Normal worries or over thinking things?

[Donna88]

Hi all,

As many of you already know from my posts around the forum (I'm sure your fed up of seeing me) me and my fiancé are getting married in August and planning on TTC straight after the wedding.

I am very excited, but also getting very worried about things.

I already have a son to a previous relationship, my partner has no children.

I'm worried that I may have secondary infertility, or that he may not be able to have kids.

I know it's silly to worry about these things and that we may not have problems at all, I wonder if that's partly why I've recently been considering starting to try earlier.

A few years ago, I had some pains in my side and when I went to the doctors to get it checked out they found a cyst in one of my ovaries. I went back every three months to have it checked again and they thought it was very odd as it was staying exactly the same size (they seemed to think it should have been growing or shrinking.... doing anything but not just sitting there) As the pains had stopped they stopped checking up on it, they said they weren't sure what it was down to but could be caused by the depo injection. I haven't been on that for over a year now but haven't had my cyst checked either. I have no idea if it's still there blocking one of my ovaries or whether it's caused lasting damage :/

I suppose that's my main worry, something that keeps coming up in my head since we have seriously talked about conceiving this year.


Is it normal for me to have these worries or am I being paranoid? Also has anyone else had experience with a cyst and has it effected their fertility?

 

[Mrs M]

Yes absolutely normal! It took us 6 months first time, and 1 month second time. I'm thinking what if it doesn't happen, and I've only given myself 9 months to try as I think I would be too old if I went on for longer. So no pressure!

No experience with cysts though, sorry I can't help x

 

[Donna88]

Thank you,
it helps to know I'm not alone in my worrying.

I do think we sometimes put too much pressure on ourselves, when you'd tell someone else in the same situation to not be so hard on themselves.

 

[Donna88]

I don't think my worries have been helped by oh the other day saying ''If we can't have a baby, then I wouldn't bother'' when I asked what he meant by wouldn't bother, he said he just wouldn't bother.... with IVF, adoption or anything :/ I think if it came to it and we were having problems he might change his mind, as obviously it's easy to say things like that when your not in that position.

 

[mcparn]

Hi, this is my very first post. I'd like to start my own thread but can't seem to see any option to? If anyone could help, I'd really appreciate it.

Can you return to your Dr and ask them to have another look at your cyst? If anything it will put your mind at ease.

Any objections to me posting my concerns here? Xx

 

[Donna88]

No issue's with you posting your concerns here hun, I'd be glad to help if I could or I'm sure someone else would help.


Ringing the doctors and speaking to them again about the cyst would be a good idea actually, I don't know if they would scan me, but they may be able to speak to me about my chances of conceiving.

 

[mcparn]

Ooh I didn't get a notification that you'd responded sorry! I think with our first, we were both very excited but it was very much just happening to me. I was the one obsessed with conceiving/testing and it didn't seem to affect him. It might not seem as real to him. I don't mean to generalise but that's just from my experience. I so wish you don't have any conception issues xx I really would insist on a scan. Tell the your intentions to TTC and voice your concerns.

I stopped taking my pill on 2nd December and at this time, I'd had some bleeding which started just before I came off. I've not had any other bleeding in the last 2 years and not had a period for 3 years.

I had a positive ovulation test on 17/12 so I expected to have my period by now but nothing.

Symptoms wise, I've had heartburn, nausea (I know it's too early for that), bloating, gas and incredibly sore nipples. I know these can be period symptoms but prior to having my daughter I didn't suffer any symptoms.*

I expected my period 30/12 so I'm over a week later and having negative preg tests on a daily basis.

Driving me crazy already! Xx

 

[Donna88]

I will book an appointment this month if I can to speak to the doctor, not sure when I'll be able to call (in private anyway, don't want to say about ttc while at work as wouldn't want people guessing I'm pregnant in the early stages) But I will speak to the doctor and keep you updated on what they say about it.

Oh no that sounds pretty awful hun, I'm not surprised it's driving you crazy.

I hope you get a BFP soon.... if not I hope your period starts soon, so at least you know where you stand and can try again next month