My short story ..TTC 2 years now

[soniaj]

Hello Ladies.

My name is Sonia I am 21 years old (22 this year) my partner is 34 years old nearly 35 he is like a big kid.... anyway we have been together for about 3 years we are trying for a baby no luck for about 2years :'(. I finally got my self together and made a Doctors app. to see what is wrong with us. As it is really heart breaking not being able to see a BFP on a test.


Any way I think i was pregnant and lost the baby quite early as i have had symptoms that i have never felt i had cramping, high tem. 37.5 /37.8 degrees Celsius and i just felt fine i also had head aches and i also felt quite sick. Took 2 pregnancy test and had a really faint positive test result. so i got all my hopes up that maybe just maybe its my time to be a mummy. Its really hard for my as i dont have anyone to talk to about these things apart from my partner (but hes a guy so he dont understand what i actually mean and what i am actually going through)

TTC for 2 years has really got me mentally i lose hope i get quite angry when some ones asks if we are planning a baby, and the most sad part of all of this is that I end up arguing with my other half bout this as it makes me soo angry and i just dont understand why im not able to have a baby.

Maybe one of you ladies has been through similar experience and will be able to give me some advice as i literally dont know what to do anymore i am a the stage of just giving up as i am becoming hopeless i just dont know what to do as i cant do much about it.

I Have made the fist step by making the doctors app which i should of done long ago but im scared that there might be something wrong with me or my other half

I even though about going to see a specialist just to talk things out from my heart


SORRY FOR THE LONG POST.

 

[snowbee]

Hiya,
Sorry to hear you have been having a tough time. You have done the right thing making a doctors appointment as they should refer you for tests to see if there are any problems. Usually they will start by giving you a blood test to check your hormone levels, a blood test to see if you are ovulating, an ultrasound scan to check everything is ok there and your partner should also have to do a sperm analysis. Once your results are back you can usually be referred to a fertility clinic where they may run further tests or start you on a course of treatment depending on what they have discovered.

It is a really difficult journey this ttc, it took us a long time and although times were hard it really helps if you can stay strong together and continue to enjoy your life while ttc.

Do you have regular cycles and have you been tracking your ovulation? It really helps to dtd on the correct days to maximise your chances.

 

[MissKW]

Hi, I know this is an old post but thought I would share anyway in case you still haven't had any luck.
I'm sorry that its taking such a long time for you, but if you had a chemical pregnancy that is a good sign for ttc!
I know its very hard when you want this so badly but just try to relax. I fell pregnant unexpectedly October 2015 but lost that one at 12 weeks due to blighted ovum (empty sac). We were completely heart broken and then tried desperately for at least 11months with no luck at all. We tracked days, used OPKs, and did everything we possibly could at the time. Month after month it got harder and harder seeing the BFN, especially as so many people around us were announcing their pregnancies etc.
We then decided to take a break and get married before trying again. We are due to marry 2 weeks today (very exciting!!) and last month we had 1 random night of passion, as we had no luck trying for so long we thought nothing of it as we were convinced we would have issues ttc again in future. Anyway, 2 weeks later I got a very unexpected BFP and I am now 6w 1d! We are so so happy, we had to swap our dream honeymoon for something less extravagant as there was a risk of zika at our original destination, and I may look a bit bloated in my dress, but we couldn't care less as this is such a blessing for us.
My advice is to just relax, stop stressing and obsessing, and just have fun. It will happen eventually, and you are young so you have time on your side too
Good luck!