Second Baby, did anyone else find this?

[kimmumof2]

hi all,

i was wondering if any of you have experienced this with your parents or in laws.

my problem is with my in laws, when i was pregnant with reanna they were really involved and always buying things like it was a competition, always asking about her throughout pregnancy, wanted scan photos etc. it wasnt their first grandchild and i got the impression that they were so interested becus they wanted me to fail. ( i was quite young!)

this time round they havent even bothered with the pregnancy, im not askin for them to buy stuff becus we had quite alot anyway apart from clothes and i was tryin not to their disinterest bother me but the other day my DD1 was talkin about Kayla and mentioning they had identical dresses and my MIL sed who is kayla your friend? erm no hello its the name we have chosen for your grandchild and we have told you this and mentioned it countless times over the past 5 months.!!!!

part of me thinks that she sed it on purpose to annoy me (she has never been great to me) but then part of me got really upset in case she really isnt interested and is going to treat kayla different from her other grandkids.

has anyone else found that this when pregnant the second or more time round that people arent as interested? then again my friends and my sis and mum are exactly the same as first time round so im confused as whether im being paranoid or whether my in laws really dont care.

sorry for the rant but its just got me down over past few days and i think im also feelin quite over emotional.

xxxxx

 

[kellie80]

Yes I totally have! It really upset me when I was having Aimee but I'm used to it now. It was even worse when I was having Nathan and most people kept forgetting I was even pregnant. Hardly anyone bothered too much when he was born either it felt like they were saying 'here we go again'. When Jess my 1st was born we got every thing bought for us, we got loads of help and cards and stuff when she was born and we couldn't get rid of people for about a month. Its strange I know cos to us they are exactly the same importance and I found it hard to get my head round it.

 

[kellysomer]

I have found that too, this time when i said i was pregnant everyone sort of said 'ohhh again how nice' its like the 2nd one is not important or as special. Well i can tell them that it is.

Luckily 2nd time round you have most of the stuff you need so dont have to worry about not being given so much stuff.

Even my mum and sister dont seem excitied at all.

 

[emma28]

Oh yeah, I can relate to this totally.

No one's much bothered this time round are they? I'm sure even DH forgets...............

 

[paulaws]

Hi,
I had exactly the same in fact I got the feeling my parents weren't overjoyed at the prospect of another grandson.That said,once Euan arrived they were totally different and love him so much. I am sure once your little one arrives people will be just as smitten with him/her as they were with your first one.x

 

[enn]

i think everyone gets excited with the first one and dont bother with the second one that much. time will tell when i get to that stage.

 

[breezee1984]

glad i don't have to worry about it with his parents...but his sister will be a whole nother ballgame! shes his only sibling and i myself have 3 sisters that intend to spoil me rotten with baby clothes and such. well she has no job and doesnt even live on her own(she lives with a friend and her mom) and is mad because we wont let her do things like when the babys born she wants us to pay her to nanny for the baby. uh no....In Laws Suck hunny u just gotta take it as it comes and not stress. i promise it will work

 

[Minime]

I've got 14 years between mine so its like having a first again. My MIL, its her first grandson but 4th grandchild and she lives in Bali. She was soooo excited, asks about him all the time, always checks our photobucket album for new pics and she lives in the middle of nowhere and has to travel into a town to use a cyber cafe. My dad on the other hand has seen eefie twice and thats because I TOOK HIM THERE. He has not once visited me and lives in runcorn a whopping 15 miles away

My DD was his youngest grandchild so its not like theres lots of kids in the family, having a baby is a pretty rare event but nope, no interest whatsoever

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Yes but not felt really bothrered by it all as i get on with my MIL really well.

But what has annoyed me since having my 2nd child that my hubby and MIL think im supermum and can do all the cleaning and cooking since having her as i can cope this time around.

When in truth i cant and im exhaustaed and did finally kick off last night about it all!