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[Squiglet]

I know he was out of order to say those things to me. I feel better today knowing he couldn't possibly know if my baby is going to be ok.

I'm afraid now though that when I go tomorrow and tell the specialist what he said, they may agree with him. I know the specialist is lovely but what if he says the admissions doctor is right and the baby isn't going to make it?

I don't want them to advice me to have a termination. There is no way I'm doing that. I might aswell give it a chance. I'm scared they are going to tell me its the best thing to do though.

Guess I will just have to wait and find out tomorrow what they say about it all.

xoxo

Do exactly what you want to do...

Most doc advise terminations because of this terrible prejudice doctors have against people who are not "perfect". But perfection is like beauty... In the eye of the beholder... and your baby will be perfect to you...

I still say go for it.... give your baby the best chance you can... and see what happens at the end. There are many options available for you these days, but the docs are only giving you the easiest/cheapest solution for them.. not for you.

If you continue with your pregnancy you will be high risk, they will have to monitor you more, be more involved, have more staff on hand for the birth, your little boy may need ops or extra care, and that all costs money and their time.... but who cares... this is your life... your baby.... Just remember that if they tell you it's better to terminate.

Don't be forced into this by some "professional", come home and speak to people who have been through this... there are hundreds of support groups and forums on line... and these people will be able to give you much better advice than any doctor...

 

[DebbieM]

Just want to say good luck for tomorrow. Your specialist will be able to tell you the facts and as someone else said, you do what you think is right. Don't let some Dr who doesn't give a s**t let your hopes fade.

 

[nikkimitch]

Sitting here reading this with tears rolling down my face - I used to be a doctor (retired to be a sahm) and cant believe the insensitive way you have been treated - I have been present at many stillbirths of severely malformed children and hope I and the other staff with me handled it with much more compassion - it is your BABY (not a medical condition or syndrome) we are talking about - your baby your body your emotions - you need to do what is right for you and your family - in your situation I couldnt terminate a pregnancy no matter how bad I was told things could be - I would always want to give that glimmer of chance that things may be ok - for others going to term only to lose a baby shortly after birth is so the wrong thing for them and despite being anti terminations I supported patients who made this decision - helped them grieve after, took photos of their LO (even if they said they didnt want any as they usually changed their minds later) I am rambling now but really what I am trying to say is demand decent care complain if you dont get it and take good care of yourself and your LO - will be keeping you both in my prayers and will watch for an update tomorrow

 

[Bloom]

Good luck tomorrow

 

[Manda&Thomas]

good luck for tomorrow hun
thinking of you
manda xx

 

[mummykay]

good luck for tomorrow

 

[Tillytots]

goodluck for tommorrow hunni, thinking of you

xx

 

[floppit]

You sound like such an ace mum, trust your instincts because - I for one think they rock!

Good luck tomorrow...

 

[sarah113]

Good luck for tomorrow hun, will be thinking of you

 

[Zobo]

good luck tomorrow klee, ill be thinking of you! xxxx

 

[muppetmummy]

I hope it goes well for you today, good luck hun!

 

[tots hope]

Good luck for today x x x

 

[nikkimitch]

thinking of you today

 

[Urchin]

Also here waiting for news

 

[floppit]

??

Klee you ok?

 

[sarafet]

hi sweetie, thinking about you

xxxx

 

[Bloom]

I hope your ok and its good news

 

[Babylicious]

 

[muppetmummy]

Thinking about you hun, I hope it went alright and you and bubs are ok

 

[xJodieLoux]

Hope everything went well. Thinking of you