aaaaw shucks guys, thank you for the warm welcome. I'm loving it here already
so in brief, here is my situation...I have suffered from depression stress and anxiety (with some self injury and eating issues too) for over 15 years. 2 years ago I was hospitalized for depression and have been taking medication to help stabilize how I was coping and feeling.
I have recently come off my medication, partly because of the whole 'let's start a family thing' and partly because DH and my parents think that "surely I must be better by now and dont need to be on
that medication anymore". In truth I was feeling much more stable and was willing to try to come off my meds, so I did and now I feel myself sliding back down. I am very anxious and feeling very self destructive and not really coping. I have gone past the withdrawal stage of the medication, but not really coping. I have some very well ingrained habits that are hard to break and I guess you could say that I am not really looking after myself very well right now.
I tried mentioning to DH and my parents that I'm not sure if it's quite the right time for me to be going cold turkey and my parents response "oh you are just having a bad day" (oh really do people who are just having a *bad* day have to hurt and harm themselves?!) and my DH, bless him, just doesnt really understand anything to do with mental health (ignorance is bliss if you ask me) and I find it really difficult to explain to him how bad I really do feel becuase it will just upset him and he is the last person on earth I want to hurt. So all in all, it doesnt look like going back on my meds is really an option without me disappointing the people I love and care about (I have real issues with that)
Anyway so howcome I have come onto PF? Here are the questions that are smashing around in my head all the time at the moment...
If I cannot look after myself right now - how can I look after another life?
I feel like such a failure - I dont want to fail another person
What if they inherit my screwed up mind? I wouldnt wish that on my worst enemy.
I freak out when I lose control over anything and how will I cope with losing control of my body
How will I cope with a changing body when I cant stand it the way it is
What if G-d forbid there was a problem with the baby?
Would my in laws
ever leave me alone?!
I would love to have children, I love children, all my friends kids love me and I can really relate to kids of all ages, but what if I fail with my own?
I'm sorry, that wasnt such a brief post afterall. If anyone can identify with anything I am feeling and can help me put things into perspective and help me feel less alone and less of a freak, I would be so grateful.
thank you
x mouse x