really cba with OH

[abbiecourt]

anyone else feel this lol?
i wont even be botherd if he walked away tomorrow and left he is so lazy he never cooks nothing and every time we argue he tells me to get rid of the baby but i told him he cannot make me and he does not have to be involved with babys life or has to pay for him/her.

their is no chance i am letting him upset me through this pregnancy!!

xx

 

[DW1978]

That doesn't sound good. Does he not want the baby? Maybe thats driving a wedge between you? If you really feel this way, is it worth staying?

I really can't complain about my DH this week as he has taken the week off work to look after our son (half term). I've been doing overtime at work, I usually only work 9-3pm (school hours) but have been doing 8-5pm since DH's off. I got home on Tuesday night and he had done the dinner, swept and washed the kitchen floor, emptied the cat litter, taken the bins out, baked cakes with Lennon and all sorts. He's been a gem this week doing cooking, shopping and taking Lennon out to loads of activities - bowling, swimming, cinema, softplay etc etc.

 

[abbiecourt]

i dont know if he means it, you can say anything in an arguement? x
i have two other boys with him we did split for six months and i managed fine and got my independance back (spelt wrong prob) i dont know maybe we both tired and my hormones x

 

[DW1978]

Maybe you could just sit down and have a chat about how you feel?

 

[Mummy2Adam]

I agree with DW hunny, sit him down and talk to him, explain to him how you feel and explain to him hes upsetting you.

As you said anything can be said in the heat of an arguement, if I listened to everything OH said while arguing we wouldnt be together never mind me posting in tri-1!

Massive hunny x x

 

[Kezzamunster]

Men have a tendency to speak before thinking about it esp in arguments, it's easier for them to personally attack & say what's gonna hurt & upset us

They also have a tendency to be a bit self absorbed as well & majority of the time expect us to always be there plus with pregnancy hormones, don't think they fully understand how hard our bodies our working & don't realise how tough it is

So defo in agreement with the girls about talking to him, tell him exactly how your feeling, he needs to be working with you not against you Hun



xxxxx

 

[abbiecourt]

oh i could be their or day he is honestly one of them men who will listen but wont do anything about it. he is in work now till 10 so gives me bit of a brake lol x

 

[Kezzamunster]

Oh bless you, well my OH eventually listens when I'm screaming at him then says all the right things I wanna here, changes for a lil while then back to normal......I pfft him loudly & do love him to pieces & know myself that things could be so much worse so I just shrug it off

I really hope things sort themselves out Hun

xxxxx

 

[DW1978]

What about writting him a letter while he's at work hun? I find it really hard to share my feelings sometimes but I find texting or writting a letter much easier than saying things face to face and sometimes I do that will my OH when things get a bit much.

 

[abbiecourt]

yeh i could try a letter i do love him to bits but i never good a showing it
also i lost my sex drive and i just dont know why but if i dont give him anything he thinks i am cheating lol arghhhh head bangx