New to forum - having a VERY bad day indeed!

[barrbiee_doll]

Hi - am new to this website - have been TTC for ovr a year now - no luck yet

Feeling incredibly irritable today as my little sister has just found out she is preg (unwanted and is not going to keep it) this is the second time she has done this in the whole time I have been trying

I cant help but feel completely robbed! and I want to be supportive but am finding it very hard not to be bitter

Has anyone else had a similar situation that they have had to deal with cos i could really use some tips for handling my incredible sadness about the situation and my anger?

Please help me

 

[EmmaN27]

I have never been in this situation but feel sorry for you, life can be so unfair. It annoys me that people can be so careless with something others treasure so much. Hope you get your BFP soon! xxx

 

[Tanya4beauty]

Hi there, welcome to pf. Sorry this has happened to you, life is so unfair. I haven't had this directly happen to me but a couple of weeks ago a customer of mine was telling me all about her 14 year old granddaughter who was having a termination and I was feeling down about not getting pg so that was the last thing I wanted to hear. I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal and I have to say that if my sister announced she was pg right now I'd feel exactly the same.
Hugs Hun xxxxx

 

[barrbiee_doll]

Thank you so much for replying to me - it actually made me cry! i've been reluctant to join a site to talk to people as I am very supersticious and fear I might 'jinx' myself but clearly talking is exactly what i need to do (judging by that reaction anyway!)

I couldn't agree more with your comment by the way - I just couldn't understand why she felt the need to call me first - it kinda felt like a kick in the stomach

 

[Tanya4beauty]

Unfortunately I don't think people realise how it feels when you want something so much and it isn't happening. That's why it's great on here, you can share your feelings with people who know exactly how you feel.
Have you been to the docs yet as they will do some tests normally if you have been trying over a year. Xxxx

 

[barrbiee_doll]

Going in to see me GP on friday morning - im terrified absolutely petrified in fact - my OH is being supportive though so thats good (as supportive as can be expected - his father has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer) as you can imagine our stress levels are through the roof; have been looking adoringly at a packet of kalms tablets for weeks now

Never rains but it pours eh!

 

[Tanya4beauty]

I'm sorry to hear about your oh's father, that's awful for you both.
I was petrified of going to the docs too but just remember they see people like us all the time and they are there to help. Hopefully it will help you to feel a bit better and get some answers xx

 

[itisbabytime]

welcome!! i am entirely pro-choice but some situation really get me riled up - such as this so completely understand your frustration. all teh ladies on here are lovely so im sure you will find PF useful! hope you get yout BFP soon!

 

[barrbiee_doll]

Sorry to agitate you with my story itsbabytime; I am also absolutely pro-choice but also very pro-taking-responsability-for-ones-actions

personally I agree with EmmaN27; my sister has been careless with something we all concider precious - in her defence, although i think telling me about it wasn't the most empathetic thing she could have done, i guess she was looking for the big-sis support that I am not prepared to give her and i believe we all do thoughtless things in despair

I feel supporting her goes against everything i care about so much i dont want to validate what she is doing in any way; i'd rather not get involved for my own sanity.

Am feeling better about this today - had time to talk it though with some of you lovely ladies and vent and reflect on the situation and reckon at the moment distancing myself from the situation is the way forward.

Thank you all for being so understanding xxxx

 

[EmmaN27]

FX you get you BFP soon, and, when you do, it will be that much more special and worth all the waiting! xxx