Parental rights and responsbilities

[Kas]

Hi all this will be a bit of a rant (again), ive previously posted wiv regards to my OH and his step son, breifly we have been to court for the past 2 yrs tryin to get half parental rights. Due to the sick brain for his EX and her stories we decided we didnt have the finances or energy to continue and played a game where we gave up parental rights and contact, hoping my OHs ex would get jelious that my own son would be getting more attention and we would me moving on as a family. Well its worked (Kind of ) he chatted to his son in the street the other day and he was with his Mum she doesnt usually allow my OH to even chat and my SS and his mum ask my OH when the he can start seeing his Dad again, were both over the moon that well be seeing him again, but she refuses to sign a legal document giving half parental right and agreeing to set days that she can not go back on. My OH as a father is struggling to stick to the deal we made on how to sort her out legally as he has to tell his son he cant come until his mum signs the papers. Should we stick to our guns if we go back on our word shel keep taking the piss im sure? XkelX

 

[violet-glow]

Stick to your guns hun. I know its hard but it sounds like trying to make her jealous is working. She sounds like a selfish cow that couldnt careless about her son and what he wants. Sounds liek when you back off a bit she starts to panic, the ex only seems happy when she thinks shes winning so carry on making her think she is.

 

[Kas]

My OH has just called his lawyer yet again, shes changed her number and hes requested that his lawyer calls hers for it and for her to sit down and both sign an agreement for the days we have contact to be set in stone. Not for us but for my SS one days he has a dad and a wee bro the next day he doesnt, kaidens at the stage where my SS can be reintroduced to my him but i wont put my own son through this one month you see your big bro then for 4 months you dont ritual. Its already affected my SS mentally and i refuse to let it happen to Kaiden too, were goin away to my dads caravan for a few days and would love to take him with us for the weekend hopefully shel jump at the chance as shel let anyone have him so she can go clubbin every weekend try and get herself a man and maybe shed have somone elses life to ruin and leave us alone LOL XkelX

 

[BubbleOne]

Great news Kas

Sounds like it's all finally working out for you

 

[claireabell]

Hey hunnie,

Really hopes it all works out for you. My partner and I went through 11 years of court battles because his ex is a physco lunatic and wouldn't let us see his daughter, she told lots of lies, didn't turn up for court or meetings. There's so much the list is endless. It cost us a fortune in time, money and effort. It was a really horrible situation and effected SS so much it was horrid to watch. One year we saw SS for a total of 6 hours, we have a daughter together who is now 9 years old and she couldn't understand what was going on....its so unfair on the children when they have bitter twisted mothers. Eventually the mother dropped her daughter off to live with us at the age of 13 (she is now 15 with serious issues) and her mother has seen her twice in 2 years...and doesn't want anything to do with her.
Well the story goes on and on but if you ever fancy a chat about anything add me to your msn [email protected]
Its a really hard and horrible situation for anyone to be in, stay strong and hopefully she will give in....
Loads of love n hugs
Claire
xxxx

 

[Kas]

Hey all ive just had a major ramble on another post there so it kinda ties in with this one, thanks Claire il add u on MSN, well me and OH were allowed to take him i knew she would let us as it was a weekend we went to the beach, picked fresh blueberries and raspberries, played football, let him feed his wee brother he so enjoyed the cuddles, it was heartbreaking to watch, we went horseriding fed the cows played in the park and most of all he had some homemade food and ate as a family at the dining table he enjoyed himself. Each day he called his mum, he was so disheartened when he came off, on the last day he wouldnt get dressed and cried for about 2 hours whilst getting dressed, so much for all the things we had allagedly done when she can hand him over when it suits her aaaggghhhh!!! weve sent her a letter saying we will take him if she signs an agreement with parental rights and set days, dont think shel sign it though, she also had a long list for my SS to request from us aint sure if that was another reason why she let him come, i told him to tell her to give him some money from £200 maintenence we pay and get all he needs from that he seemed happy to ask her. fingers crossed she signs and we can go back to normal XkelX

 

[Minime]

How old is he now? Once they reach a certain age then the kids views are taken more into account in court proceedings.

 

[bekki_16]

gd luck hun hope things work out x x x