no confidence-sorry miserable thread

[nmf1987]

like i say sorry girls just feel like ive had enough of feeling like this but dont feel i can talk to anyone about it.

ive suffered from depression for awhile but this seems different.

i am always worried about money and stuff but now i feel ashamed and worrie to leave the house. feel fat and frumpy. tried to do what i can to feel better but not working.

oh makes comments which im sure he feels is a joke but they are just not funny. just want to sit and cry all the time. all i want is my baby here to cuddle.

even been thinking recently that maybe me and oh wont work out as he seems to think we have all the time in the world etc and seems to get annoyed when i mention stuff about baby.

i know we always want stuff done straight away but i wouldnt want baby to come early and nothing be ready.

sorry for such a miserable post. could go on but will stop. i know there are other people that are feeling similar on here so any ideas what we could all do to help each other. xxx

 

[LuciaLeek]

Oh hun...I'm not sure what I can say to help you feel any better

Maybe speak to your OH about the way you feel. It's only natural to feel down when your hormones are racing around! Letting it all out is so much better than bottling it up, but if you don't feel ready to say anything to him yet, then we're always here for you to chat to
xxxx

 

[wishuponastar]

xx

 

[toni64539]

Oh no! Sorry your feeling so down. You really can't go on like that. I don't really have any advice I'm afraid other than sit down with your other half and explain to him, I'm sure he doesn't mean anything bad, it's just men are insensitive x x

 

[snr1982]

Hey, sorry to hear you are feeling like this. You defo should have a word with your other half if the comments he is making are upsetting you. As for feeling fat and frumpy - welcome to the club - I have good days and bad but you just have to keep telling yourself there is a baby in there. I moan to my other half about being a fat lump and he always says " no you aren't you are having a baby" . I hate the fact that my old clothes no longer fit me though! Just remember its okay to have a good cry and don't bottle things up as it makes the situation feel a whole lot worse than it actually is esp. as we are having hormone overloads! I also think all men think they have all the time in the world esp when it comes to shopping! its annoying but you could use food as a incentive - say oh fancy going out for lunch and pick somewhere close to Mothercare or some other baby shop then after you have eaten and he is full and happy say " oh lets just pop in and see what they have" anything to do with food and usually my oh is well up for it.. haha. btw don't tell my oh as he doesn't know about my little tricks to get him to do things I want..

 

[xx emma xx]

Im having a shit time too. All i do is worry, my anxiety/depression has came back and i just feel crap all the time. Ive begun to feel scared about the future, money and how i will cope with baby. I actually lay crying for about 2 hours lastnight before going to sleep, a mixture of getting frustrated about my sleeping problems and generally feeling down. I just expected to feel happy all the time when pregnant but that is just not the case. I know i need help and need to talk to someone and im waiting on my hospital appointment coming through for that but its taking ages and i feel like im going to go mad I wish i could say something to help. Only that if you ever need a chat private mail me xxx

 

[Vicxzy]

Oh hun I know how you feel Im having a crap time too, speak to OH he probably thinks hes being funny or cheering u up? Is there anyone you are close to that you can confide in? Blokes are generally laid back with prep for babies hes probably just wanting you not to stress yourself any more than you already are by rushing it all.
Feel free to PM me if you need to talk xxx

 

[nmf1987]

thanks all. sounds silly but i just feel lost and alone.

feels like im doing it all by myself. i know im not but cant shake the feeling.

im scared of feeling like this as when i felt like it last time i was so down i couldnt pull myself out of it and had some very horrible thoughts. im not having those now as whatever happens between me and oh etc or how i feel about myself i am having the miracle of a baby.

i think i am worrying myself that something is going to go wrong wtc. just one of those times when it doesnt matter what you do you worry about every last thing.

thanks again girls. so nice to know you are all here. xxx

 

[jld123]

its awful that you feel this way. we need to lift your spirits. Ive put on a stone and a half in 6 months, i look fat in the face, my thighs are twice their size and im definately frumpy. but guess what, im pregnant and so are you! think of your body as a temporary crib for your baby for the time being - whether you feel fat and ugly or absolutely stunning, your baby doesnt care & im pretty sure your OH doesnt either! try and laugh along with it, its only temporary - as soon as shes here you can get yourself into the shape you want again. Just the other day my bf took a photo of me & i looked at it and laughed at how chubby my face was, he goes 'yehhh you little sausage roll' and we laughed together. your doing this for you and your OH. and nothing could be more amazing, so what if you look a little drab some days. in a few months you'll be a yummy mummy chin up xx

 

[Merfairy]

Hey, I can relate to some of what your saying the crying and feeling frumpy; it is great being pregnant, but there is also the whole issue with weight gain; and a change in the hormones never helps the mood. I have days where I think the worst, it is natural and crying.. well a lot of us when pregnant are going to get down and tearful at times. Tell your OH how you feel sweet.. wish you feel better xx