Some hsg questions

[kels1234]

I'm a nurse too without kiddos yet and we don't get to say why we want the holidays off, it's just a rotation so it's fair. What your company is doing to you is discrimination, you shouldn't have to work all the holidays because you don't have kids yet. You have a life and that counts for a lot too.

 

[Mrs CW]

I work in a hospital and I have to say they’re discrimating against you! Everyone is entitled to put in for leave over Xmas and the summer and for Xmas it goes to those who haven't had it in the last 2 years. The mothers used to put their foot down and say they had to have it but it was pointed out that everyone has families to get home too. I always offer to work late when I can and cover oncall as rota’d. I think its really cheeky they’re doing that and it needs raising! It’s my eldests birthday over Xmas and I’m working it this year. Gutted but it’s the way it is.

I hope you’re appointment goes well x

 

[Alexis2017]

We are open mon-fri but do 1 week on call 24/7 for emergency referals from thur-thur which is on a rota basis...so over this Christmas period it wasn't my turn to be on get I have been told to cover xmas on call rota. Now I did have someone say oh well maybe in future years when your off you will have a christmas off with your kids. Anyway It's very much discrimination in a lot of it. The other nurses get time off for appts and dentist and all the other stuff too. They get away early and not once does anyone ever offer me to get away early. I am fed up and just hoping I get pregnant soon!! Grrr To be told their child care issues arw the top priority over anything I have is unfair... also school holidays next year the family were going to book a villa for niece nephew and us and their parents and grandparents to go away. Now neice is in p1 so we need to go in school hols. I've had to say I can't go! I really think that's just crap. I want my name in hat for school holidays too ! We are a small team so not everyone can take what they want.

Small team or not, your manager really should be treating you all fairly. I really would be saying something. Like I said previously, those without children don't always want school holidays but they still might have nieces and nephews who do go to school. I don't think you should be feeling that you're bottom of the list of priorities all the time. How is your relationship with your manager? Does she have children?

So she thinks she is being fair but doesn't actually see it from my point of view. I get that peoples child care issues are important but they are paid 9-5 too so why make so mny allowances by getting me to pick up the short fall... they constanlty have days off when kids not well and get away early but that is the way the cookie crumbles.

Oh Ive been told several times not to take holidays in school holidays and been basically read the riot act by a fea of the 'mums' in work so basically not worth it if I went down that route.

I def wont be working here in near future if i ever had kids as when they hit school age I live too far away from work to be able to make that work so I put up with it for now. We will see

 

[MoominGirl]

We are open mon-fri but do 1 week on call 24/7 for emergency referals from thur-thur which is on a rota basis...so over this Christmas period it wasn't my turn to be on get I have been told to cover xmas on call rota. Now I did have someone say oh well maybe in future years when your off you will have a christmas off with your kids. Anyway It's very much discrimination in a lot of it. The other nurses get time off for appts and dentist and all the other stuff too. They get away early and not once does anyone ever offer me to get away early. I am fed up and just hoping I get pregnant soon!! Grrr To be told their child care issues arw the top priority over anything I have is unfair... also school holidays next year the family were going to book a villa for niece nephew and us and their parents and grandparents to go away. Now neice is in p1 so we need to go in school hols. I've had to say I can't go! I really think that's just crap. I want my name in hat for school holidays too ! We are a small team so not everyone can take what they want.

Small team or not, your manager really should be treating you all fairly. I really would be saying something. Like I said previously, those without children don't always want school holidays but they still might have nieces and nephews who do go to school. I don't think you should be feeling that you're bottom of the list of priorities all the time. How is your relationship with your manager? Does she have children?

So she thinks she is being fair but doesn't actually see it from my point of view. I get that peoples child care issues are important but they are paid 9-5 too so why make so mny allowances by getting me to pick up the short fall... they constanlty have days off when kids not well and get away early but that is the way the cookie crumbles.

Oh Ive been told several times not to take holidays in school holidays and been basically read the riot act by a fea of the 'mums' in work so basically not worth it if I went down that route.

I def wont be working here in near future if i ever had kids as when they hit school age I live too far away from work to be able to make that work so I put up with it for now. We will see

I really don't know how she can possibly think she's being fair! Are all the extra hours you work unpaid? If so, it's really out of order if your colleagues are leaving early and not being asked to make up the time. All this may just be the nudge you need to to start thinking about a change of job.

 

[Alexis2017]

We are open mon-fri but do 1 week on call 24/7 for emergency referals from thur-thur which is on a rota basis...so over this Christmas period it wasn't my turn to be on get I have been told to cover xmas on call rota. Now I did have someone say oh well maybe in future years when your off you will have a christmas off with your kids. Anyway It's very much discrimination in a lot of it. The other nurses get time off for appts and dentist and all the other stuff too. They get away early and not once does anyone ever offer me to get away early. I am fed up and just hoping I get pregnant soon!! Grrr To be told their child care issues arw the top priority over anything I have is unfair... also school holidays next year the family were going to book a villa for niece nephew and us and their parents and grandparents to go away. Now neice is in p1 so we need to go in school hols. I've had to say I can't go! I really think that's just crap. I want my name in hat for school holidays too ! We are a small team so not everyone can take what they want.

Small team or not, your manager really should be treating you all fairly. I really would be saying something. Like I said previously, those without children don't always want school holidays but they still might have nieces and nephews who do go to school. I don't think you should be feeling that you're bottom of the list of priorities all the time. How is your relationship with your manager? Does she have children?

So she thinks she is being fair but doesn't actually see it from my point of view. I get that peoples child care issues are important but they are paid 9-5 too so why make so mny allowances by getting me to pick up the short fall... they constanlty have days off when kids not well and get away early but that is the way the cookie crumbles.

Oh Ive been told several times not to take holidays in school holidays and been basically read the riot act by a fea of the 'mums' in work so basically not worth it if I went down that route.

I def wont be working here in near future if i ever had kids as when they hit school age I live too far away from work to be able to make that work so I put up with it for now. We will see

I really don't know how she can possibly think she's being fair! Are all the extra hours you work unpaid? If so, it's really out of order if your colleagues are leaving early and not being asked to make up the time. All this may just be the nudge you need to to start thinking about a change of job.

Nah Its mostly I work till my finish time but others leave early and then I get asked to do the work that could run late as I am best placed for that happening. I get told I can take over time but most times I dont want to work late...I've a baby to make !

 

[MoominGirl]

We are open mon-fri but do 1 week on call 24/7 for emergency referals from thur-thur which is on a rota basis...so over this Christmas period it wasn't my turn to be on get I have been told to cover xmas on call rota. Now I did have someone say oh well maybe in future years when your off you will have a christmas off with your kids. Anyway It's very much discrimination in a lot of it. The other nurses get time off for appts and dentist and all the other stuff too. They get away early and not once does anyone ever offer me to get away early. I am fed up and just hoping I get pregnant soon!! Grrr To be told their child care issues arw the top priority over anything I have is unfair... also school holidays next year the family were going to book a villa for niece nephew and us and their parents and grandparents to go away. Now neice is in p1 so we need to go in school hols. I've had to say I can't go! I really think that's just crap. I want my name in hat for school holidays too ! We are a small team so not everyone can take what they want.

Small team or not, your manager really should be treating you all fairly. I really would be saying something. Like I said previously, those without children don't always want school holidays but they still might have nieces and nephews who do go to school. I don't think you should be feeling that you're bottom of the list of priorities all the time. How is your relationship with your manager? Does she have children?

So she thinks she is being fair but doesn't actually see it from my point of view. I get that peoples child care issues are important but they are paid 9-5 too so why make so mny allowances by getting me to pick up the short fall... they constanlty have days off when kids not well and get away early but that is the way the cookie crumbles.

Oh Ive been told several times not to take holidays in school holidays and been basically read the riot act by a fea of the 'mums' in work so basically not worth it if I went down that route.

I def wont be working here in near future if i ever had kids as when they hit school age I live too far away from work to be able to make that work so I put up with it for now. We will see

I really don't know how she can possibly think she's being fair! Are all the extra hours you work unpaid? If so, it's really out of order if your colleagues are leaving early and not being asked to make up the time. All this may just be the nudge you need to to start thinking about a change of job.

Nah Its mostly I work till my finish time but others leave early and then I get asked to do the work that could run late as I am best placed for that happening. I get told I can take over time but most times I dont want to work late...I've a baby to make !

It's not as bad if they're paying you but you should be doing cos you want the extra cash not just cos everyone assumes you have nothing better to do. I don't think you're being treated fairly and I hope you can find a way to stop it driving you crazy!!

 

[Alexis2017]

Thanks everyone... it got worse today. I got told i was lucky not to have kids to leave if i get called out....then my boss granted hour changes so now everyone wrks till 4.30 bar me whos on to 5pm...was 2 of us left out of 8 doing a 5pm finish ...now only me.

 

[MoominGirl]

Thanks everyone... it got worse today. I got told i was lucky not to have kids to leave if i get called out....then my boss granted hour changes so now everyone wrks till 4.30 bar me whos on to 5pm...was 2 of us left out of 8 doing a 5pm finish ...now only me.

That is really not on. We all take turns of early starts and late finishes (except for a couple of part time staff), covering other sites (which none of us want to do due to the travel) and annual leave is first come first served. We have about 12 nurses in our team. Don't get me wrong, it's not perfect but it certainly sounds fairer than what you're going through. It's just going to make you feel resentful if you don't already. I know I would.

As far as the insensitive comments, I just remind myself that people really are just that ignorant and that they don't mean to be offensive. It's hard though.

 

[liz85]

I think that’s awful them treating you like that alexis . I think we should all be treated the same regardless. I was in the same position as you. Haven’t told anyone about my fertility issues but people just assumed I didn’t want kids and I would do shifts no one else wanted. It did change when I spoke up about having other family commitments and didn’t mind taking my turn when necessary. However only so many lates and nights you can do xxx

 

[liz85]

Can they really make you work later than others? So unfair!

 

[Alexis2017]

Yeah Its more the constant comments to remind me I don't have children hence why I have to do it. I feel like turning around and snapping back..hey I don't have children because am friggin here all the time lol...hmmmm maybe that's their ploy all along. I just keep a small part of hope aside that I can say one day soon that I am pregnant and then I can focus on my baby and look forward to mat leave. Right now it just seems like it might not happen but I will try for another year or 2 then I think after 3 I'd call it a day.

 

[MoominGirl]

Yeah Its more the constant comments to remind me I don't have children hence why I have to do it. I feel like turning around and snapping back..hey I don't have children because am friggin here all the time lol...hmmmm maybe that's their ploy all along. I just keep a small part of hope aside that I can say one day soon that I am pregnant and then I can focus on my baby and look forward to mat leave. Right now it just seems like it might not happen but I will try for another year or 2 then I think after 3 I'd call it a day.

It's tough. I'm focusing on our next steps as I just don't see this happening naturally for us anymore. I need to feel like we're moving forward as I know that this needs to have an ending at some point. I can't keep carrying on in limbo like this.