Probably missed again. Grrr at hubby!!!

[DubChick]

Grrr!

Got my first smiley face on digital opk yesterday, expected to ovulate yesterday or today. Dtd yesterday morning using preseed. Hubby knows we need to dtd again today, but he's away for 2 nights from late morning today.

Messed about last night and WASTED it, he finished on himself. This morning my temp is still low so obviously not ovulated yet, and he's decided to not take any notice of me at all, so feel like we will have missed this month AGAIN.

Am so cross, he is so frustrating because he says one thing and then does another, all of the time. He desperately wants a boy, he has a daughter to someone else that he isn't bonded with at all. He knows what needs to happen, he's researched everything himself but can't be bothered. He's so fucking arrogant, says he knows he's got what it takes so he only needs to do it once. What the fuck?! Feel like what's the point.

Sorry for the rant x

 

[liz85]

I’m in same boat. My hubbie works away an I’m in my fertile week from today. Then when he is back he tired he doesn’t wanna know.

I’m trying the every 2-3 days dtd. I’m not tracking at the minute.

Hopefully you have caught and jump him when he is back lol

 

[Bambi42]

I went through a stage in the early days of TTC when my other half wasn’t up for sex. It’s really common because they feel under pressure and also the ‘we need to do it today’ chat just isn’t sexy.
Thankfully we got through it & now he doesn’t grumble but try not to be too mad at your hubby. They’re rubbish at talking about how they feel so the backing away from a night of passion might be a signal to go out and have a laugh, talk about other things ...then let it happen naturally after a good night out.
It’s infuriating but making it a ‘thing’ only makes life harder for you. This forum is full of us girls watching our cycles and pulling our hair out. Now if you’ll excuse me I’m about to pretend I’m not exhausted and feeling really horny and try to get my man, who is dozing on the sofa, to get it on

 

[soffphie]

Grrr!

Got my first smiley face on digital opk yesterday, expected to ovulate yesterday or today. Dtd yesterday morning using preseed. Hubby knows we need to dtd again today, but he's away for 2 nights from late morning today.

Messed about last night and WASTED it, he finished on himself. This morning my temp is still low so obviously not ovulated yet, and he's decided to not take any notice of me at all, so feel like we will have missed this month AGAIN.

Am so cross, he is so frustrating because he says one thing and then does another, all of the time. He desperately wants a boy, he has a daughter to someone else that he isn't bonded with at all. He knows what needs to happen, he's researched everything himself but can't be bothered. He's so fucking arrogant, says he knows he's got what it takes so he only needs to do it once. What the fuck?! Feel like what's the point.

Sorry for the rant x

Trust me i know how this was!!
Id say dont tell him when fertile. I didnt nor did i this one we did it and i said ok so yday was a + and today stuffs sooo amazing and he just laughed, had i of said todays 1st september ive had a + my stuffs great i just think theres a good chance he suddenly couldnt perform.
Keep it Shhh from him is my only advice, lol

 

[dee_BD_xox]

I feel you - my fiancé and I always miss it I feel like! Oddly enough we barely seem to have sex during my fertile window and he travels a ton. Then we are super into it when I’m not in fertile week. He doesn’t like to worry about it.... but I feel like our weak “trying” isn’t going to do it.

Oh well. I guess just plug on and after awhile it should finally work I tell myself. But I totally get your frustration - I get SO frustrated.

 

[DubChick]

I’m in same boat. My hubbie works away an I’m in my fertile week from today. Then when he is back he tired he doesn’t wanna know.

I’m trying the every 2-3 days dtd. I’m not tracking at the minute.

Hopefully you have caught and jump him when he is back lol

It's so frustrating isn't it! He's not got the highest of sex drives as it is, so it's hard enough on normal occasions to get it on

I told him how I felt tonight, and that he wants a boy so much that I'm trying to do everything I can to encourage that to happen, but he has to do his bit too. He agreed, and said he knew what I meant. Then says "well it only took me one time to get her pregnant, so it's probably twins now." Really??!!! x

 

[DubChick]

I went through a stage in the early days of TTC when my other half wasn’t up for sex. It’s really common because they feel under pressure and also the ‘we need to do it today’ chat just isn’t sexy.
Thankfully we got through it & now he doesn’t grumble but try not to be too mad at your hubby. They’re rubbish at talking about how they feel so the backing away from a night of passion might be a signal to go out and have a laugh, talk about other things ...then let it happen naturally after a good night out.
It’s infuriating but making it a ‘thing’ only makes life harder for you. This forum is full of us girls watching our cycles and pulling our hair out. Now if you’ll excuse me I’m about to pretend I’m not exhausted and feeling really horny and try to get my man, who is dozing on the sofa, to get it on

Thank you for your reply. I totally get what you mean about it not being sexy - "we need to do it now" etc, so I've tried not to. He's known when we needed to dtd so I've tried to leave it up to him as much as possible so it doesn't feel like I'm pressuring him. I could've leapt on him when we were messing yesterday evening so he finished in the right place, but I thought no, he knows it needs to happen so will if he wants to. But no. Grrr! I told him tonight how I feel etc and he said "it only took me once to get her pregnant, so it's probably twins." Seriously??!! x

 

[DubChick]

Trust me i know how this was!!
Id say dont tell him when fertile. I didnt nor did i this one we did it and i said ok so yday was a + and today stuffs sooo amazing and he just laughed, had i of said todays 1st september ive had a + my stuffs great i just think theres a good chance he suddenly couldnt perform.
Keep it Shhh from him is my only advice, lol

I will definitely do that in the future, but my problem is that he's already worked everything out. He's already worked out a due date for if I conceive this month! x

 

[DubChick]

I feel you - my fiancé and I always miss it I feel like! Oddly enough we barely seem to have sex during my fertile window and he travels a ton. Then we are super into it when I’m not in fertile week. He doesn’t like to worry about it.... but I feel like our weak “trying” isn’t going to do it.

Oh well. I guess just plug on and after awhile it should finally work I tell myself. But I totally get your frustration - I get SO frustrated.

It really is so frustrating isn't it! Hubby doesn't have the highest sex drive as it is, so it really is a case of needing to do it at the right time if it's only going to happen a couple of times a month

I used preseed for the first time yesterday morning and he said it was like slip and slide - I accidentally used almost double the amount as I felt like I'd lost loads down the side of the tube when I first put it in the injection thing x

 

[Jemjem2905]

I know how you feel ive been trying 6 years and nothing has happened and everytime we are due to ov something happens with my mum or dad or he is too tired to do anything after work. although this month I feel crappy im due my af on Monday and I have had period cramps for last 3 days to the point I think I have started and very sore nipples and feel sick I was due to ov on the sunday and hubby was away until the sunday and we did try when he got home baby dust to you all xx

 

[Kholl]

That does sound really frustrating. What's the story with his daughter? What is keeping him from bonding to her? That little girl needs her daddy. There's probably some story about a "crazy ex" but there's no real excuse for not doing everything in his power to have a good relationship with that girl, for her sake. He's got to focus on that first before he fathers another child. It's too unfair to her to be devoted to another baby before he's repaired things with her. Again: she needs him, and she deserves her dad.

Best of luck to you. I hope he repairs things with all the women in his life!

 

[DubChick]

I know how you feel ive been trying 6 years and nothing has happened and everytime we are due to ov something happens with my mum or dad or he is too tired to do anything after work. although this month I feel crappy im due my af on Monday and I have had period cramps for last 3 days to the point I think I have started and very sore nipples and feel sick I was due to ov on the sunday and hubby was away until the sunday and we did try when he got home baby dust to you all xx

It's so hard isn't it! They want it so much but seem to have an excuse not to bd.

I really hope it happens for you soon.

Babydust to all x

 

[DubChick]

That does sound really frustrating. What's the story with his daughter? What is keeping him from bonding to her? That little girl needs her daddy. There's probably some story about a "crazy ex" but there's no real excuse for not doing everything in his power to have a good relationship with that girl, for her sake. He's got to focus on that first before he fathers another child. It's too unfair to her to be devoted to another baby before he's repaired things with her. Again: she needs him, and she deserves her dad.

Best of luck to you. I hope he repairs things with all the women in his life!

He has tried to bond with her, always been there etc. His ex wouldn't let him do things, hasn't involved him in any decision making at all, he literally looks after her. We do things as a family but she's not a very nice person when he's around. When she's with me she's fine, lovely, well behaved. With him around she becomes a miserable devil child. He does everything he can to bond with her but it's just not there, and the girl plays him off against her mum, lying to both about the other one. She's very materialistically spoilt by her mum and appreciates nothing, and when she comes to our house it's about respecting each other, our house and our things.

She's a very messed up little girl, caused by the people in her life. X

 

[kiyaa]

I had that issue with my ex. Some men just have lower sex drives where they only want sex 1-2 times a week. I felt it was better when he didn't know when we "needed" to have sex. If I tried to get him in the mood and he still wasn't into it, I'd let him know that it was in the window.

 

[DubChick]

I know how you feel ive been trying 6 years and nothing has happened and everytime we are due to ov something happens with my mum or dad or he is too tired to do anything after work. although this month I feel crappy im due my af on Monday and I have had period cramps for last 3 days to the point I think I have started and very sore nipples and feel sick I was due to ov on the sunday and hubby was away until the sunday and we did try when he got home baby dust to you all xx

It's just so frustrating isn't it! Af arrived for me a fortnight ago, so I was right that we'd missed it again.

This month I got my first of 2 opk yesterday. We'd dtd 1a.m. Sunday morning but I think more of his stuff was spilled than actually went where it needed to, then last night it was wasted. Going to try again tonight but again not holding out any hope. Thinking I might as well give up, I don't feel he's that into it and time is really ticking on for me xx

 

[DubChick]

I had that issue with my ex. Some men just have lower sex drives where they only want sex 1-2 times a week. I felt it was better when he didn't know when we "needed" to have sex. If I tried to get him in the mood and he still wasn't into it, I'd let him know that it was in the window.

Definitely think my hubby is one of those! Going to try tonight as a last resort but think we'll have missed it again. We dtd 1a.m. Sunday morning but I feel most of it went where it shouldn't have done, last night it was definitely wasted and I got my first of two positive opks yesterday, and think I ovulated today. We'll see. Onwards and upwards, but time is really ticking for me now xx

 

[DubChick]

I had that issue with my ex. Some men just have lower sex drives where they only want sex 1-2 times a week. I felt it was better when he didn't know when we "needed" to have sex. If I tried to get him in the mood and he still wasn't into it, I'd let him know that it was in the window.

It's so difficult. He said tonight about becoming a new dad with me getting pregnant and I told him I don't think it's ever going to happen because we never manage to do anything at the right time. He asked what I meant and I said I'm ovulating today. His reply was "there's no chance tonight!" My reply was "exactly! I tried last night but you finished before I had chance to get on." He said he wondered why I'd done it, I told him he'd said he didn't want to feel pressured but it still doesn't work because he doesn't finish there. I told him it's never going to happen and I feel like giving up. He said "nah, it'll happen." It bloody won't if we don't have sex when I'm fertile!!! xx

 

[chattychar1990]

It's so difficult. He said tonight about becoming a new dad with me getting pregnant and I told him I don't think it's ever going to happen because we never manage to do anything at the right time. He asked what I meant and I said I'm ovulating today. His reply was "there's no chance tonight!" My reply was "exactly! I tried last night but you finished before I had chance to get on." He said he wondered why I'd done it, I told him he'd said he didn't want to feel pressured but it still doesn't work because he doesn't finish there. I told him it's never going to happen and I feel like giving up. He said "nah, it'll happen." It bloody won't if we don't have sex when I'm fertile!!! xx

Men are idiots!

 

[DubChick]

Men are idiots!

They really are. Time is absolutely not on my side, he wasted a whole year last year because he "had a wobble" and now he's verbally all for it but he's not physically doing much in the way of trying to make it happen x