Well maybe I should be telling this to my mum, my best friend or my sister, but for some reason I think they'll think badly of me and I don't want them thinking too badly of my OH who Im about to rant about.
Our daughter is 6 weeks old now, a pleasure to be around, a great sleeper, eater and is just perfect really... I keep thinking we have this perfect little family unit, and I can't see why anyone would not be content to be part of it.
However, my OH just seems to always want more. From the day we found out we were expecting, he's always made it clear that he intends 'to keep his own life', which means out with mates, skydiving etc. Ive never been happy with his skydiving but never stopped him, however, I expected he might think of giving up once Livvy came along.
Maybe this is asking too much, he just seems to go on and on about keeping his own life etc, doing what he wants. But he just forgets, I have Livvy all day, every day and every night, through good times and bad, and he sometimes even grudges taking her for an hour whilst I take a shower. He very rarely feeds her, and NEVER changes her nappy unless absolutely neccessary.
Ive just got my first period which is terribly painful and heavy, Ive got a reeally bad cold and cough (which I don't wanna give to Livvy) and he still doesn't seem to want to put himself out a bit to take care of her for a little while.
I just feel totally lost. My parents think the world of him, and I love him to absolute bits. I just feel like me and Olivia are just a big problem to him.
Hes such a lovely guy when he wants to be, and we are soo happy in the good times...
I honestly don't know what to do, I don't know what anyone can say to help, I think I just wanted to write it all down, see if that helps.
This forum has always been a great help in the past, kind of like an unbiased best friend...
Maybe someone can give me some kind of reassurance.. or advice.
I know there are worse things happening to people on here, such as miscarriage etc... Im just using it as a sounding board really.
Sorry for going on so, what a HUGE post! oops!
If you got this far, thank you so much for taking the time
Angela and Olivia xx
Our daughter is 6 weeks old now, a pleasure to be around, a great sleeper, eater and is just perfect really... I keep thinking we have this perfect little family unit, and I can't see why anyone would not be content to be part of it.
However, my OH just seems to always want more. From the day we found out we were expecting, he's always made it clear that he intends 'to keep his own life', which means out with mates, skydiving etc. Ive never been happy with his skydiving but never stopped him, however, I expected he might think of giving up once Livvy came along.
Maybe this is asking too much, he just seems to go on and on about keeping his own life etc, doing what he wants. But he just forgets, I have Livvy all day, every day and every night, through good times and bad, and he sometimes even grudges taking her for an hour whilst I take a shower. He very rarely feeds her, and NEVER changes her nappy unless absolutely neccessary.
Ive just got my first period which is terribly painful and heavy, Ive got a reeally bad cold and cough (which I don't wanna give to Livvy) and he still doesn't seem to want to put himself out a bit to take care of her for a little while.
I just feel totally lost. My parents think the world of him, and I love him to absolute bits. I just feel like me and Olivia are just a big problem to him.
Hes such a lovely guy when he wants to be, and we are soo happy in the good times...
I honestly don't know what to do, I don't know what anyone can say to help, I think I just wanted to write it all down, see if that helps.
This forum has always been a great help in the past, kind of like an unbiased best friend...
Maybe someone can give me some kind of reassurance.. or advice.
I know there are worse things happening to people on here, such as miscarriage etc... Im just using it as a sounding board really.
Sorry for going on so, what a HUGE post! oops!
If you got this far, thank you so much for taking the time
Angela and Olivia xx