Overthinking & Getting a bit personal

[MissJP]

Hi ladies,

Just a quick question - it's going to sound silly really. After you've dtd, do you do anything in particular to try and help the conception process? I know they say to lay down for 10-15 minutes after but does this actually help?

Reason I ask is Sod's law, the week I'm meant to ovulate the other half is on call & I've hardly seen him. He managed to get away for a few hours this evening, but stupidly soon after I jumped in the bath and don't feel I gave it enough time to marinade if you know what I mean. I'm feeling a bit deflated because I feel like I wasted an opportunity so to speak.

Then I think I'm an idiot because my fitst daughter was a very happy surprise - so I obviously didn't do anything particular after sex then & still conceived. TTC has a way of making you doubt every little thing you do doesn't it?!

sorry if it's a bit personal, just wondered if anyone does/avoids anything in particular afterwards?

 

[Tina18]

Hey! Well I try and put my legs up against the wall but I only do this of my other half leaves the room lmao!!

I have read to lay down for 30 mins... This sounds groups but after we have dtd of its at night I do not go the toilet, it's incomfertable to sleep sometimes and a bit wet but I don't want to lose anything!! Sorry for the TMI! Xxx

 

[MissJP]

Hi Tina,

I do the same if we're already in bed so not tmi at all. I definitely agree that it's not the most comfortable lol! I've read about putting legs in the air so many times but think OH will think I've lost it haha. Going to try it

 

[Tina18]

Hahahaha I know just do it quickly when he's out of the room! I've heard doing the bicycle movement with your legs works to! How long have you been TTC ? Xx

 

[MissJP]

Oh god that sounds attractive LOL! The things we do eh. To be fair I think I'll try anything. I'll send him to go and make tea or something. So romantic haha. I've been TTC properly for the past 2 or so cycles. But I've been desperate for another baby for the past year and a half so feels so much longer! How long have you been trying? It's relieving to see I'm not the only one who's driving myself crazy over it!! Xx

 

[Tina18]

I know haha!! Ahh you havnt been TTC to long then but I bet it feels like a lifetime!

Well I started trying in July, caught straight away after coming off the pill, that sadly ended in miscarrige in September, so this is my first cycle after miscarrige! I know I think Pf is the only thing keeping me sane but then again I'm addicted and keep looking at posts so I'm constantly thinking about it! What day in your cycle are you? I'm Cd 24 but havnt a clue when I ovulated!! Xxx

 

[AMKbabyhopeful]

I don't like to get up afterwards either. I worry the same thing. That I might not give the sperm enough time to get where they got to go. Lol. My DH usually gives me a pillow to put under my butt to prop my hips up so everything stays in. I'm not sure if this helps any or not but it makes me feel like I am doing all that I can. However I did read somewhere once that it only take a few minutes for the sperm that are going to make it to swim in so I wouldn't worry too much. You still may have a good chance. Good luck. I hope you get a BFP very soon.

 

[phonixgirl]

I put a pillow under my bum (my mum was trying for 4 years and her doctor told her to try it and apparently it worked) but obviously it hasn't worked for me. I think if you are going to get pregnant then the sperm will get there however you are lying/sitting/standing/whatever - just think of all the accidents that happen! X

 

[Emily0505]

I just stay in bed and try not to move about too much. I def don't get up to pee and get dressed in my pj's lying down!

When I was ttc my son, I put a pillow under my bum but recently when I was being scanned during my mc, I found out I had a retroverted uterus so I don't bother with that any more.

I think they pretty much get to where they need to go quite quickly, but I feel better lying still and knowing that they are all still in there!!

XX

 

[flexilexi394]

Hi miss JP - I have a similar story to you, daughter was a happy surprise so this time around its stressful that it hasn't just happened like magic!
I actually never do anything exciting after DTD but last night I put a pillow under my hips and TMI it all dribbled all over my bloody pillow LOL!
So I'm just not doing anything except going to sleep after lol.

Good luck to you of course, I am on cycle 3 so fingers crossed! Xx

 

[PrincessPeanut]

I am in the same boat, first baby a delightful surprise without the thought of doing and handstands and 4 years down the line TTC with one BFP and a subsequent late MC, I am happy to try anything and everything!!

PP xXx

 

[MrsRoger]

My pre nookie ritual is to have a pair of knickers with a panty line (which my husband now calls Cum Catchers) next to the bed so when we go to sleep it's not all soggy and uncomfortable to sleep.

I also don't go to the toilet after and sit for at least 30mins with my legs crossed.

Apparently tho, it doesn't matter, you can still get pregnant if you do it standing up remember

Happy Baby Dancing

 

[russellmuscle]

Its not a nice feeling at all afterwards, when gravity takes course

I tend to just lay there get dressed into my pjs and then about 30 mins later go pee and what have you. I did lay with my legs in the air first time round and got pregnant, this time Ive not but I dont think this was the reason

Its funny, Michael McIntyre makes a point saying when we are older and in a serious relationship you know this because you undress and redress yourself before/after sex and thats totally us, in a new relationship you tend to get all steamy and undress each other, then now its a case of sex and pyjamas back on everything resumes as normal as if nothing happened

xxxx

 

[MrsS15]

Haha thats too true. I like to undress hubby (don't know why!) but he's always naked and waiting - spoil sport I've tried the legs in the air, bicycle legs, lying down for half an hour etc. No idea if it works or not but I always then go to bed feeling justified I've done everything I can xx

 

[russellmuscle]

Haha thats too true. I like to undress hubby (don't know why!) but he's always naked and waiting - spoil sport I've tried the legs in the air, bicycle legs, lying down for half an hour etc. No idea if it works or not but I always then go to bed feeling justified I've done everything I can xx

Bicycle legs, getting a bit of cardio in as well

I hate undressing D - he just lies there staring in awe and I have to ask him to lift his bum so I can get his trousers off!! Luckily he's the sort of guy that spends a lot of his time naked, I dunno if its a hint but he is like Harry out Sex and the City except not bald. And yes, hes not aloud his nakedness on my settee! (its leather aswell, can you imagine the noise) Nothing about this is sexy. He tends to undress me from the undies down which I quite like but bugger trying to get in about my onsie or my fluffy pyjamas, he hates when I wear my house coat as well.

xxxx

 

[MrsS15]

Hahaha I can't stop laughing at this. So glad we're all the same!! I'll climb into bed and pull the covers back and hubby is already naked, with a really big grin on his face. So this is the 'come on' after 11 years Lucky for him I only wear pants and a vest to bed (yes, even when its snowing - i get very hot!!) so he doesn't have much of a battle to get me naked!! After DTD he'll shout as he's leaving the room, get your legs up and cycle xx

 

[tootie]

you girls are so funny!

Russlemuscle - I have a nightie which my other half hates, calls it my grandma nightie but OMG I love it! It is so bloody comfortable.

I hate falling asleep after sex when all the manstuff is still 'in situ' lol, but the things we do eh! xx

So along this thread, how about if the woman is on top? Any of us got pregnant after having sex that way? I worry it's all dribbled out lol sorry! xx

 

[MrsRoger]

you girls are so funny!

Russlemuscle - I have a nightie which my other half hates, calls it my grandma nightie but OMG I love it! It is so bloody comfortable.

I hate falling asleep after sex when all the manstuff is still 'in situ' lol, but the things we do eh! xx

So along this thread, how about if the woman is on top? Any of us got pregnant after having sex that way? I worry it's all dribbled out lol sorry! xx

That's when you do the clench and roll LOL!!

 

[russellmuscle]

Guys just get naked as if, Ive did my bit - I can always tell when D wants something sexual, he gets all coy and stuttery.

I think I got given one of those nighties when I had Jackson, and I felt I had to accept but I knew there was no way in hell I would wear it, buttons from mid neck to the toes and the most god awful pattern, I would have looked like Wee Willy Winky!

The clench and roll lmfao FFS! I don't ever go on top, I am a lazy shit, Its either on my back or from behind or side and IF I feel generous I do reverse cowgirl but its a rare treat. I havent conceived this way.

I think I need to start a new thread in the girlies room for all this bantz. No one even goes in there anymore!

xxxx

 

[tootie]

I don't ever go on top, I am a lazy shit, Its either on my back or from behind or side and IF I feel generous I do reverse cowgirl but its a rare treat.

This had me laughing out loud!

MrsRoger, Clench and roll! LOLOLOL I can't take it! xxxx