Partner says he's not a machine

[Tinkerbell3]

After reading this I feel very fortunate that my OH has the same attitude as me, during my fertile phase not being in the mood is not an option, if we want to have a baby and for me to get pregnant then we need to make sure we are BD'ing. Though to be honest it isn't usually a problem as we plenty of other times during the month so it's not like we are only having sex for that.
But he does ask me when I'll roughly be OV'ing and when it's time to start using OPK's I always have him asking 'Is it positive yet?'

 

[roxane 1985]

hi hun i know how hard itmust be for you trying to conceive but one factor bound to stop it is stress.

also, and im sorry if this sounds like im having a go im really not im just bad at explaining myself. pit ur partner in his shoes, he is basically just a machine at the moment and all the joy has been taken out of baby making and it has become a chore, i couldnt help notice thatu only want sex at certain times, this is bound to make anyone feel like they are only there to provide u with the swimmers. try and put yourself in his shoes if he nly wanted sex with you to get a result at the end, honestly how would you feel? you would feel like u was only wanted for one thing.

baby making is supposed to be a fun processand the end result is a person made by two people madly in love with each other not from one person only getting attention when we want.

i truely know how u feel as i was the same when trying for my first it took us 9 months, just honestly take 10mins sitting on ur own quietly and think exactly how you would feel if the situation was reversed. im not trying to make u feel guilty but so often us women forget everything around us and only focus on the end goal,possibly destroying relationships.

your time will come hun and good luck to you both xxxxxxxx

 

[Moley]

Thank you very much ladies - all your comments are really helpful!!

x x

 

[Georgie0]

Erm...lurker here! I know what it means, but what does BD actually stand for!?

 

[DW1978]

Erm...lurker here! I know what it means, but what does BD actually stand for!?

Baby Dance

 

[NinjaKitty]

To be honest we dont BD all that much but i do try and pin him down

loooool kinky, maybe TMI. Are you the man in the bedroom then?

 

[star fish]

lol, yes baby dancing is shagging, though I always think of it as an abreviation for 'Bedding' when I type.

 

[ceris]

Me and my husband both have businesses, and with having crazy work schedules we rarely go to bed at the same time. When we decided to try for a baby we discussed the fact that we both needed to make an effort. This was a lot of pressure, and i always felt really guilty when i snuggled up hinting, and thought maybe he would think i just wanted his swimmers, not him!! Then i had a miscarriage in January, and he was just as gutted as i was. It was a huge turning point for us, he is so much more motivated. He then made me a badge that says SPERM STEALER on it as a joke!!
As a couple we dont take anything too seriously, but i suppose i am quite lucky to have a husband who wants the baby as much as i do, but i genuinely think this is down to losing one in january.
I think that providing you have fun as well as just doing the deed, men are usually glad to get a bit!! whatever the motivation!! Mine makes jokes about foreplay being me waving a CBFM test stick at him!!
i do make a point of making a fuss of him when i am not ovulating (to give him a break) helps too!