Moan - sorry Tmi

[jazz1984]

Sorry tmi alert.

Am having a really rubbish day. Just need to vent! Dd is colicky all the time atm and it's so distressing not being able to soothe her (no matter what position she is in, or rubbing her belly or burping and bicycling her). Going to start infacol. So tired (as im sure you all are!). Feel rubbish not being able to sleep in the day to catch up but don't feel safe sleeping without hubby here. Irrationally I also don't yet trust any family members with her (don't know what's up with me!). Literally haven't been able to put her down all afternoon as the second I do she cries.

finally to add insult to injury I took her to the doctor for oral thrush after her bum got super sore. Her bum is a lot better now but oral thrush is still here. Doctor made me feel like I was wasting her time. I also had my 6 week check and after a 3a tear they said it wasn't necessary to check me unless I was in pain or bleeding badly (I am only bleeding a bit now). This was a different doctor at the same surgery. Anyway I have finally plucked the courage up today to check to see if I am ok (I was so swollen initially I couldn't really see anything). And the doctor/surgeon who stitched me has put a random stitch in! Literally it's practically in the middle of me so no hope of sex lol (clearly she thought I should stop at one!). So now I'm going to have to get numbed and recut and the sad thing is that the thing that worries me the most is I already seem to have been labelled a hyperchondriac by the doctors and I really don't want to see them again

Sorry for the long post.

 

[Dotty_woman]

You are not a hyperchondriac; you are a new mum. There are lots of questions you need to ask and that's normal. At the end of the day, if your little one has oral thrush you are not being unreasonable wanting to seethe doctor about it. That's what they're there for. It's the doctor that's being unreasonable here, not you! I top of that add the sleep deprivation and this awful palaver with your tear and I'm surprised you're doing as well as you are. Sounds awful. Hope you manage to get it sorted quickly. Hugs xxx

 

[naomip]

Your doing so well, we all have days where we feel like everything is going wrong, especially in the early days. I found that gripe water was better for my son then the infacol. Also have you got a sling you could wear him in. It makes such a huge difference having your arms free and usually soothes them to sleep.

God I remember feeling so mutilated down below after labour. I didn't tear but had an episiotomy, the doctor made a total mess of it and 3 months later I had to have it recut and stitched, it really wasn't as bad as I was expecting (it was only 3 stitches the. Second time around) and afterwards it felt so much better. God you're brave thinking about sex! I didn't let hubby near me for months hahaha. X

 

[SR35]

I can totally sympathise with you. My lo is six months now but when she was first born I was in agony from the episiotomy and could barely sit down. People kept saying it would feel better in a couple of weeks but it was still painful for a long time especially if I walked anywhere and it didn't heal completely for a good few months. On top of that there was the pain of starting breastfeeding, the no sleep at night and, like you, a baby who always seemed to be crying if not feeding or asleep. Looking back I don't know how I coped and I think I cried quite a lot and found it really hard to adjust to my new life of everything revolving around looking after the baby. It really was hard but as I'm sure everyone says, it DOES get easier! Infacol seemed to help my lo although you have to give it a few days to get into their system.

As for the doctor, I would ask to see somebody different until you find one that you are happy with who doesn't make you feel like you're wasting their time. I went quite a few times for different things and luckily had a really nice lady but on one occasion when lo was refusing milk and the health visitor told me to go and get her checked, I saw somebody different and he made me feel like I was just a neurotic mother! So I won't ever see him again!

Try not to worry, everything will heal up in time and when lo is that little bit older and the colic stops it will be so different. Remember you're not alone and this will pass before you know it! xxx

 

[Staceylou27]

I sympathise with you on the colic matter! My daughter had I from about 3 weeks old we used infacol and it helped loads. It does take around 4/5 days to take effect tho so give it time before you might see improvements.

At around 12 weeks she would refuse to take the infacol and would spit it out. We took her cue and stopped giving her it and the colic hasn't been a problem since.

On the napping I would just trust yourself to have a nap. Maybe on the sofa so your not overly comfy to fall into a deep sleep- maybe set your alarm for a certain time so you can check baby until you feel more comfortable. Have baby nearby in Moses baaket or pram etc where you know there not going to move from.

 

[jazz1984]

Thanks ladies, feeling a bit more positive today so going to call doc. Do any of you use the infacol and breastfeed? She seems to be constantly feeding and it says to give before each feed? How often did you do it?

 

[Staceylou27]

I was combi feeding but it was more bottle tbh and I gave her it before every bottle or breast feed but if she hadn't finished her bottle in one go when she did want the rest say 30mins later I didn't give her infacol again.

Just use your instinct go with what you think

 

[tinkerbell13]

Thanks ladies, feeling a bit more positive today so going to call doc. Do any of you use the infacol and breastfeed? She seems to be constantly feeding and it says to give before each feed? How often did you do it?

I breastfeed and used infacol (to be honest It didn't work with our lo) our lo was feeding every hour initially and I asked the hv the same question. She said to give it every 3 - 4 hours just before feed. X

 

[Jajis]

If you're breastfeeding it is possible that your baby has passed the thrush on to you, in which case neither of you will get better until you're both treated (sorry if you already know this, but GPs never seem very clued up on it). There's more info here: http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/2448.aspx?CategoryID=54.

Oh, and I felt like I spent the first eight weeks constantly seeing a midwife / HV / GP / out of hours doctor etc., so I know what you mean about feeling like you're bothering them, but it's not really worth worrying about - your health, and your baby's health, are far more important than the possibility that you've annoyed them...

 

[jazz1984]

Thanks, yes I did know about the breast contamination thanks to a health visitor, but the doctor did seem clueless (they didn't know it can travel through their gut to the bum).

Have been booked in with gynaecologist in 33 days to fix me! Thanks for everyone's nice comments x

 

[tinselcat]

I've been using infacol while breastfeeding, I give it before most feeds which are every 3 hours or so. We've found it to help with his colic.

 

[JD.Deedee]

If your GP gives you that feeling switch to another! I'd be the first person to say toodles to my GP practice if they can't be professional! I've been stitched up wrong, not a chance on earth I'd let them redo it!