Partner having worries

[Newtothisall]

I am currently 5/6 weeks pregnant, this is my first pregnancy and me and my boyfriend decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. He left to work abroad the same day we decided to keep the baby and ever since he has been away he is having extreme doubts. He is thinking the baby is going to change his and our lives for the worst and he is scared that he is never going to be happy. I don’t know what to do I’m 25 and he is 26 we have been together over 3 years and had no problem now I don’t know where to go from here. Has anybody else experienced this with their partner?

 

[Rach beattie]

Hi, first of all congratulations on your pregnancy! Men tend to overthink things and from my experience even if it's planned they have a bit of a freak out as it is a huge change. I would let him air his concerns but reassure him it's something u will go through together. We were 21 when we had our first and my dh was the same, now he is the most amazing dad to our 6yo daughter and she is such a daddy's girl. It does change your life but I'm the most amazing way and we r now like the three musketeers and do everything together. Good luck and we r here if u need to talk x

 

[Megmog]

First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy! I would 100% agree with what Rach has said. I think men do tend to have a bit of a freak out. Maybe it’s not helping that he’s away, and he’s on his own worrying about it. Let him say what he needs to say. How long is he away for? Honestly I’m sure he will come round, he’s probably just a little nervous right now. I think it just takes it a bit longer to sink in for them. We were 21 when we had our first and my now husband did get a little freaked out to start with too but soon enough he became happy and excited about it xxx

 

[Newtothisall]

Thank you both! That does really help me and help put my mind at ease a little. He is back a week tomorrow so just over three weeks he has been away. I’m hoping he will eventually come around and I think it will maybe be different once we are together and speak about it face to face. Xx

 

[Rach beattie]

Good luck! He will love this wee baby so much when it comes xx

 

[Megmog]

Good look my lovely! I think once he’s back and with you his head will probably be in it a bit more. Honestly I wouldn’t worry too much, I’m sure everything will work out perfectly xxx

 

[Donna88]

I just came to back up everybody else. I think men do tend to have a bit of a worry. It's a big change and at the moment he'll feel a bit helpless.

I'm sure once he's back and you're together he will soon get his head around the idea. Yes your lives will change but they don't have to change that much - there are a lot more child friendly places these days and you're lives will change for the better too children are a blessing.