minor dilema...sorry to cross post...

[k8_005]

ok guys hope you will have the answer after loosing last babe, husband is uber protective and has banned anything and everything (seriously) that he thinks may compromise baby.... now my mum is coming down tonight and its her birthday, she really really really wants to go ice skating i have said yes ...but i know its on hubbys banned list, what do i do?? mum doesnt know about preg as she is always on about my weight in a kindly mum way and how before we try again i have to be much slimmer...... so i decided it was easier not to say anything, also we dont want to tell anyone (except our two best freinds) until after scan because of last time. so without telling her, how do i go and convince hubby its fine, or b not go and dissapoint her on her birthday?! help!!!! edit : im only 6.5weeks ish x

edit: i have my own skates and used to ice skate regualrly as a form of excersise havent been in about 6 months though, i know if i went slow i wouldnt fall as im good enough. plus would be "helping" mum who isnt a good skater...

 

[Nic36]

That's a tricky one... I guess if it was me I would prefer to do something else - just in case I fell / got pushed and caused damage to the baby - but you don't want to disappoint your Mum... Is there maybe something else a bit less risky that you know your Mum would really like to do that you could do instead - maybe say you've been having a bit of pain in your ankle or something - you think you twisted it funny, and would rather not do ice skating? Good luck with whatever you decide

 

[k8_005]

ohh yes maybe i could twist my ankle that would be a good one to say, we are going swimming tonight anyway which is nice and safe then shopping in the morning she just really wanted to go tommorrow afternoon/evening i might twist my ankle in one of the shops and then say im happy to go along and watch her, maybe tom (hubby) could go with her and i just watch as ankle a bit sore.... very good idea thankyou xxx

 

[Lulabell]

It's a risk hun. If you fall, then it could be bad. If I were you, I would try doing something else that you know she would enjoy. I don't think it's worth the risk. I think it's sweet that your OH is being protective but unfortunately bad things can't always be prevented. No matter what you do. Just try to relax and not stress yourself out. Enjoy having your OH look after you.

 

[k8_005]

thanks lulabell, the ice skating i understand, its things like im not allowed to use the ladder to go into the loft, im not allowed to carry a not heavy bag of rubbish to the bin, etc etc that gets to me i know he loves me! i think im going with the twisted ankle story. its best, x

 

[knopk@]

I would risk tbh.

 

[Nic36]

Enjoy having your husband be protective! I think it's really sweet!
Mine is trying hard to do that too, but it really doesn't come naturally to him at all - I am the one who does and organises everything in our house and, although he'll do anything I ask him to do, he never thinks to offer. Since I've been pregnant, he is trying really hard to step in and offer before I go ahead and do things myself! It's lovely! Enjoy it while it lasts - I'm such once the baby is born, he'll be less keen to offer the help in the middle of the night!

 

[k8_005]

Enjoy having your husband be protective! I think it's really sweet!
Mine is trying hard to do that too, but it really doesn't come naturally to him at all - I am the one who does and organises everything in our house and, although he'll do anything I ask him to do, he never thinks to offer. Since I've been pregnant, he is trying really hard to step in and offer before I go ahead and do things myself! It's lovely! Enjoy it while it lasts - I'm such once the baby is born, he'll be less keen to offer the help in the middle of the night!

discussed it with tom (have to post quickly as mum will arrive soon and cant be on a preg forum might give away the game!!!!) lol he agrees its best to twist my ankle or "trip over" one of the pets (obviously not actually its just quite plausable as they always run under foot!!) n offer to go along and watch her skate if she really wants to go, if not we can find something else to do. x

 

[poppypd]

I think this is a potentially funny situation, I hope your acting skills are up to it and you remember which ankle is the one to be limping on. Will you ever let her know it was a lie??? Let us know how it went??