Sorry if I caused offence

[jim_01]

The other thread has been locked which seems well over the top as no arguments were going on.

Just wanted to say thanks for your help.

Please be assured this is all true. I can scan and email my passport to show the stamps and can send 30-odd pics to whoever if you like.

Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. No big deal.

I only posted on this forum as it was the busiest.

I've spoken with my lady friend and she has assured me that she is still pregnant so I will continue to send her money and support her. She has my child after all.

And if the child ends up being mine, I will continue to support the child and the mother. It only costs about £1000 per year to put him/her into a private school over there which has superior standards to most secondary schools over here.

I do understand that I won't be there and he/she wont really get my love but my kid at the moment lives only 6 miles away from me and he doesn't really get my love.

You have to forgive me for my shortcomings. I can't give love due to enviromental factors. You can only give as much love as what you were given and perhaps I wasn't given a lot. This doesn't mean in any way that my geans arn't fit to be passed on. I'm a superstar, afterall, remember =p

 

[lisa&alex]

i think this one will also get locked jim...

and no you are not a superstar. the fact that you have anotehr child who you claim not to father properly.. and then wish to bring another 'bas*ard' into the world just astounds me.. a child needs a mother and a father to grow and nuture properly..in a safe and loving environment - its mothers a prostitue for god sake.. what is worl is this child going to be brought into? bringing children 'planned' at that into the world where you know you definatly arnt gonna be in its life is just amazing.

 

[jim_01]

"its mothers a prostitue for god sake". That doesn't make her a bad person. Take your prejudice about prostitution and shove it.

You have no idea how tough in Africa it is, do you. A maid will earn £1.2 per day, so £25 per month. But if she wants to keep her job she will have to shag the boss, say once a month. If she doesn't she will get sacked and the only other jobs on offer - after up to 6 months of looking, that is - will be ones where you also have to shag the boss and do a 3 MONTH trial for NO money. Out of this £25, rent is £29, good food is £44. See how the figures DONT add up. So don't slag off women who earn a little on the side through prostitution, they are just struggling to survive. You don't know just how lucky you are.

My lady friend is an orphan, she is also an illegal immigrant. She has a fake ID so she can't get a proper job. Part of my initial payment was to give her £80 so she can go and bribe a corrupt dude to sort her out with a passport, ID and birth cert so that if it does work out between us, I can get her over here or if it doesn't she will be able to work in 16 years when my payments for the kid stop. To receive further payments from me, she has to scan all those docs and send them to me by email. Thats one of the tests that she's not a scammer.

Do you ladies still think I am making all this up? If so I would be the most creative troll in the history of the internet. Come on. I have better things to do with my time.

I do understand how it is a bit weird how I'm not particularly paternal but want more kids. But it is actually a very common phenomenon.
Everytime a guy has an extra-marital affair, it's the same mechanism going on. Guy wants to spread his genes but not use up his time and resources on nuturing the baby. The other guy who she's with can do that instead - the sucker. Yes, yes, we all use contraception so that there arn't too many of these kids being conceived, but it is the guys instinct that drives him to have the extra-marital affair. Always be at one with your instinct, it is very powerful and has seved us well for millenia.

Remember, you are women, you have to be very selective about who you choose to mate with as you are stuck with the consequences in terms of time and resourses for 16years or so and beautifully for the rest of your lives on an emotional level.

For SOME men, it's just a numbers game. Sure there are nice guys out there but how many of them have been totally faithful - I'd guess about 1/3.

Anyway, don't wanna flame war. Just try and think outside the box a little bit.

Good luck all with your kids.

 

[valentine]

and no you are not a superstar. the fact that you have anotehr child who you claim not to father properly.. and then wish to bring another 'bas*ard' into the world just astounds me.. a child needs a mother and a father to grow and nuture properly..in a safe and loving environment - its mothers a prostitue for god sake.. what is worl is this child going to be brought into? bringing children 'planned' at that into the world where you know you definatly arnt gonna be in its life is just amazing.

sorry lisaandalex but I disagree completly with some of your comments in bold above as I'm sure a lot of other unmarried mothers and single mothers would too!

Valentine xxx

 

[SarahH]

I'm not even going to waste my time arguing over this...

I have PM'd Minxy as she locked the last thread from this guy so hopefully she can do the same with this one!

 

[valentine]

i think this one will also get locked jim...

However, with my mod hat on and regardless of my personal feelings on any replies, I will have to lock this thread as more replies on this topic aren't helping anyone.

Valentine xxx

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

I agree with Valentine... so cos i'm a single mum My child won't grow and be nutured properly????

I can 100% assure you that Keeley is nutured and is a lovely little girl and wil no doubt grow to be a lovely women!