Mother In Law!!!!!

[KarolinaMoon]

I have a 4.5 month old baby girl, who is a great baby, however at the moment is teething and at times can get quite upset with it. My MIL has been a bit over bearing at times with 'advise' , and up until now I have been biting my tongue! However yesterday we were over for lunch, and Lanna, my baby was a bit unsettled, also hungry and ready for a sleep.....
MIL, rushed over to me whilst I was trying to calm Lanna, and feed her, and held her arms out saying 'give her to me sure'. I refused and said it was okay. But she still sat there hanging over my shoulder, making me feel uncomfortable, and I think Lanna was picking up on my uneasiness and wouldnt calm down. Eventually I gave in and handed Lanna over to MIL.....all the time really really biting my tongue not to scream in MIL's face.
Much to my horror, (and MIL's delight), Lanna calmed down once in MIL's arms. I was raging, and glared over at hubby, who had kinda missed it all lol. MIL, then proceeded to rub Lanna's tummy, cooing and saying 'ohh dear is your tummy sore'......even though I kept telling MIL no, Lanna is teething at the moment and right now needs her bottle and a nap.
Once I had calmed down a bit, I gave MIL the benefit of the doubt, and put it all down to MIL trying to help, and thinking she was helping.
However, I was kinda shocked at how her actions actually made me feel like a bit of an incompetent mother. Am I right to feel annoyed at MIL? xx

 

[mae010]

Yes!!!
She shouldnt make you feel like that!
Im 5 weeks pregnant and my MIL already telling me what to do how to raise the baby.

And she keeps going on that christmas shes going to get everything daying grandma!

I give her the benfit of the dout but my god she annoys me
Xxx

 

[STP]

If my mother in law ever tried to take over it would be the last thing she'd do x

 

[tabbi]

Its not right in anyway shape or form hunni, she can OFFER advise if you say so, but taking over is a no no. She needs to learn boundaries within your family relationship. She needs to understand she is your baby and your her mother therefore she needs to butt her nose out. And unless You ask her to help you or you give her to your MIL she needs to butt out and let you be the mummy...not her.

You need to stand up for yourself and make yourself heard hun, otherwise she is going to continue. Say to your MIL that your thankful for everything she has done with regards to your daughter but that you want her take a step back and let you be a mummy, and if she carrys on, then you do not want her to come round as often or she will be kicked out. I know its harsh but some MIL need to be taught...I had to with my ex's mum she was just as bad got to the point i didn't go round or answer the door until she got the hint. She still made comments to me, but they werent as often, lucky for me she couldnt fed my daughter as she was breastfed...one of the upsides x x x

 

[knopk@]

As much as she probably means well, its your child and you need to learn. Unless you ask for advice or help, she shouldnt taker her from you.
My mil wouldnt dream of it

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[xSebbiesMumx]

You do have a right to be annoyed!, but im sure she meant well!
My parents do the same to me with my son, when he cries and im trying my best to soothe him their always hanging around with their arms out saying 'Come to grandma/grandad'..I sometimes feel like saying...Its my child, ill deal with him!