I'm going to be really harsh here, I've followed your story from the beginning and really feel for you and everything that your ex has put you and your little girl through.... It just beggars belief that anyone could treat the woman that they supposedly love and their newborn baby that way. I've read your more recent posts, and you've sounded like a totally different person, happy, confident, in love with your little girl, all the things a mother should be
Then you started seeing your ex again and talking about giving things another go and surprise surprise here you are again, upset, being let down by him and letting him push you and your daughter to the back of the queue when it comes to things he needs to take responsibility for. I get that's he' might be sick, but it's a bloody ulcer not terminal cancer....hundreds and thousands of people live with and function with ulcers perfectly normally and his hasn't even been confirmed yet.
Any normal man would have jumped at the opportunity to spend time with their child if it was offerered to them in his situation not come up with some pitiful excuse. What would happen if you got sick?? Would that mean that you wouldn't have to still be a parent to your daughter or more to the point, would that mean that you would not WANT to be a parent to her or would expect not to have to be??? I don't think so.
This is the harsh bit, and It's only based on what you have told us on PF and my own personal opinion based on that information. I think he's a loser. I don't think he will ever put you and your little girl first. I think you're better off without him and can't see what he provides you with in this relationship? Where's the stability? Where's the support? Where's the consistency? He won't even commit to having his daughter one day a week for crying out loud, without playing the "poor me" card and getting stroppy.
Again, it's just my opinion, but all I have to go on is what you've told us about him. I understand that he's your daughters father and that you want him to play a role in her life but he doesn't seem to be capable or interested in doing that. If it was me (and again, this is just my opinion) I'd walk away, put formal access and financial support systems in place and leave it at that. You want the best for your daughter.... Is he the best???
Well done if you managed to read to the end of this, I've gone to reply to your posts so many times but the other girls always seem to say everything I want to so much better than I can
. Anyway, you're a strong woman and a great mother and are well capable of making your own decisions.... I've just given you my opinion, but it's your life and only you can make the decisions that need to be made xxx
