so confused - update :-O

[Kimbo]

as most of you already know, ive broken up with shane but now i dont know whether ive done the right thing or not.

i had a dream a couple of night ago that me and shane were in town and he just said to me - lets go and get married right now

so we went to a registry office and got married there and then.

thing is, since then ive been feeling really lonely..
ive been reading about people who sit there with their partners feeling the baby kick and i feel so lonely because i know im not gonna have this anymore.

all of a sudden, i also feel like i wanna get married, get a house, etc etc

could it just be hormones??

 

[mummykay]

read ur post in off topic about breakin it off with him and ul realise uv done whats best!!!

baby doesnt need someone who sends pics of themselves cuttin their wrists etc for attention as a father, what they need is a mum who is always there for em and doesnt get bullied into things, which is what I would imagine his parents will do to u!!!

I had the parents from hell, I ditched them and started my own family and it was the best thing I ever did!!

So long as uv got the support, u and baby will be fine!! will u be living with ur parents?

 

[Kimbo]

thanks kay

yeah ill be living at home with my mum and step dad.
its not so much shane that i want back, but the closeness i should be sharing with someone right now especialy being pregnant.

i know ive got a brilliant family and friends, grrrrrrrrr im just being silly

 

[mummykay]

i know hun, but when ur holdin babba everythin else will fade away!

have u thought about Shane havin access etc? u never know, mths/yrs down the line he might have grown up and maybe u could make a go of it? but for now ur priority is urself and LO

hope i havent waffled

 

[Kimbo]

hope i havent waffled

no you haven't. your talking sense

 

[leckershell]

I understand what you're saying.. although Nat is one of those boyfriends who's into talking to the bump and stuff, I'd feel a bit lonely if he wasn't around. I've felt lonely even though he has been around, as we can't be as close as we used to be as I'm uncomfortable a lot of the time, and just, boys don't understand anyway what it feels like so I feel a bit lonely sometimes that he doesn't quite understand what I'm feeling. I know there are other girls on here with boyfriend's who won't even go near their bump or touch it at all.
You've def done the right thing though - from the breakup post you posted that night when Shane was talking about his wrists, and his mom going all stirfry, you're definately best on your own.
Try and get more involved with your bump maybe, do some baby shopping, talk to it in the bath (even if you feel silly), stroke it, take pictures every week of your growing bump, write a diary etc - then you'll start to feel more like a team together (sorry if that sounds weird??!!) and you'll realise that you can be happy as a 2-some without a boy.

Hope that made some sort of sense and didn't just sound odd.

m

 

[Kimbo]

thanks everyone

 

[NooNoo]

thanks kay

yeah ill be living at home with my mum and step dad.
its not so much shane that i want back, but the closeness i should be sharing with someone right now especialy being pregnant.

i know ive got a brilliant family and friends, grrrrrrrrr im just being silly

just from that quote there is enough reason to stay clear away... i know its not easy but in my opinion it works the same way as...when your bored you eat food..if you get me

Im not comparing your relationship with food...but i think ul know what i mean...like everyone has said concentrate on you and your LO and be happy with yourself before you get back into another relationship

 

[Babylicious]

you've definately done the right thing hunny, your young, pretty and soon gonna be a mommy, plus Mr right might not be far away

 

[BabyDreams]

Kimbo,
First of all...
Now the encouragement: You ARE doing the right thing. You are. And from what you've posted about your mom previously, she seems like she's going to be there for you. As long as you realize you are not alone, it's ok to sometimes FEEL lonely....there's a difference.

Having Shane back just to have someone there would bring up it's own set of problems. And you or your LO don't need that. I came up in a househould where there parents stayed together for the sake of the kids, and I remember begging my mother more than once to please get a divorce! That's not always the right answer...sometimes you have to split up for the sake of the kids.

I agree with Leckershell too about keeping a pregnancy diary and doing creative/fun things so you'll feel more connected with your bump! You're not alone, darling...your baby's right there!

 

[Kimbo]

awwwwww thanks everyone uve made me feel better

 

[Zobo]

ohhhh kimbers....

i agree with all the girls, youve totally done the right thing... remember how you kept telling me you felt suffocated, and you just didnt seem happy at all with him? well your only gunna be the same again! and you dont need it....

You know your mum and family and friends are there for you!
and i live 5 minutes away from you and you know im here whenever you like!!!

when babies here, youll be fine... promise!!!!!
Luv ya loads me lil chum!!

 

[Kimbo]

hello zobo didnt see u there!!
its not shane i want, its the closeness i should be having with someone right now!!

i read up on what dreaming about weddings means, and apparently it symbolises a huge change thats about to happen... obviously the baby!

 

[pilkers]

Kimbo

I missed your off topic post but I can see you've been through a lot. Sending you lots of hugs

Sounds like you've done the right thing babe. If you ever need to chat and vent off a bit I'll always listen. x

 

[Zobo]

ahhhhhhhhhhhhh getcha...... im sure youll be fine hunni!!! PROMISE!!!!

im off now, ill text you in the morning with my result!!!

(bet its a No no)

 

[Kimbo]

good luck ill be waiting for the text like i do every morning when u say ur gonna text haha

speak to u tomorrow, and dont forget to tell YOUR shane that your busy on 1st september

 

[Kimbo]

pilkers ive pm'd you

 

[pilkers]

gotcha! ta x

 

[Kimbo]

update:

i had a dream that he died last night!
how weird is that
dreaming that i married him and then dreaming that he died!

 

[Urchin]

Hey Kimbo

I can only repeat what the others said, if you got back with him now just for the sake of having someone around you regret it later, and then if you break it off again imagine what him mom will do

Stay Away!

Hope you are OK