sick of

[Suzie and Faith]

being told a homebirth is stupid.
The amount of people who feel they have the right to lecture me about it is driving me nuts, from my mum to my sister to my friend to complete strangers!
The latest thing is how dangerous it is and how i'm putting my baby at risk and how 'you'll never be able to forgive yourself if something goes wrong'

arggggg.
I would never tell someone how or where to give birth.
It's really upset me.

I'm not causing my baby any harm.

 

[Babylicious]

ignore them . it's your choice

 

[bowmanzoo]

Hi

I totally agree with Em in that you should go with whatever you are happy with. Yes I'd agree that there is an ellement of risk with a home birth such as if the baby goes into distress then you'd have to be transported to hospital before getting baby out where as if you were already in hospital then it would be much quicker to get baby out. However I've had one emergency section because baby went into distress and if I had a choice then I would have a home birth because I personally think you're more relaxed at home.

 

[poppy160]

How supportive of them if home births were really that stupid and dangerous you wouldn't be allowed to have one. Isn't there like, 2 midwives present at a homebirth? If anything I think it's really brave!
It's a nice thought giving birth in familiar surroundings..I wish I could do it!

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

What did mothers for millions of years do before there where hospitals
i think some how they mananged ok
the human race is still hear isnt it.
Jesus was born in a stable no midwife no doctor did Mary have gas and air?

Id love to have a home birth but my living accomadation just are not good enough for it. it love to say id be hardly enough to do it hear but im to much of a wuss

Good on you for going ahead with home birth
You do what you want and ignore them

 

[Sophie1102]

Babybee - If you really want one and your midwife is happy for you to do it them go for it, I had my second at home and it was better than the hospital birth, I had the same midwives through out so there is less chance of there being a rush if more help is needed as they are fully aware of everything that is happening to YOU and not having to deal with other patients, not hand overs for the 'next shift'.

You will have your own surroundings, you can have as many people there as you want and your OH doesn't have to go home when it's all done.

Should anything happen and you need to get to hospital, the midwives will do it in plenty of time and paramedics can actually do C Sections on board if you really really need one, but the chances of you needing it are slim, ther more relaxed you are the morse relaxed baby is, which helps in the easier delivery.

Geordie Lass - What makes you think your accomodation isn't good enough for a home birth?

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Geordie Lass - What makes you think your accomodation isn't good enough for a home birth?

I dont live in a house I live at James Dads place
i live in the shed/granny annexe across the garden from the main house I have a bedroom and a shower room but thats it
I make food across at the main house
As much as James Dad and step mum are nice i dont want them coming over to hae a look see and defenetly not his weird strange step brother

I guess i could give birth on the bed but its a tiny bit to small
i dont know where me the baby, James, my Mam and a midwife would fit

 

[Sherlock]

I'm with everyone else and what Sophie and geordie lass say are some very valid points.

Really, its not unsafe and its not insane and you are not putting your baby at risk. You've had a good pregnancy and providing all goes well between now and labour and your MW is supporting you then go for it



And yes, 2 MW's do attend the latter stages and you get them all to yourself. No one running out the door into help someone else and then back again.

I'm just not telling people that we plan a homebirth. I've told those that matter, my parents and a few friends but for everyone else, I'm not worrying. I think most people are assuming I'm having a hospital birth and I'm not correcting them

 

[Tillytots]

Jesus was born in a stable no midwife no doctor did Mary have gas and air?

oh hun that really made me giggle

I know what you mean about homebirth and being frowned upon. I get it all the time too. With every birth there is a 'risk' no matter if you're at home, hospital or Mars. Things happen to babies in hospital where there is every piece of technology going...
Human error can make things happen to babies. We could argue that most types of pain relief carry risks too. But we dont feel the need to cuss anyone who opts for pain relief do we?

Research actually show that providing mother & baby remain healthy during pregnancy then a homebirth carries no more risk than a hospital birth. I've read and read up on it.

Peoples main arguement is that of the 'emergency c-section' What should happen if you need one? Well it depends on how far away you live from the hospital. It takes at least 30 mins for docs/surgeons to prepare for a c-section in hospital so if you're living less than 30 mins away from your hospital it makes no odds as the hospital would be ready for you upon your arrival. They'd know you were coming and there would be no time lost.

Even if its your first baby its still no greater risk than if it was your 5th. Every birth is different, every baby is individual. Baby number 4 may decicde to get stuck after 3 previous straightforward births. At least with baby number 1 things progress much slower than subsequent births so if things are going wrong they tend to do so slowly giving midwife more time to make decisions.

You can change your mind at the last minute and opt to go to hospital. You cant start off in hospital and decide you want to go home and give birth! You get one to one care at home, with 2 midwives for the latter stages and from what I gather in some hospitals you're lucky to have someone present for the whole entirety of your labour.

It would be so nice to have peoples support in our decisions of where to give birth. We as a society have been scared into believing that giving birth is a dangerous feat and a medical issue and its not!! Its natural. Yes things can go wrong but they can anywhere. Also from what I can work out a tense and frightened mother can infact have a bad effect on birth and can lead to baby being distressed?? So isnt it a good idea that the Mummy is a cool and calm as possible?

Im planning on giving birth at home and you know something, if I had a hedge or big trees and my garden was secluded I'd be popping my bubs out in the back garden in my birthing pool

 

[muppetmummy]

If your midwife thought you were at risk of any complications she would say so and try and talk you out of the home birth. If anything is going to go wrong during labour there are normally warning signs anyway and the midwife would pick up on it and make arrangements to transfer you to hospital at the first sign of a problem. I really don't think homebirths are dangerous, if you feel relaxed in a familiar environment you will find it easier to cope with the pain

 

[Suzie and Faith]

Thanks you guys I feel better now and you've made me laugh - the Mary and Jesus thing - good point - if it's good enough for her....

And the back garden thing, i did actually say to my mum that if she wouldn't let me use the front room i'd use the garden. I wasn't joking. Lol.

I know all the facts and figures and the hospital is literally 5 minutes from my house, less than a mile. I can walk it in less than 10 mins! so i know i'm near enough not to worry.

I just wish other people would see it as my choice and leave me alone!

Thanks again people xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[tots hope]

A friend of a friend gave birth in a teepee (as in those indian tents) in a field in yorkshire somewhere!!!! That is odd but its still her choice.

Do what is best for you and baby and forget what others say x x x