Nervous...

[Barbiexx]

Just waiting for ex/oh/whatever is going on between us to come down

He really doesnt want me to have the baby but has agreed to come and talk about things with me, which is a start I suppose!

Im really nervous...I just hope he comes round to see my way of thinking

Wish me luck ladies

xx

 

[JayK2387]

Awww babe Hope all go's ok xx

 

[Sammy J]

Awww hope everything goes ok?

I had a friend like this but I think in different circumstances. Her husband was married before and had a 16 year old son, then when she got pregnant he was acting strange like he wasn't particularly interested.
After the 12 week scan he was fine about it and is now one of the best dads I know.

So even after a rocky start things may pan out fine.

How long have you been together?

 

[Snuggle]

I hope things have went well with your talk hun

 

[Mama 2 Be]

Good luck hon. Hope all goes well.

 

[Barbiexx]

Thanks everyone

We had been together for 4 years Sammy. He is still quite adament he doesn't want the baby, to the point he is threatening not to see me if I carry on with the pregnancy. To be honest, Im determined to do it on my own because its my baby and he/she will always come first even if they are just a little seed He has a child from a previous relationship, and despite loving him to bits he says he just can't do it again.

I've cunningly brought his shopping home with me though so he might have a chance to think before he sees me to pick it up To be honest I dont know why I bother - had comments such as 'Haha, next year when Im living it up in Ibiza, you'll be proper fat about to push a baby out of your ****'

 

[Jaidy]

Those comments are terrible Barbie...

If he decides not to stick around then will it be such a bad thing?????!!!!!

Seriously though you have the right frame of mind, and he will probably come around eventually, but dont let yourself be treated like a doormat, you dont deserve that!

I hope it all works out for you hunny

 

[Tiny Sue]

Honey, 4 years is a long time - but if he's making comments like THAT I'd leave his shopping on the doorstep in the rain with the cat sitting on top of it and change the locks.

I'm sorry if that came across a little sharp - he's not being supportive at all, and saying he won't see you if you decide to have the baby should be telling you all you need to know.

Hope all goes well for you hun.



Sue

 

[Mama 2 Be]

Sack him! Bloody men!

 

[Chopsie]

With comments like that, why would you even want him around? If he can't face up to his responsibilities, he's not worth bothering with

 

[Chopsie]

And if you're only 17 and have been with him 4 years, when on earth did he father another kid?? I would hope he's not that much older than you, given you must have only been 13 when you started dating him. He sounds like a charmer...

 

[Barbiexx]

He's 23...I lied about my age when we first got together, he was 19 and believed I was 16

But anyway, I know he is a a**ehole, I just kept hoping he would change his mind and prove me wrong ... but why change the habit of a lifetime I suppose! I think we will be better off without him - plenty of support from family and friends

 

[Chopsie]

As long as you've got lots of support, that's the main thing

 

[shelleyb]

men!!!!!! U need to do what is right for you, u and baby come first!!!! I hope ur chat goes well and that he actually listens. This is not what u need when ur pregnant - men pick their times!!!!

Good luck hun

 

[lillyblue]

awh darling!!!!!

My heart goes out to you, I havent seen this thread but thought to have a nosey! Like you said if your happy bringing your bump up then go for it!!

You dont need someone putting you down at such a special time in your life! I had it in a previous relationship and thats why he is now an ex!!

PM me if you need a chat!

x

 

[HollyHobby]

why are some men are happy to make the babies but the next stage is a no go?
I'm curious, are these men plonkers before the babies are made or do they just turn into them after they are made?
if they dont want kids they should wear condoms!!!

i think so far youre best shot of him by the sounds of it. let's hope he gets some sence into him.

 

[Sammy J]

What was the outcome of your chat?

Have you kicked him into touch, or has he come round a bit?