negative reactions to pregnancy

[nikki85]

Im 32 and 5 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I have had to tell work already because of the nature of my job so i decided to tell my family aswell. I have received some negative reactions, some people are acting like i have done something wrong or ruined my life. My partner and i are both 32, in stable jobs and are over the moon. I thought my family would be excited llike they were when my younger sister announced both her pregnancies but i couldnt be more wrong. I feel so upset and hurt by the reactions. My partner told his mum a few days ago and i havent recieved so much as a text from her saying congratulations?! A few family members have been really supportive but the rest couldnt care less as far i can tell. I havent asked them for help in anyway im financially secure and i feel like this is the right time to have a baby so why dont they share my happiness? Im emotional anyway but feel even worse now, i regret sharing my news with anybody as they have taken the joy away from me. This should be the happiest time of my life but it feels like the worst. I am angry that they have made me like this. Has anybody else gone through something similar and if so how did you deal with it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Teacup10]

Hi Nikki85 I'm so sorry you didn't get the reaction you were hoping for, don't let it dampen your excitement! If it's the right time for you and your partner then no one else's opinion matters. Easier said than done I know, my partner told his mum two weeks ago and she hasn't called or text to wish me congratulations even when she knows what a struggle it was going through a miscarriage earlier this year! It's horrible how someone else's reaction can dampen your mood and excitement! Keep your chin up xxxx

 

[nikki85]

Thank you for the reply, i know other peoples reactions shouldnt matter and maybe thats why im feelin like this because im upset and angry i have let their reactions get to me. I am happy about my baby and i just need to focus on the positives and the exciting journey me and my partner are making. Xx

 

[MrsS15]

Hi Nikki and welcome to PF!

I'm so sorry your family haven't been supportive, I find that so sad when you're in ideal circumstances and it's a much wanted baby. What's not to be happy about? If I was you I would keep my distance from family if they're going to put you down so much. You and your partner should enjoy every second of this journey and when your family realise they're missing out they'll come round. Don't let anyone get close enough to dampen your joy hun!

Congratulations on your baby. I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy xxx

 

[Haylian]

Massive congratulations Nikki on your pregnancy.
It's such a shame your family have reacted in such a negative way, and how odd considering you have a sibling who has already had children. I would keep my distance for a while and just be excited together. some people don't realise the impact they can have ��

 

[Loopylou1980]

Im 32 and 5 weeks pregnant with my first baby. I have had to tell work already because of the nature of my job so i decided to tell my family aswell. I have received some negative reactions, some people are acting like i have done something wrong or ruined my life. My partner and i are both 32, in stable jobs and are over the moon. I thought my family would be excited llike they were when my younger sister announced both her pregnancies but i couldnt be more wrong. I feel so upset and hurt by the reactions. My partner told his mum a few days ago and i havent recieved so much as a text from her saying congratulations?! A few family members have been really supportive but the rest couldnt care less as far i can tell. I havent asked them for help in anyway im financially secure and i feel like this is the right time to have a baby so why dont they share my happiness? Im emotional anyway but feel even worse now, i regret sharing my news with anybody as they have taken the joy away from me. This should be the happiest time of my life but it feels like the worst. I am angry that they have made me like this. Has anybody else gone through something similar and if so how did you deal with it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I`am so sorry to read this, Try not to let it upset you & get you down, Easier said than done i know. My partner & i both have children from a previous relationship so when we announced i was pregnant with our son my partners family were like oh right which i thought was so rude while my family were very supportive, I`am dreading announcing this pregnancy to my partners family but at the end of the day its our life not theirs & i really want my son to have a little brother or sister of his own to grow up with as all our children have already grown up X

 

[nikki85]

Thank you all for your advice and kind words, im keeping my distance for a while and staying stress free. My partner and i are overjoyed and cant wait to meet our little one! If others arent happy then thats their problem, i refuse to let any negativity get me down anymore because this is the best time of my life and i wont let anybody ruin that for us. We've got a busy few months ahead and we'll be focussing on that from now on xx