Well, in Spain women still drink all the way through their pregnancy and it doesn't have a higher rate of FAS than any other country.. Admittadly there are more alcoholic drinks on the market here that are mild in alcohol... and the selection of non alcoholic drinks is huge... I've got addicted to San Miguels non alcoholic beer with apple juice... its really yummy...
I've been eating soft cheese and pate too... They are supposed to be good for you according to my midwife. She was more worried about me eating spicy foods which I know are ok, because I ate them all the way through my pg with my daughter...
The do's and don'ts are unfair...they do make you panicky... they do make you worry and that can't be good for the baby either..