Not speaking

[amylouise1989]

Arghagehhhhs!

I just want to vent really, currently the situation is me and the OH haven't spoke all day, atm hes sat on the couch and im in bed wondering whether hes gonna come to bed,.

This is over decorating and him being inconsiderate to my ever changing hormones, I feel like he doesn't understand and that once someone's pregnant a perfect baby appears nine months later and that's it!
Ive tried explaining and telling him about the screening testd and things, no interest
Tried showing him furniture, I get oh thats okay and bak to his stupid gadgets!


Oh goddddddd arghhhh

 

[SunnySue]

Men! i think the problem is that in early pregnancy it is difficult for the men to really understand and bond with the baby in the way that women do. For us, we are pregnant, we feel the physical and emotional changes taking place but at this stage nothing has changed for the man? One you have your scan and he can see the baby for himself, and see a little person wriggling around i'm sure he will take more interest. it will take time but he will start to grow a bond with the baby as your pregnancy progresses. Just be patient with him, men are simple creatures

 

[amylouise1989]

I got him off the couch around 3.30am, im fuming.

Hes got up this morning and gone to work with out saying bye. Ive got mixed emotiobs, I wanna kill him but I just wanna curl up and cry!

 

[Anna456]

I really empathise - I had exactly the same with my oh at the start of pregnancy! They just don't get it at all! Mine didnt really get it until our son was born then I think it sunk in for him what my body had been busy doing for the past 9 months! Now (most of the time) he's great and having a baby has brought us a lot closer and he now realises what my body did!
Hang on in there and know you're not alone - some men mine included are just rubbish during pregnancy! X

 

[Baby Bean]

My dh was exactly the same. I was so upset as I'd stupidly thought he'd be different this time as we already have a lo but nope. He wasn't even bothered about coming to the 12 week scan, although he did come. He also point blank refused to even discuss names. He's a bit better now I'm in third tri, he even brought up the name thing without me asking and we had a conversation about it and think we've picked our names! I think they just take ages to get used to changes. Big hugs. Hopefully he'll be better the further along you get xxx

 

[Kiagirl]

I don't think men realise until they have a visual. Once mine saw her at the scan he comp changed and wanted to sort the nursery etc. once they see LO it makes it real for them

 

[Capricorn]

My husband is the same.. Wrapped up in the world of business with little acknowledgment that I'm incubating our second child haha..
At the scan he was amazed at how formed baby was.. I however wasn't all that shocked because I knew what to expect (week by week updates ha).. It became a lot more real for him.
The hormones have now subsided but the first twelve weeks were quite difficult as I was a bit all over the place.

He is a little more into it now I have a small bump.. As i get bigger, it will become more real.
My LO seems more into the pregnancy.. He's just started saying 'you have a baby in your tummy mummy?' And then tells me how cute this is... I value this sooo much more than any of my OHs contributions haha

Children are magical xx

 

[gemeaves]

They just don't get it do they! The time when you need them there the most and they don't understand that you're going to have emotions running wild.