o.h has no job & facebook?

[honeybear]

Hi ladies
just looking for some advice is any of you girls partner doesnt have a job

i work full time and some over time and pay the bills etc
he isnt entitled to claim anything as i work full time frustratingly enough!

thing is hes so fed up hes even gone to counselling hes bored he gets moody frustrated and we moved last may to a new town to start over away from the rubbish where we where from other friends etc
and there is no jobs round here at all he checks all the time applies for loads he didnt even get a cleaning job as they gave it to someone else whos lived in the town for a long time
we dont drive so we have to think practically

its so frustrating

it puts pressure on our relationship so much as we hate it round here we have no friends since moving so we are quite isolated anyway
the girls at the home i work at arent the greatest and make no effort to come round since most of them have kids

he hasnt had a proper job for 3 years only for couple of months its so disheartening to watch it grind him down and make him so frustrated

we dont have facebook as we didnt want the hastle and the old friends getting involved stirring he doesnt have a strong personality hes very shy and gives in quite easily to people which is a frustration for me
so we dont really talk to anyone xxx

 

[hayes]

I don't have any advice hun, just wanted to say that u r doing all u can for hubby by just being supportive and encouraging yo keep going n keep applying for jobs, mayb try looking for sum clubs or groups u cud join to find sum friends who have similar interests.

Michelle.x

 

[honeybear]

thankyou michelle x
thats all we can do isnt it

i learnt a brilliant saying "when your going through hell keep going" xxx

 

[CARNAT22]

Is there anything your OH can do in terms of volunteering?

That is good for the CV and will help make him feel worthwhile.

Also is he entitled to any courses?

Do you still keep in touch with any friends? What about family?

I adore my OH but to spend time with just each other would drive us both mad... Maybe your OH needs to attend some classes / find a hobby to meet new friends.

One final point - I know you are TTC - have you considered how this will work if you get pregnant and the work situation is the same?

My OH had to go down to part-time hours when I was pregnant and there was a real threat to his company (self employed, it's his Dad's co.)

It put masses of stress on us, made saving very difficult and is part of the reason we've still not been able to move.

X