Not coping...

[lisey]

Sorry ladies, I am on a downer at the moment and very stressed. I have had a rotten few weeks at work.

I work in childcare, its literally all of us in one room. One of my colleagues made an inappropriate comment about a child we have who has autism. I picked her up on it and told her it was wrong. She and another member of staff started saying things about this childs Mum and saying she has it easy cos she lives with family members-her child has severe autism, I doubt its easy. I explained its not easy, I myself have a son with severe autism so I know from experience. One of them said its just the same as looking after any other child etc

I got very upset as she was being very dismissive about how hard it is to look after someone with a severe disability. Anyway, long story short, we are not talking, she blocked me on facebook (I am happy about this) but now another woman at work who is actually the assistant manager has turned on me, she is being 'fake nice' if you know what I mean but making sly and snide comments all the time. She has obviously sided with the woman who says she wants to tie the child to a chair. She has also deleted me on facebook. She is quite a nasty person and I have been aware of it for a long time.

I am being made to feel like I am in the wrong for standing up for a disabled child and for my own son. I am being secluded from things cos I am passionate about standing up for people who are unable to do it for themselves. I feel like its all affecting my mental health, I feel low and unenthusiastic about everything cos the stress of it all is too much. I am literally stuck in a room with them every day.

I am considering just resigning for my own state of mind but wonder if it will be foolish to do so before finding something else?

Sorry for the big long moan, just had enough of it x

 

[tambo1976]

A few years ago my Mom worked at an old peoples home. One of the old ladies there was blind and my Mom got on really well with her. This lovely old ladies son and daughter in law came over from Australia to visit her one week and bought her a lovely and very expensive angora jumper. A few weeks later my Mom found out that another member of staff had stolen the jumper and replaced it with a very old and worn angora jumper, she said "well she's blind, as long as it feels the same to her no-one will know". My Mom was outraged and reported her to the care homes manager, who then turned out to be a cousin of the thieving bitch who took the jumper. She obviously sided with her and they made my Moms life hell, singling her out, making her do the really shitty jobs and generally making her job very miserable. So my Mom went to the Doctor and got a sicknote for depression and work related stress and she just never went back, she just continued to job hunt then handed her notice in as soon as she found another job.

At the time I was angry at my Mom for just leaving, I thought she should have taken it further, but she explained to me that working there was making her so stressed and unhappy now that in her own health interests it was the best thing to do. She said that staying there was making her ill and even though she knew she was in the right sometimes it's just better to let things go and move on. After a while I completely understood her decision. She got a new job and was instantly much happier.

For your own sanity and health it could be the best option for you as well. Life is to short to have to work in misery. Go to the doctor and get signed off for a few weeks to give you chance to jobhunt though.

Best of luck to you xxx

 

[lisey]

Thats awful that your mum was treated like that when she was looking out for someone and how disgusting of that woman to do such a horrible thing. It really upsets me how mean people can be.
Luckily I have 2 weeks off cos of the easter and it will give me a chance to really think about things, I am looking for another job in the meantime incase something perfect comes along.
Working there has been making me ill, not eating properly, sleeping has become an issue at times and have been suffering with terrible anxiety at times, I don't know if its all cos of work but its certainly not helping. I am definately going to think of my health and wellbeing. Thanks for your reply xx