Some hsg questions

[Alexis2017]

Did anyone have to tell your work what you need the time off for? Not wanting to tell them but don't see how I do that.

Could you dtd after the test as I will be slap bang in middle of my fertile week

Its asking me to bring a pregnancy test from that morning with me. Does it have to be a fancy one or can it just be a hsg strip? Also can you not wear make up? Ahhh never leave house with no make up on

 

[xMillie]

I don't work so I didn't have to worry about that but could you just tell them you have a doctors/hospital appointment? They shouldn't really ask or need to know what it's for.

I didn't feel like dtd straight after and I think they advise you to not dtd until any discharge/spotting has stopped

I had to take a urine sample with me maybe they will ask for that instead?

And you can wear makeup, don't panic lol!


Have you had a date through yet? xx

 

[Frankinstein12]

I’ll be having this done in the new year too
I let work know about my fertility issues and they’re supportive but it’s entirely up to you

I’ve heard you’ll be in a bit of pain and discomfort after it
scared!
X

 

[xMillie]

I’ll be having this done in the new year too
I let work know about my fertility issues and they’re supportive but it’s entirely up to you

I’ve heard you’ll be in a bit of pain and discomfort after it
scared!
X

It was no worse than painful period cramps for me afterwards, it really wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and it's well worth it to get problems ruled out and have a 'clear out' xx

 

[MoominGirl]

I have been honest with my manager about our situation but that was totally my choice and it has made getting time for appointments so much easier. If you don't want to do that though, you shouldn't have to so I would just say I had a hospital appointment. They shouldn't need to know more than that. If I recall correctly, the whole thing took about an hour just to give you an idea and by that I mean from the point I parked my car to the point I got back in it not just the test.

As Millie says, I was advised not to dtd straight after and until the spotting had stopped. I did do as I was told but I think I could have done it if I'd decided not to listen haha! I really had very little discomfort after and went straight back to work. Felt like I'd wet myself cos of the dye but that was it. There was a bit of cramping during the procedure but I've honestly had period cramps that have been worse. Everyone is different though. I think I would sum it up by saying it wasn't the most pleasant procedure but if you told me I needed to have another one tomorrow, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Hope that makes sense.

I wasn't asked to do a pregnancy test but I was asked to phone them on CD1 and I think they would only book me in up to CD10. Think I just had to sign a form confirming.

They never said anything to me about make up.

Hope all that helps. Good luck.

 

[Alexis2017]

I have been honest with my manager about our situation but that was totally my choice and it has made getting time for appointments so much easier. If you don't want to do that though, you shouldn't have to so I would just say I had a hospital appointment. They shouldn't need to know more than that. If I recall correctly, the whole thing took about an hour just to give you an idea and by that I mean from the point I parked my car to the point I got back in it not just the test.

As Millie says, I was advised not to dtd straight after and until the spotting had stopped. I did do as I was told but I think I could have done it if I'd decided not to listen haha! I really had very little discomfort after and went straight back to work. Felt like I'd wet myself cos of the dye but that was it. There was a bit of cramping during the procedure but I've honestly had period cramps that have been worse. Everyone is different though. I think I would sum it up by saying it wasn't the most pleasant procedure but if you told me I needed to have another one tomorrow, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Hope that makes sense.

I wasn't asked to do a pregnancy test but I was asked to phone them on CD1 and I think they would only book me in up to CD10. Think I just had to sign a form confirming.

They never said anything to me about make up.

Hope all that helps. Good luck.

I will be around cd#14 - it said on my wee leaflet it can be done at any time but preferably cd#1-cd#10. ? It also says Ive to get someone to take me home after it? I was going to just take whole day off as sick or whatever as my work is on my feet all day and alot of it you need to concentrate alot...eg collecting stem cells on wee 8kg babies.

 

[Alexis2017]

I don't work so I didn't have to worry about that but could you just tell them you have a doctors/hospital appointment? They shouldn't really ask or need to know what it's for.

I didn't feel like dtd straight after and I think they advise you to not dtd until any discharge/spotting has stopped

I had to take a urine sample with me maybe they will ask for that instead?

And you can wear makeup, don't panic lol!


Have you had a date through yet? xx

5th Jan ! And yay I can wear make up? Fewww!

 

[Alexis2017]

I’ll be having this done in the new year too
I let work know about my fertility issues and they’re supportive but it’s entirely up to you

I’ve heard you’ll be in a bit of pain and discomfort after it
scared!
X

I want to tell my work but also dont as its a very small team with it struggling due to mat leave and pregnancies at our Edinburgh site. I feel a bit worried telling them as I know they won't want me to get pregnant any time soon or the shit will hit the fan...I feel a bit vulnerable too if they know ...I am not very good at explaining what I feel about it all

 

[MoominGirl]

I have been honest with my manager about our situation but that was totally my choice and it has made getting time for appointments so much easier. If you don't want to do that though, you shouldn't have to so I would just say I had a hospital appointment. They shouldn't need to know more than that. If I recall correctly, the whole thing took about an hour just to give you an idea and by that I mean from the point I parked my car to the point I got back in it not just the test.

As Millie says, I was advised not to dtd straight after and until the spotting had stopped. I did do as I was told but I think I could have done it if I'd decided not to listen haha! I really had very little discomfort after and went straight back to work. Felt like I'd wet myself cos of the dye but that was it. There was a bit of cramping during the procedure but I've honestly had period cramps that have been worse. Everyone is different though. I think I would sum it up by saying it wasn't the most pleasant procedure but if you told me I needed to have another one tomorrow, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Hope that makes sense.

I wasn't asked to do a pregnancy test but I was asked to phone them on CD1 and I think they would only book me in up to CD10. Think I just had to sign a form confirming.

They never said anything to me about make up.

Hope all that helps. Good luck.

I will be around cd#14 - it said on my wee leaflet it can be done at any time but preferably cd#1-cd#10. ? It also says Ive to get someone to take me home after it? I was going to just take whole day off as sick or whatever as my work is on my feet all day and alot of it you need to concentrate alot...eg collecting stem cells on wee 8kg babies.

I drove back to work straight after it. That was an hour's drive as I don't work in the same hospital as my treatment as we live in a different county. OH offered to come but I said not to bother and I'm glad he didn't take the time off for me as I would have felt it was wasted. I had a small amount of spotting after but I was right at the end of my period so it could have been caused by either. I work in a cancer unit so I'd imagine there would be a lot of similarity in our job roles in terms of physical/mental demands but I can honestly say I've felt worse at work on CD1. I'd really prepared myself for a traumatic experience. Obviously everyone is different and going off sick may be the way to avoid any awkward questions.

 

[Alexis2017]

I have been honest with my manager about our situation but that was totally my choice and it has made getting time for appointments so much easier. If you don't want to do that though, you shouldn't have to so I would just say I had a hospital appointment. They shouldn't need to know more than that. If I recall correctly, the whole thing took about an hour just to give you an idea and by that I mean from the point I parked my car to the point I got back in it not just the test.

As Millie says, I was advised not to dtd straight after and until the spotting had stopped. I did do as I was told but I think I could have done it if I'd decided not to listen haha! I really had very little discomfort after and went straight back to work. Felt like I'd wet myself cos of the dye but that was it. There was a bit of cramping during the procedure but I've honestly had period cramps that have been worse. Everyone is different though. I think I would sum it up by saying it wasn't the most pleasant procedure but if you told me I needed to have another one tomorrow, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Hope that makes sense.

I wasn't asked to do a pregnancy test but I was asked to phone them on CD1 and I think they would only book me in up to CD10. Think I just had to sign a form confirming.

They never said anything to me about make up.

Hope all that helps. Good luck.

I will be around cd#14 - it said on my wee leaflet it can be done at any time but preferably cd#1-cd#10. ? It also says Ive to get someone to take me home after it? I was going to just take whole day off as sick or whatever as my work is on my feet all day and alot of it you need to concentrate alot...eg collecting stem cells on wee 8kg babies.

I drove back to work straight after it. That was an hour's drive as I don't work in the same hospital as my treatment as we live in a different county. OH offered to come but I said not to bother and I'm glad he didn't take the time off for me as I would have felt it was wasted. I had a small amount of spotting after but I was right at the end of my period so it could have been caused by either. I work in a cancer unit so I'd imagine there would be a lot of similarity in our job roles in terms of physical/mental demands but I can honestly say I've felt worse at work on CD1. I'd really prepared myself for a traumatic experience. Obviously everyone is different and going off sick may be the way to avoid any awkward questions.

I just feel like I dont want to be in work on that day. I am a bit emotional about it all and I know everyone will ask me questions when I get back. I will take the day off if work will let me if not I guess I will just face the music when I get back Dreading going in to work today as need to ask for the time off for it and really dont want ro discuss it with my boss.

 

[Sunflower1]

You are under absolutely no obligation to disclose sensitive medical information to your workplace! tell them you have a hospital appointment and it's rather sensitive and personal so you won't give details. I don't even think it's legal for them to press you for details - it's confidential stuff between you and your doctor!!!! It could be traumatising telling non medical people. I don't think they'll push - for all they know it's some women's issue or something embarrassing. You are not under pressure to share your medical issues.

 

[Alexis2017]

I never had to say what it was for and she is giving me the day off to go. I get discriminated against in work as I am only person with no kids. I am always asked to work late amd do over time and cant take any holidays in summer time due to me' stopping a mother spending time with their child' I always get told I dont have the same responsibility so I get left to clear up /stay back late so everyone can pick up their kids. It feels horrible and I know I am more sensitive due to my infertility but it still stands regardless. Does anyone else have this problem ? We went in to office when I asked for time off for orocedure a d I would habe told her what it was for except 5 mins before I was being told to work late next week as I have no children amd I am 'best placed ' to do so. I then couldn't face telling her...am I just being hormonal and sensitive?

 

[Pidgeridoo]

I never had to say what it was for and she is giving me the day off to go. I get discriminated against in work as I am only person with no kids. I am always asked to work late amd do over time and cant take any holidays in summer time due to me' stopping a mother spending time with their child' I always get told I dont have the same responsibility so I get left to clear up /stay back late so everyone can pick up their kids. It feels horrible and I know I am more sensitive due to my infertility but it still stands regardless. Does anyone else have this problem ? We went in to office when I asked for time off for orocedure a d I would habe told her what it was for except 5 mins before I was being told to work late next week as I have no children amd I am 'best placed ' to do so. I then couldn't face telling her...am I just being hormonal and sensitive?

Yes I do agree that childless people are expected to do more when it comes to work! At my job we only get Christmas day and boxing day off so of course nearly everybody wants to book the remainder of the week off, but first preferance always goes to the ones who have kids! I do agree that Christmas is a time for children, but it doesn't lessen the fact that I or my other childless workmates also want to spend Christmas with our families just as much as the girls who do have kids! Yet every year we're the ones stuck in work while they are off! Also when some of the girls I work with feel like a sickie, they play the oh my child is sick card (this has happeed on several occassions when I can see from snapchat/fb that their child is quite obviously not ill) and so they don't get any repercussions for being off! I find it very frustrating but I guess I'm more sensitive to it too due to our struggle to conceive!

 

[Alexis2017]

Yes pidge the my child is sick card is played so much in my work...last week a girl took 3 days off in a row then went away on holiday... grrrr yeah in my work ppl think I dont understand yet I think its really them who have a problem with understanding!

 

[Pidgeridoo]

Yes and even though their child is "sick" and they couldn't possibly leave thm to go to work they are more than happy to go out for a few drinks that night lol I feel people with kids seem to think that since we don't have kids we don't have anything else outside of work! I'm getting concerned about what to say to my manager once I start needing more time off for appointments/treatment! I don't think I could face telling people, I don't want the pity I think I would probably start crying in the middle of her office lol

 

[Sunflower1]

I never had to say what it was for and she is giving me the day off to go. I get discriminated against in work as I am only person with no kids. I am always asked to work late amd do over time and cant take any holidays in summer time due to me' stopping a mother spending time with their child' I always get told I dont have the same responsibility so I get left to clear up /stay back late so everyone can pick up their kids. It feels horrible and I know I am more sensitive due to my infertility but it still stands regardless. Does anyone else have this problem ? We went in to office when I asked for time off for orocedure a d I would habe told her what it was for except 5 mins before I was being told to work late next week as I have no children amd I am 'best placed ' to do so. I then couldn't face telling her...am I just being hormonal and sensitive?

I think you are being treated appallingly. Why should you be supporting other people to have families!!??? I'm glad you didn't tell her. This 'you have no children therefore no life' attitude is horrific - I think they are exploiting you. It sounds really dodgey. If it were me I would find it very upsetting. They are sooo insensitive - 'best placed'? You are trying to start a family and they are overworking you. I'd look for another job.

 

[Alexis2017]

I never had to say what it was for and she is giving me the day off to go. I get discriminated against in work as I am only person with no kids. I am always asked to work late amd do over time and cant take any holidays in summer time due to me' stopping a mother spending time with their child' I always get told I dont have the same responsibility so I get left to clear up /stay back late so everyone can pick up their kids. It feels horrible and I know I am more sensitive due to my infertility but it still stands regardless. Does anyone else have this problem ? We went in to office when I asked for time off for orocedure a d I would habe told her what it was for except 5 mins before I was being told to work late next week as I have no children amd I am 'best placed ' to do so. I then couldn't face telling her...am I just being hormonal and sensitive?

I think you are being treated appallingly. Why should you be supporting other people to have families!!??? I'm glad you didn't tell her. This 'you have no children therefore no life' attitude is horrific - I think they are exploiting you. It sounds really dodgey. If it were me I would find it very upsetting. They are sooo insensitive - 'best placed'? You are trying to start a family and they are overworking you. I'd look for another job.

Yeah I feel so shit about it. They constantly highlight it to me. Its all pregnancy talk as I said 3 ppl on mat leave with 2nd babies and 1 will go on mat leave in March...then mat keave cover got pregnant and shes now off sick. They look at it as I am able to just do all tbe crap cos Ive no children. I wish in a way I could tell them as maybe they woukdnt be so insensitive like you say! I also know if I ever get pregnant...and happens soon they will be up shit creek so I feel aware of that and feel worried to tell them we will be trying fertility treatment

 

[MoominGirl]

I really think you're being treated badly Alexis. I only suggested telling your manager because it really has helped me knowing that I can ask for time off and get it without any issues so it's one less thing to worry about. I realise how lucky I am that she's been so supportive and if I'm honest, I don't think I'd have been comfortable telling anyone else that I've ever worked for. As far as people asking questions when you get back, I've found that people generally mean well but just a simple 'I had an appointment' doesn't tend to encourage any more questions. Anyone who asks anyway is just rude!!

I know I'm definitely more sensitive to 'family issues' since we started struggling and I do find it varies depending on the time of the month. I'm currently covering snow days, sick children and Christmas plays I have felt better about it since I've been having time off for appointments etc. Feels a bit fairer haha!!

Although the majority of my colleagues have children, there's a big age range so I find that the staying late etc doesn't always fall to me. I also don't give a crap if it's school holidays. If I want to book time off then I will. I don't generally want time off in the school holidays as everything is overpriced and busy but if I have something that I want to do then I'll request it. Also with Christmas, I have requested additional leave (more than once). I'm not from the local area so I have one of the longest journeys at Christmas time so I play that card heavily haha.

If it was me, I would be making sure was a bit more 'busy'. If I have a bad run of staying late then I make a point of coming in the next day and say I really can't stay tonight for whatever reason. Usually someone then steps up when they wouldn't have if it got to the end of the shift before realising someone had to stay.

Alexis, it's not clear whether you're just getting a rubbish rota or whether you're putting in a significant amount of unpaid time. Neither is acceptable but I'd be particularly pissed if it was the second option!! I'm sorry life is so shit at the moment

 

[Alexis2017]

We are open mon-fri but do 1 week on call 24/7 for emergency referals from thur-thur which is on a rota basis...so over this Christmas period it wasn't my turn to be on get I have been told to cover xmas on call rota. Now I did have someone say oh well maybe in future years when your off you will have a christmas off with your kids. Anyway It's very much discrimination in a lot of it. The other nurses get time off for appts and dentist and all the other stuff too. They get away early and not once does anyone ever offer me to get away early. I am fed up and just hoping I get pregnant soon!! Grrr To be told their child care issues arw the top priority over anything I have is unfair... also school holidays next year the family were going to book a villa for niece nephew and us and their parents and grandparents to go away. Now neice is in p1 so we need to go in school hols. I've had to say I can't go! I really think that's just crap. I want my name in hat for school holidays too ! We are a small team so not everyone can take what they want.

 

[MoominGirl]

We are open mon-fri but do 1 week on call 24/7 for emergency referals from thur-thur which is on a rota basis...so over this Christmas period it wasn't my turn to be on get I have been told to cover xmas on call rota. Now I did have someone say oh well maybe in future years when your off you will have a christmas off with your kids. Anyway It's very much discrimination in a lot of it. The other nurses get time off for appts and dentist and all the other stuff too. They get away early and not once does anyone ever offer me to get away early. I am fed up and just hoping I get pregnant soon!! Grrr To be told their child care issues arw the top priority over anything I have is unfair... also school holidays next year the family were going to book a villa for niece nephew and us and their parents and grandparents to go away. Now neice is in p1 so we need to go in school hols. I've had to say I can't go! I really think that's just crap. I want my name in hat for school holidays too ! We are a small team so not everyone can take what they want.

Small team or not, your manager really should be treating you all fairly. I really would be saying something. Like I said previously, those without children don't always want school holidays but they still might have nieces and nephews who do go to school. I don't think you should be feeling that you're bottom of the list of priorities all the time. How is your relationship with your manager? Does she have children?