost all hope now of having a baby. I feel ao low and sad and I feel like no one undertands this pain. The worst is the constant baby chat in work ALL the time. I literally just had to watch the last pregnant girl grow amd talk about it and now need to watch the next girl grow her baby and it's so tough as I am so happy for them but every second I wish it was me. I don't think I have felt as low as this ...today is a bad day.

 

[LuckyLaura]

I work with 8 girls and all have babies...1 just had her baby 2 months early and he is fine. One girl just told me shes 10 weeks. Thats now eberyone apart from me has 1 or 2 babies. I am the only one left. To make it worse the girl text me cos she couldn't tell me to my face as I had told her we were trying and having no luck. I am now that girl who ppl feel sorry for and don't want to tell me their pregnant. I have been reading some fertility books and posiitive frame of mind linked with fertility but I still have lost all hope now of having a baby. I feel ao low and sad and I feel like no one undertands this pain. The worst is the constant baby chat in work ALL the time. I literally just had to watch the last pregnant girl grow amd talk about it and now need to watch the next girl grow her baby and it's so tough as I am so happy for them but every second I wish it was me. I don't think I have felt as low as this ...today is a bad day.

I'm so sorry that's awful and its probably worse that your friend treated you differently because you'd told her that...Your time will come and then at least you know you can talk baby talk non stop with them like they've done with you!! It'll definitely happen xxx

 

[KatD]

I work with 8 girls and all have babies...1 just had her baby 2 months early and he is fine. One girl just told me shes 10 weeks. Thats now eberyone apart from me has 1 or 2 babies. I am the only one left. To make it worse the girl text me cos she couldn't tell me to my face as I had told her we were trying and having no luck. I am now that girl who ppl feel sorry for and don't want to tell me their pregnant. I have been reading some fertility books and posiitive frame of mind linked with fertility but I still have lost all hope now of having a baby. I feel ao low and sad and I feel like no one undertands this pain. The worst is the constant baby chat in work ALL the time. I literally just had to watch the last pregnant girl grow amd talk about it and now need to watch the next girl grow her baby and it's so tough as I am so happy for them but every second I wish it was me. I don't think I have felt as low as this ...today is a bad day.

I'm so sorry that's awful and its probably worse that your friend treated you differently because you'd told her that...Your time will come and then at least you know you can talk baby talk non stop with them like they've done with you!! It'll definitely happen xxx

I agree 100%
It's really hard to have to wait when you are ready to be parents NOW but if there is one thing I have learned is that everything always works out for your greater good. You WILL be a mommy, no doubt about it, maybe not as soon as you wanted it to be, but it WILL happen xxx

 

[Alexis2017]

Thank you Kat and Laura. I wish I could find that hope and excitement again like I had when we first started ttc. It was all new and exciting and now it's all tears and dissapointment. My DH said he is really sad now too.

 

[LuckyLaura]

Thank you Kat and Laura. I wish I could find that hope and excitement again like I had when we first started ttc. It was all new and exciting and now it's all tears and dissapointment. My DH said he is really sad now too.

I know it seems neverending now, but when you get that bfp it will all fade away to nothing.

I know it's not the same but I've just come out of a two year court battle and it was the worst time ever, my mental health went downhill, my husband was stuck in a different country, we didn't see each other for over a year and we lost everything, jobs, apartment, our whole life.

It has been 3 months since this ended and I flew to India to get him and bring him home and I swear I barely think about it, the nights I cried and the days I spent basically lying in a heap in the corner numb- all gone! All we have now is the joy of seeing each others faces each day and the adventures we can have! and TTC!!

When you have your rubbery bundle of joy in your arms, this will all melt away and you won't even remember this xxx

 

[MoominGirl]

I work with 8 girls and all have babies...1 just had her baby 2 months early and he is fine. One girl just told me shes 10 weeks. Thats now eberyone apart from me has 1 or 2 babies. I am the only one left. To make it worse the girl text me cos she couldn't tell me to my face as I had told her we were trying and having no luck. I am now that girl who ppl feel sorry for and don't want to tell me their pregnant. I have been reading some fertility books and posiitive frame of mind linked with fertility but I still have lost all hope now of having a baby. I feel ao low and sad and I feel like no one undertands this pain. The worst is the constant baby chat in work ALL the time. I literally just had to watch the last pregnant girl grow amd talk about it and now need to watch the next girl grow her baby and it's so tough as I am so happy for them but every second I wish it was me. I don't think I have felt as low as this ...today is a bad day.

I'm sorry to hear this Alexis. I think the biggest lesson I've learned during this struggle is that no one understands unless they've been there. She may have thought she was doing you a favour so you could process the news alone but I'm sure in reality you just want to be happy for her and feel part of the group. When the journey becomes this difficult, it's already very isolating so when you feel excluded by others because of it, it's just not helpful!!

I've actually had to distance myself from a family member lately due to some unnecessary and hurtful comments. Sadly this was someone I thought I could trust and one of the very select few that I shared our difficulties with. Big mistake. Long and short of it was this person basically told me I was bitter and twisted as I'd stupidly shared that I was having a difficult day. Of course this is someone who has no experience of fertility troubles. I can't tell you how alone I felt. That's why I'm so thankful for this forum. People just don't get it.