Problem with a friend

[lauramumof2]

I have a tricky problem with a female friend. We went to college together and were great friends there. Our lives were following pretty much them same paths (boyfriends, jobs etc). I got married and she was due to get married then she spilt up with her husband to be. After that it kind of went downhill. We didnt have as much in common after that, she was doing 2 jobs and living the life of a single girl and telling me things that, as the mum of a small baby, I couldnt really get on board with. She would have partys starting at 1am and the neighbours would be complaining. Well, I couldnt really say 'ooooh, thats awful of those neighbours' when I wouldnt put up with it either.

Anyway, when I found out I was pg I didnt tell her straight away as she lives a wee bit away and I couldnt drive at that point and she was coming down to see me one night so I waited. I was just about 3 months gone and didnt think that was too late. She was quite shocked that I hadnt told her I think.

So to cut a long story (haha) short, that was the last time I saw or spoke to her. She said she would call me the following week and never did and I could have phoned her but she only has a mobile and is always out or with people.

What should I do? Im due in a fortnight. SHe didnt send my wee girl a birthday card either which makes me think she is really pissed.

 

[AmberNicole]

I don't see any harm in calling. That's a pretty silly thing for her to get upset over, especially when some people decide to wait to tell family and friends just in case something happens with the pregnancy.

 

[Strangeness]

I think it's a bit silly of her to get upset about something like that. Loads of people don't tell before 3 months incase of problems. It's not like you had the baby and didn't tell her. I think you still want to speak to her hun so I would just call her and see what the situation is, hope it works out!

 

[Nicky_Jones]

How about sending her a text message or email? That way if she ignores it you know to leave it, if she replies give her a call. It could just say something like - Hope you are well, just letting you know everything is fine so far and I am due in 2 weeks.

 

[Hypnorm]

Call her and 'act dumb' saying hi i've not heard from you in ages is everything ok? then the ball is in he court so say yes sorry been busy or no etc good luck - depends on how much you each value the friend ship - i have a mate we were best mate all through school but we have both grown appart - she has her mates and bf i am married with baby but we still tex each other and see each other maybe once or twice a year. but istoill consisder her a good friend

 

[Urchin]

If you've called her a couple of times and she can't talk and doesn't return your call, I wouldn't call her again.

Sorry, I seem to be the only one saying it, but she's had 6 months to contact you.....What about leaving it, then texting her to say you've had the baby and seeing what she does?

I guess it depends on how much her friendship means to you.

 

[hayley]

have you tried calling her? if you have and she has ignored your call or not returned it then i agree with urchin - her loss...

but if neither of you have called each other then it might be a case of... why should i call first! in that case call her and just say HI.... been a while thought i'd call and see how life is for you! you'll know from her reaction if she wants to carry on with the call or not...

I think it might be a touch of the green eyed monster... she's probably happy for you but is a little hurt these things aren't happening to her too... majority of us want kids one day! she probably can't see it happening for her for a while if she's stil single.. not sending your little girl a birthday card is silly and inmature.. she's probably thinking why should i make the first move and reading into the fact you haven't called.. as you being funny with her - when she's doing the same!

if she asks why you didn't mention your pregnancy to her till you was 3 month - explain that you kept it from a lot of people till you had your first scan... not that you have to explain anything.

x

 

[violet-glow]

I would personally leave it....

If she said she'd call you then shes obviously not fussed if she hasnt done already. I think she could be jealous of your life, your married and now have a child... thats what she was going to have. By telling you shes having house partys etc I recon shes trying to make you feel jealous of her. I dunno I could be totaly wrong as I dont know either of you lol

But when my friend (who shall remain nameless) says he will call and he doesnt I just leave he to it. He knows where I am if he needs me, I know that sounds harsh but its true.

 

I agree with Urchin on this one.xx

 

[HayleyB]

I agree with Urchin too!

xox

 

[Yvanne]

personally i would call her, cos ull always wonder wot if i called her... then if she ignores or tht then u can always jst shrug it off!!

 

[bekki_16]

theres no hatrm in callin her whats the worse she could do...put the phone down
gd lkuk hope u sort things xx