Shepherdess
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Hi girls, I'm 5 weeks pregnant so I think I'm just feeling anxious because of that but I'm curious as to what others think
I work two days a week, part of this is because due to the expense of childcare it's pointless me working more but it's mainly our lifestyle choice. we get by but we are by no means well off but I want to be the one too bring my kids up
anyway, I try my best in the house, I cook clean tidy and generally expect my husband to do very little, the only thing I ask him to do is fold and put away his laundry after I've washed and dried it (it's a job I hate) and on an evening after dinner i give him the choice of playing with our daughter or doing the filling the dishwasher , most nights he plays. I'll admit I was better in the house when my toddler was tiny as she napped and went in her jumperoo etc so the house was always spotless and lunch was always ready on the table when he came in but now she's older and I have to give her so much more undivided attention standards have slipped. it's not that my house is a dirty tip but I have no time to do things during the day so I tidy on a night time so when my husband comes in at lunchtime there's toys around and lunch isn't waiting for him. he's never said anything negative to me, he does begrudge fold his laundry but it really is a job I hate
anyway I've got myself all worked up after reading an article online yesterday when men married to sahm's have honest opinions and lots called their wives lazy and were disappointed that the lifestyle choice they'd made meant there house wasn't always show home standard and didn't like when their wives asked for support.
do you think I should be doing every little thing in the house? ive got myself worried my husband is harbouring some resentment
I work two days a week, part of this is because due to the expense of childcare it's pointless me working more but it's mainly our lifestyle choice. we get by but we are by no means well off but I want to be the one too bring my kids up
anyway, I try my best in the house, I cook clean tidy and generally expect my husband to do very little, the only thing I ask him to do is fold and put away his laundry after I've washed and dried it (it's a job I hate) and on an evening after dinner i give him the choice of playing with our daughter or doing the filling the dishwasher , most nights he plays. I'll admit I was better in the house when my toddler was tiny as she napped and went in her jumperoo etc so the house was always spotless and lunch was always ready on the table when he came in but now she's older and I have to give her so much more undivided attention standards have slipped. it's not that my house is a dirty tip but I have no time to do things during the day so I tidy on a night time so when my husband comes in at lunchtime there's toys around and lunch isn't waiting for him. he's never said anything negative to me, he does begrudge fold his laundry but it really is a job I hate
anyway I've got myself all worked up after reading an article online yesterday when men married to sahm's have honest opinions and lots called their wives lazy and were disappointed that the lifestyle choice they'd made meant there house wasn't always show home standard and didn't like when their wives asked for support.
do you think I should be doing every little thing in the house? ive got myself worried my husband is harbouring some resentment