Panicing slightly about the change!!

[Amy0801]

Hiya
Well after getting a very clear faint line yesterday I have now gone into panic mode!! As much as DF and I want another baby I am worried about making the change from 3 to 4! DD is now 6 but she is ausistic and is not always easy to manage! We always thought we would have at least 2 children but with moving house 3 years ago and going through DD diagnosis time just seems to have flown by! I am worried about how I will cope with another and can I start from the beginning again?!?! I know DD would love a brother or sister and she keeps asking for one but we struggle with her behaviour towards the cat, I am worried how she will be with a baby! She won't have my full attention anymore but I am worried about that also because she needs lots of attention! Feeling pretty scared at the moment when I should be excited xx

 

[broody2013]

Aww Hun all I can say is that you won't be alone, you have us all here, and also it will come back to you and you know what you are doing this time as you've don it before. Good luck xx

 

[Amy0801]

Thanks for your reply. I'm really struggling at the moment..its 2.15 in the morning and I can't sleep..got so much on my mind! Is it normal to feel like I'm having second thoughts about it all?!?! I have been used to it just being the 3 of us for 6 years and now there could very possibly be another person joining us! I'm worried about how DD will cope as much as she would love it. We decided to have another when we went away in June and poor DD was always on her own..we didn't realise how much time had flown but could we have left it too late! I love DD more than anything but I wouldn't say I'm great with kids! I don't know what to do xx

 

[Baby2sky]

This shouldn't really be in the ttc forum. Perhaps a mod can move to the pregnancy threads?

 

[Amy0801]

Sorry didn't know we're I should post as pregnancy has not been confirmed yet

 

[MrsS15]

Hey! We're in a similar situation, our son is 7 and exactly the same as your daughter but with further behavioral problems. He's our only child too and we weren't sure if we'd ever have more because of how he is. The cat comment made me laugh but purely because he's the same with our 2 cats. He's desperate for a brother or sister though and that's what eventful changed our minds! We're going to just try and really involve him in the pregnancy (if and when it happens!) And make him feel as involved as possible. We're going to try when the baby is here one night a week with either myself or his dad will take him out for just one on one, as this is what he's used to we don't want to make many changes. I think that's going to be the main thing, minimise changes for him! I totally understand your concerns but try not to worry, you still have to do the things you want too. I'm sure with lots of involvement your daughter will be fine and adjust xx