Sick of asking

[CarlyD]

What comes next after you give up asking OH to help, or to do the things he promised? I wouldn't mind but he KEPT saying "don't do that, I'll do that tomorrow" so I leave these little things and then he doesn't do them and they build up into a massive chore! I wouldn't care so much of he was just up front and didn't say he was gonna do it when he wasn't. Specifically the washing up that's been sitting there for 2 or 3 days now cos everytime I go to do it he's like "no I'm going to do that tonight after dinner/in the morning" so I'm like ok it's annoying the kitchen is a filthy state but I won't turn down a bit of help. Cool. This is also true for hoovering the carpets and cleaning up the tip of a garden.

Well he put off everything until today and it started well, he did the 8am feed and change.. Me and baby carried on napping and just got woken up and told he was going to the cinema with his little brother. What chores had he done in that 3 hour nap time? None!

I've got a friend coming over later so obviously I'll end up doing it all cos I'm ashamed of the way the house looks. But I'm sooo mad at him! He's so full of excuses as well, today's one is "I had a migrane" - so why go to the cinema?? Like that'll help it? Such bullshit..

I guess this is the price I pay for getting some sleep. I was also planning on having a shower today as I embarrassingly go days without having one, being alone with the baby so much and having to cook OH dinner when he gets home from work, usually followed by "I'm tired I'm going to bed now". My hair is greasy as fcuk! But nope, as him and his brother have decided to go to the cinema the bathroom is now occupied ad as soon as they're both done in there they're gonna be out the door! I feel so disgusting and I've gotto have company over like this?

You know I'm tempted to text her and say not to come. I'll feel bad as it's such late notice and she probably doesn't have any other plans for her bank holiday but I just feel awful and there is so much to do. Is that mean? At least OH might feel bad for how he's behaved if he realises I've had to cancel the one thing I had planned today cos of him. Argh!! Why are men so fricking useless?!

 

[CarlyD]

Oh also! We have about £70 in our bank account. That's it. Well as he's little brother is 15 we've obviously gotta pay for this cinema trip. Just got the email confirmation come up on my phone that he's booked 2 adult tickets, £22... It seems so painfully obvious to be that we're short on money so let's make sure we at least buy the teenager a teen ticket?!!why do I need to tell him to buy the appropriate ticket for his age and our financial situation?? I literally don't wanna talk to him for the rest of today

 

[becciboo26]

Honey I feel your pain, luckily my oh is fantastic and I still only manage a bath every 3 days! Maybe your friend will enjoy some cuddle time with lo for you to have a shower? I'm sure she wouldn't mind I've used a lot of visit time this way and they were only to happy to help Xx

 

[BevG]

i agree hun, Alyssa is pretty good so i clean while she naps and oh just works n cooks tea if i ask him to lol. they are all useless. were broke too and i go days without bathing as im too tired to do it usually when i have the opportunity i usually nap or go to bed early lol. ive got college work to do and i put it off and clean instead. either have him napping near you so you can hear him and have a nice bath or nip in the shower while your friend holds him, thats what friends are for. as for the mess leave it and just blame your oh if your friend asks then you can moan about men lol

 

[leannesxb]

Hun I have had exactly the same and thought it was just my OH as everyone else around me seemed to have it good with their ohs. I know my brother is fab with his LOs and after a full days work still does the cooking, bathes both babies and does night feeds. I gave my OH back his engagement ring the other day and told him I didn't want it back till he decided to be the father and partner he promised he would be. He has done no night feeds, cooked once since I had AJ (I even cooked the day after coming out of hospital after having a nasty c-section) and always says to me oh I'll do this and that whenever I mention things but never does. I told him I felt like a single parent so might as well be and he could move out. This baby was the thing meant to cement us as a family joining our 2 sides (from previous relationships) not the thing to tear us apart. x

 

[don-don]

Hey,
I take Lo up to the bath room with me when Im having a shower/bath. When he was tiny he was just in his bouncer. Now he just watches and plays with a few toys. And again when I'm getting dressed doing makeup etc, hes in the bed room with me playing, (or trying to chase the cat lol). When he was little I used put him in his bouncer when getting dressed (in the same room as me).xxxxx

 

[hellywelly]

E goes in her bouncer on the bathroom floor while I have my shower. Most of the time she's perfectly happy but on the odd day she cries then tough - I'm only ever 5 mins and crying for that long won't hurt. She can see and hear me after all. I feel bad when people come round and I ask them to watch her for 5 mins but my bro and his wife came over the other night and sat in the lounge having cuddles while we took 15 mins to eat dinner in the kitchen. It was lovely to eat a hot meal with both hands for a change!!