Other People Buying Baby Things gggrrr

[Charlotte_faeriemad]

This is a popular subject! It is a very exciting time with any new baby but the first is even more so. When I was pregnant with Dale and Ethan I had pretty good support from bot set's of grandparents, my mum bought the pram, but I chose it. My MIL was the one that got a little too involved, with buying things, getting involved when the baby was born and insisting she helped me decorate the whole house before, during and after pregnancy and after a while our friendship became a little strained. My OH at the time (divorced now) would and still would not say boo to a goose, I had asked him so many times to tell her to back off but he would never. I found it very difficult because on one hand I was very grateful but on the other it was just TOO much. Such a difficult situation.

This time round I have a different set of grandparents from my BF's side and they are one extreme to another, they run there own business and work 24/7 7 days a week so don't have time to get too involved BUT my BF's mum is ALWAYS there if I need. This time round I've found my voice too and will express myself if I'm not comfortable with anything (baby related or not)

As many other people have suggested, baby stuff is so expensive so some help is great but it does sound like she's a tad OTT. I would do the baby shopping with her and talk to her then. Tell her how your feeling and say you understand she is very excited and thats lovely but you would like to choose your own things. I think if you don't the resentment will build and you don't need those negative feelings accumulating whilst you are pregnant (and at any other time really)

Yeah and men just don't see things or feel like we do, they are from Mars anyhow!

I hope things settle x

 

[valentine]

his mum has already bought a moses basket for when the baby comes to stay at hers!!! I just went livid. I know it sounds silly but I felt she was robbing the baby before its even born.

This bit alone would have made my blood boil - this assumes that you will want to have the baby away from you before its out of its moses basket (by 6 months). I've not left my DD overnight yet and she's 15 months old! Also, pretty impossible to leave baby overnight if you're breastfeeding!

I'm really picky with things I like and don't like so would have hated this situation you are in. People buy DD clothes now and if I really hate them, I can't put her in them. My mum and MIL bought pram and cot bed respectively, but bought ones we chose, which was worked well.

Valentine Xxx