Possibly a really stupid question,

[widowwadman]

but here goes anyway: How long is your birthing partner actually allowed to stay with you after the birth until they chuck him out of the ward?

It just occured to me that they probably won't let him sleep over should Horatio decide to be born at 3AM in the morning, and the thought of being on my own, well with the baby, really makes me sad. As does the thought of my bloke having to go home on his own straight away. Which probably is just hormones, but anyway. So how much bonding time do they usually allow?

 

[lisa282]

We had a good couple of hours together after both my babies were born, and probably could have had longer but OH chose to go home then so I could rest. I know if he had stayed with me I would have wanted to chat/fuss over baby when all I really needed to do was rest and prepare for the marathon feeding that is the first 48 hours!! But then I gave birth in a small midwife-led birth unit within the main hospital so they are pretty relaxed. Im sure rules would have been much stricter if I had given birth in the big, bad hospital x

 

[charlie84]

Calleigh was born at 12.29am and after that i had to be stitched and had a bath. OH and mum stayed with me. I got took down to the ward at about 4am and OH and mum got sent home

OH allowed back onto the ward at 10am.

 

[sarah113]

i always went home 5-6 hours after giving birth so my birth partners stayed with me till then.
this time though ive got to stay in a night or 2 because of what happened in january, but ive said to my mum thats shes not allowed to leave me

 

[daftscotslass]

Becky was born at 1.17pm and although 2pm-8pm is visiting time for partners at our hospital, he went home about 4.30 and came back at 7. It really depends on the hospital and what kind of a mood the staff are in!

 

[pilkers]

Calleigh was born at 12.29am and after that i had to be stitched and had a bath. OH and mum stayed with me. I got took down to the ward at about 4am and OH and mum got sent home

OH allowed back onto the ward at 10am.

We were the same...Evie was born at 12.07am...I stayed on the delivery suite until about 4am while I recovered and had a bath and some tea and toast. Mum went home about 3am and OH came with me to the maternity ward...he was allowed to stay until about half an hour while I got settled in.

He was allowed back at 10am

 

[NickyB]

I gave birth at 6pm, DH stayed until 11pm because he was knackered. I wasn't moved to the ward until about 1am, and they weren't in a hurry to shoo him out, so I expect they would've let him stay til 1am if we'd wanted to.

 

[NICCI]

my lo was born at 2.16am and my OH went home at 5.30am and came bk at 9am

 

[joj]

Our delivery suite was open visiting for Dads so OH could stay as long as he wanted, Jessie was born at 6:40pm and OH went at 1am, I was transferred to ward at 6am and the wards visiting hours were 9-9.

 

[Red_Fairy]

a couple of hours, id have thought id have wanted more if somone had told me that previous, but after boths my labours, i seriously was so tired i could bearly hold a conversation. So the 2 or so hours was perfect, after that i was well ready to sleep!!

 

[Red_Fairy]

a couple of hours, id have thought id have wanted more if somone had told me that previous, but after boths my labours, i seriously was so tired i could bearly hold a conversation. So the 2 or so hours was perfect, after that i was well ready to sleep!!

(both my children were born at 'no visitors' times, so i dont know if its different)

 

[Jenny123]

Our delivery suite is really flexible and will let dads stay for as long as they like. Once I get moved onto the ward the visiting hours for dads is 9am to 9pm. If the Dad can't make it then you are allowed to nominate a person that you want to stay with you.

 

[soverign]

I lived in hospital from about week 33 to 38. My partner was allowed to stay when ever he liked. We had our own kettle with tea coffee and sugar. We had an en suite bathroom too. There is no labour ward in my hospital. Its a family development buliding. There is ante natal on the ground floor, maternity on the first floor and scbu on second floor. We have our own teams and the midwives work for one team only so you get to know them better. I was on ther lovely honeysuckle team! After giving birth we just got moved into another room which wasnt a delivery room as it was smaller. It still had its en suite and everything. Oh could stay there as long as he liked and I could leave when ever I wanted too.

 

[widowwadman]

That sounds like a really positive hospital experience, Soverign. Was this on the NHS or private?

 

[flowergirl]

I gave birth at 11:45pm and my OH didn't leave my side until about half an hour after I was wheeled down to the ward at 3am. They give you plenty of time alone in the delivery room to have family time (well, they should- my SIL was kicked out asap from Barnsley hospital and she was the one who'd just given birth!)

To be honest it isn't scary when youir birth partner has to go home- by that point you both need sleep and so does your LO- getting born, giving birth and being #1 supporter is an arduous process!

 

[dannii87]

I had Evie at 3:53am, got stitched up and by the time I was taken to recovery and finally got to hold my baby, it was about 6am. I had my Mum there for about 10 mins then she was sent home!!

She got to come back at 2pm. I managed to get some much needed sleep too in that time x