sleep - help!

[purple13]

connor's been pretty much sleeping through the night (midnight to 6am) for about the last week... the problem is, he'll only sleep when he's in bed with us!

we've been co-sleeping for the last few weeks as he was previously awake and eating all night, so the only way i could get any rest was to have him next to me latched on whilst i dozed.

now he's waking a couple of times during the night, having a couple of sucks, then falling back to sleep. but every time i try and put him in the crib he wakes right up and starts crying.

his mattress is elevated cos he doesn't like lying down flat; he 'sleeps' on a cloth that i've had stuffed down my top so it smells like me; i put a hot water bottle on his bed first so that its nice and warm for him, and there's a little hanging star on the crib rail that i put lavender oil on.

but no matter how fast asleep he is when we put him down, he always wakes up. if i switch his mobile on, it just stimulates him even more...

any suggestions on how i can get him to stay in his crib?? i miss my cuddles with OH!!!

xx

 

[Emma58]

I'm having the same problem with Sam he hates his Moses basket at night but will gladly sleep in it during the day
I miss cuddles with my OH

 

[josiegirl]

Oh my gosh, I went through it too, I finally got my LO to sleep in the crib two weeks ago.
I don't like cry it out, so I tried a book that's sort of in between cry it out and co-sleeping. You put them in the crib tired but awake at bedtime and then when/if they cry you go in, whisper to them, rub their back etc. When they stop crying then leave the room. When they start again go back in three mins later. Repeat, repeat, repeat. The first night I was going in and out for two hours but now in the second week I lay her down and she rolls over and goes to sleep! I don't know how old your LO is though, mine was five months and some when I did this-if I tried it when she was younger she would have been easily able to keep it up all night. I think if you find a method that you feel safe and confident with, your LO will follow your example-it's never easy! I feel for you!

 

[purple13]

thanks josie connor's not quite 2 months so looks like OH may well be cuddle-negative for some time to come!!

 

[Marijana FC]

I am not sure really what to suggest since we co-slept with danica until she was 3-4 months and never had any problems with getting her used to the cot. Maybe your little one isn't ready to sleep away from you? Or maybe this is just me being too 'hippy'
I know that we moved Danica to her cot when I felt she was ready for it. We tried her with day time naps first and as I said never had any problems. Maybe it was because the cot was right next to my side of the bed so it didn't maybe feel as if we didn't sleep together? Or she just grew out of that need to be close to me in the night? Not sure really.
Sorry that I am not of much help

 

[Redshoes]

Get a cot, take the side off it, push it up to your bed, have him sleep in his cot then on a night but so you can easily touch and reassure him you're close, that will help give him confidence in you're not leaving him alone and he can sleep without being beside/on you

That's my suggestion, personally I co-slept with Isaac until he was 5months and he went to his cot fine then but he has nights where he wakes frequently and needs reassurence still, but I'm not someone who will consider controlled crying, if it worked I would but I hear so much of the 'hard work' of it all going out the window when LO's ill or teething etc

Very best wishes, it is hard when they won't settle by themselves I know, but he is still small, he will get better