Ramblings of a mad woman

[kittyrooroo]

Hi everyone!
Just looking for some reassurance really, maybe a virtual slap in the face?

We're hopefully ttc number 2 in June this year and when we decided this last year I was SO excited. Couldn't wait for the excitement of being pregnant, we didn't get to actively ttc last time as LO was a surprise and was looking forward to making our 3 into a 4.

Now though, I'm TERRIFIED. I'm not even sure what I'm so scared of! I've been pregnant before, laboured before, had a newborn before. I think I'm just scared of the change. LO would be 3 and a half when the next baby arrives which I think is perfect (picked it myself!) but I'm worried about the little things.

Will I be able to watch 2 children when I'm so used to watching one?
Will I be able to get into a routine with 2 children with a bigger age gap?
Will my first born feel neglected? Feel so guilty about this!
I just want to get on with it now I think! The waiting is making me nervous!

Anyone else feel like this or am I just crazy?

 

[scribbins]

I totally understand where you are coming from. We are ttc and our daughter is 2.2 at the moment. I am already feeling guilty that I will be causing her anxiety and upset because I won't be able to give her 100% attention. I worry about what happens if she gets ill (a cold or something) and I won't have the time to sit on the sofa with her for hours guliving cuddles. And the idea or organising two small people terrifies me a bit. But, other women have done it for a gajillion years and therefore so will I!

 

[kittyrooroo]

My LO absolutely loves babies already so at least I don't have to worry about him fighting for attention because I really don't believe he will.
I'm super duper organised and I'm kind of looking forward to the challenge, I think I worry more about when they're older and they run off in opposite directions! I'm not even slightly worried about the stage before baby can crawl because I know where at least one child is!

 

[Holi]

I feel same!! I've been so excited to start Ttc and now is so close (only 1 more pill packet left!!) I'm shitting a brick!! Every thought you have had, I have had too!!!

I'm gonna try not to over think things cos otherwise if never have another I don't think! Xx

 

[kittyrooroo]

Surely it can't be this worrying to have a first child? Otherwise the population would be a lot less!
I'm trying my best to focus on the exciting bits but I am a natural worrier and over thinker. I need a distraction to get me through a few months!
I'm so glad I'm not on my own with this!

 

[Holi]

I think it's more worrying second time + cod you think of the effects on your 1st/other kids, the reality is they will be fine but as mums we just worry!! Xx

 

[Mum2Many]

I feel this way every single time! I get to the TTC stage and suddenly have worries/doubts about whether I'm doing the right thing, whether I'll be able to cope, whether my youngest is ready for a younger sibling etc. It's totally normal and once baby is actually here you'll feel silly for worrying about these things! LOL Or at least I always do.

 

[kittyrooroo]

I feel this way every single time! I get to the TTC stage and suddenly have worries/doubts about whether I'm doing the right thing, whether I'll be able to cope, whether my youngest is ready for a younger sibling etc. It's totally normal and once baby is actually here you'll feel silly for worrying about these things! LOL Or at least I always do.

Yes you nailed it there! That's exactly what I'm worried about - if I'm doing the right thing. As our first one was a surprise, I wonder if people will think this one will be unplanned too and judge us/ not be supportive. I never imagined having kids but now I have one, there's nothing I want more than a sibling for him.
Suppose I just have to give my head a wobble and try not to worry. At least I know it's normal!

 

[Mrs M]

Yup completely normal! It actually spoilt the end of my pregnancy a little as I was often in tears cos I felt so guilty! I'm trying not to think about it this time round, although nearer the time I'll feel crap about it!

You should look up a poem on google called Loving Two - or something along those lines. Just don't read it in public, or without a tissue! I absolutely broke my heart over it!

 

[Donna88]

I feel the same, my little one is 6 will be more like 8 by the time we have another one.... so really worried about the age gap and getting into a routine... but we just make these things work.

I think it's natural to have these feelings.

 

[mel0013]

Glad I'm not the only one!