moaning again!

[lisa_davidson]

hi,
i do hate to moan...and believe me i am really happy about my baby boy and can't wait but feel like everything is messing up around me!

firstly my bro in law has taken us up on an offer from over a year ago and decided he is gonna move in within a month or so!!! he isnt that bad but he is bringing his jack russell dog that pee's up everything even though he insists he wont! i know we have four dogs but they aren't allowed in the house and i have turned into a clean freak since i got pregnant. next worry is i wouldn't trust the dog around my baby but i know everyone is gonna say i'm over reacting and make me appear as the wicked witch! but the dog has gone for mew and my mum once before so u can understand why i don't trust him!

second worry is money! no matter what we do our wages can never last the month and my husband is terrible with money and seems to throw his down the drain without actually buying anything! and he doesn't drink or go out so i have no idea how this is possible. every month he assures me he will be carefull but hey presto we got paid friday and almost skint already! it's driving me mental

i know i shouldn't be getting depressed cos not good for me or baby! but i just feel like ripping my hair out!!


sorry to be so miserable but i just don't know what to do.

lisa xxxx

 

[trixipaws]

if u dont let UR OWN dogs in the house surely he'll understand if u dont let HIS dog in either?
i sympathise with the money thing, i'm a bit like ur husband- i thought i'd be rich when i got pregnant and no longer spent money on going out all the time- but i still no better off really my money just disappears
hope ur mood lifts x x

 

[littlebump]

Hi Lisa

What a nightmare.

I wouldn't trust any dog alone with a baby - even if they have no history of agression towards people, but if this dog has gone for you in the past, you have every right to be concerned - definitely don't allow the dog to be left alone with the baby.

Is there not somewhere else your BIL can go? It's a bit insensitive to expect the offer to be still open when you're about to have a baby. What does your OH say about it? Is there a time limit on the stay?

On the upside, it might be helpful having an extra pair of hands around the place when baby first arrives - you may just need to lay down the ground rules and make sure he pulls his weight when it comes down to cooking and cleaning.

Hope everything works itself out

LBxx

 

[lisa_davidson]

the problem is we couldn't put his dog out with mine because his dog doesn't get on with other male dogs! and i think my four would eat him!

his brother is ok and i don't mind him moving in at all. i'm just concerned about the dog and having hairs all over everything which i can't stand which is why ours don't come in the house! my husband just likes to keep the peace in all situations so would just see that i am being moany for no reason! i have hinted to him about it but he just keeps saying we will sort something out but i can't see any way around this! this dog cocks his leg up everything and i can't bear to even think about that!

we haven't put a limit on the stay- i don't mind him being here he is quite a sensible guy but i'm just worried im gonna wanna string the dog up! i don't think he will stay too long...he is thinkin about renting.

lisa xxxx

 

[Sabrina]

I'd also feel like this with the thought of a little dog coming to stay! Don't mean to sound horrible but dogs are ok in small doses, and even though I've had quite a few when I lived with my parents I believe they don't belong near babies.

I think you will have to talk to your B.I.L about this otherwise it's really going to get you down. If the dog "cocks his leg" up everywhere how can you ensure the baby is in a clean environment? You'll be forever disinfecting everything

Is your B.I.L. going to pay you some rent? If he's in the house, using electricity, gas, phone etc he should be contributing something, even if it's only a token, towards his overheads. That at least might be a little help towards your money worries too.

I'm also worried about money. A lot of us on here seem to be in the same situation so I really sympathise.

 

[Redshoes]

lisa_davidson
I think you are more important than this little dog, no matter who it belongs to, and I'm sure your BIL would understand if you told him how you felt You have enough on your mind without a doggy wee wee'ing all over the house I know if our dog was like that he'd be getting assigned somewhere in the garden or his own room, not wandering around causing anxiety, very best wishes

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

I would tell him how you feel .
We have a dog and we dont mind leaving him in the same room as Kiara but thats cuz he is very very good with her but a strange dog that isnt yours i couldnt do it either.
Hope you guys can work somthing out
Katrina