Pregnant and Boyfriend doesn’t want it

[Clare96]

So I recently found out I’m 8 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend reacted far less than enthusiastically. He already has a couple of kids to a past relationship and we were under the impression that I would need fertility treatment in order to conceive due to health problems. However, it’s happened without treatments and my boyfriend thinks that I’m not giving him a choice in the matter and that this is going to ruin his life. How do I convince him otherwise when he’s being so shut off and won’t stay open minded when this is pretty much a miracle baby for me and could be my only child?

 

[chattychar1990]

So I recently found out I’m 8 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend reacted far less than enthusiastically. He already has a couple of kids to a past relationship and we were under the impression that I would need fertility treatment in order to conceive due to health problems. However, it’s happened without treatments and my boyfriend thinks that I’m not giving him a choice in the matter and that this is going to ruin his life. How do I convince him otherwise when he’s being so shut off and won’t stay open minded when this is pretty much a miracle baby for me and could be my only child?

I think you need to remind your boyfriend that if he didn’t want anymore children he should have put something on the end of it. Sorry to be harsh but it’s true.
If this is something you really want then I think a serious chat is needed to get to the bottom of what you are going to do.
I hope you get what you want from this shit situation. X

 

[Lollypop79]

So I recently found out I’m 8 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend reacted far less than enthusiastically. He already has a couple of kids to a past relationship and we were under the impression that I would need fertility treatment in order to conceive due to health problems. However, it’s happened without treatments and my boyfriend thinks that I’m not giving him a choice in the matter and that this is going to ruin his life. How do I convince him otherwise when he’s being so shut off and won’t stay open minded when this is pretty much a miracle baby for me and could be my only child?

Aw this must be so frustrating I think it will take time i’m sure it was a big shock to him but I echo what was said above. If he didn’t want anymore kids perhaps should have used protection regardless of you possibly needing help in future. This is your miracle baby and wish you lots of lucky in this difficult time xx

 

[IVW]

Seconding what Char said, it takes 2 to tango and he shouldn't have been so irresponsible so i hope he doesnt make you feel guilty about it all.

A good long chat is the only thing you can do at this point x

 

[Linnett3]

I guess if you both were advised the chances of it happening were slim you didn’t feel the need for contraception so I get that. Does he have multiple children by previous partners? Does he see & provide for those children? As if not I’d be a bit reluctant to think he’ll ever fully take responsibility for this one. If he does but simply isn’t sure if he wants more I get that too. Sometimes the concept of another child that isn’t planned is going to be a big shock. He may well come round but if not could you raise the child alone? If you’ve been told the chances of children are slim but you’ve still fallen pregnant this may well be the only chance you get so maybe doing it alone is better than never or with someone who isn’t interested ?..

 

[Loula]

If you want this child and he doesn't then go ahead and do it on your own. It happened to me nearly 7 years ago and I wouldn't change it for the world. It can be hard at times but having the right support and help makes a massive difference.