really struggling

[blueberrybaby8]

As the title suggests I'm having a bit of a hard time. currently 7 weeks pregnant with baby number 2. Firstly the nausea is at an all time high, all times in the day and it comes in waves...strong waves. I really am sick of feeling sick! I shouldn't complain as with number 1 I didnt have this.
But what I'm really struggling with is the lack of sleep due to baby number 1 (9 months) not sleeping through the night, up and down 3/4 times, needing feeds, to be rocked back to sleep, crying when we put him down....you get the idea. Not only is it stopping me sleeping, but it's putting strain on my back, stomach..everything.
I have an amazing partner who has shared the feeds and the carrying, but we do take it in turns and I'm really struggling. My body feels like it can't handle such an active baby who then doesn't sleep. I'm achey, sore and exhausted. I'm up all hours during the night and this morning I've bought baby down at half 4..(why is he so wide awake)
I'm really worried that the baby won't be okay with all this stress and strain..really worried
I'm running on zero.
sorry for the rant ladies..just as I say, really struggling and paranoid something bad will happen as a result.
Xx

 

[Rose83]

Aww sorry you are feeling so rubbish. My first was 5 months old when I got pregnant with my second and she was already sleeping through the night so I didn't have that much trouble and she was still fairly inactive in the first trimester. By the third trimester I was finding it tough, moved house at 6 months (and it's a 'do up' so a constant building site), I was catching every cold going, was signed off work for 6 weeks with a sinus infection I couldn't kick and that took me to mat leave. I was really at an all time low but out popped a healthy 10lb baby and none of it had done him any harm so don't worry too much. I'm now (accidentally) pregnant again and he is 10 months and gets me up between 4 and 7 times a night, has to be held til asleep and is just generally so much harder than my daughter. I'm exhausted and nauseous all day (had to get up at midnight last night to eat to curb it) and as my partner is the only one working he doesn't get up in the night unless it's for our daughter. I find that I just have to nap with them to keep myself going throughout the day. I'm not worried about this one as I'm sure it will be just as unaffected by it all as my son was X

 

[Pemsy]

It helps to think that one of the reasons your are so drained (other than baby keeping you up) is baby #2 is putting itself first. Your little one is very good at looking after itself and I don't think you should worry about your own stress upsetting it. They're safe and content in there. It's you that has to deal. I also felt very stressed at first but I have relaxed this week and everything seems a bit easier.

I hope you can relax a bit too x

 

[blueberrybaby8]

oh my goodness Rose, it sounds like you've had a tough ride! I'm sure all the little ones are 100% worth all the struggle though aren't they. It's just difficult when they don't sleep and have you up all hours when you feel at your worst!
I can imagine your hands were/are very full!

Thank you Pemsy too, that's something nice and reassuring to remember.
I need to try and relax too.

Baby 1 actually slept much better last night after our first attempt at a dream feed before we went to bed. I hope it continues and I can start to relax a little, knowing he's getting the sleep he needs and so are we!!
Xx

 

[blueberrybaby8]

Oh and Rose, what you were saying about baby being inactive during trimester 1..my little one started crawling, sitting up and pulling himself up to stand at just turned 6 months! Now at 9 months he's standing independently and I'm sure any day he's going to take a first step!
Definitely keeping me on my toes already, maybe by trimester 3 I'll be crawling alongside him on the floor! (Exhaustion) ha Xx

 

[StephHarris212]

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this BlueBerry... Seems like so much. This is my first pregnancy so I don't have much experience with this. If it was me though I would find time for a relaxing bath or maybe a movie night with the hubby. As for the nausea eat little things. I found that helps with the nausea. Even though I am hungry all the time if I eat too much I feel sick if I don't eat much at all I feel sick. So, I found eating small snacks throughout the day and small meals really help with the nausea (even though it still comes in waves just not as bad). I hope that helps and I truly hope you can get the sleep and rest you deserve!

 

[blueberrybaby8]

Aw thank you Steph, and congratulations too!
I've found eating little and often better for me too, seems eating too less or too much sets of the nausea waves! I'm doing quite well with the snacking, although i probably need to find some healthier alternatives! What kind of things have you been having? I find a lot of inspiration from other people, not very imaginative when it comes to food and cooking.
Happy 9 months to you too! Xx

 

[StephHarris212]

Aw thank you Steph, and congratulations too!

I've found eating little and often better for me too, seems eating too less or too much sets of the nausea waves! I'm doing quite well with the snacking, although i probably need to find some healthier alternatives! What kind of things have you been having? I find a lot of inspiration from other people, not very imaginative when it comes to food and cooking.

Happy 9 months to you too! Xx

I have been trying to eat more healthier. So nuts, bananas, granola bars, anything I can get my hands on that is healthy haha. However, I have been seriously craving Italian dressing out of the bottle (weird I know) haha.

As for meals, I have been sticking with salads lately. I make a mean chicken, bacon, turkey Italian salad. So delicious and it really curbs my cravings. Plus it's healthy for the baby! So, it's a true win win for me and the baby haha.

I'm not really imaginative myself so when I do cook I just cook what sounds good to me at the time usually. The whole salad I make I just threw together at a whim haha. No real thought behind it except for trying to keep it as healthy as I can.

How about yourself? What kinds of snacks have you been having?

 

[1sttimemum2b]

It doesn't matter what u eat. Just keep eating something as it's better than nothing. I am 15 weeks 2 days and been sick exactly 9 weeks now and still vomiting. It's my first baby so I really don't know how you are managing to do this with a young baby. Well done!