Middle names in remembrance

[Potternutter]

We have narrowed our girls names down to either Eliza or Felicity. We were planning on using my grans name as the middle name as if goes with both.

This week a very close friend of mine and her daughter passed away very suddenly. It has been a horrendous week and I haven't mentioned it on PF as the situation she died in is too distressing for all you PG ladies. I am considering using her name as our LO middle name.

What do you think? Do you think her family would be touched or find it upsetting? Don't want to cause them any more anguish. I am worried about rubbing my newborn in their faces when her husband has just lost his wife and baby (I don't know her husband very well).

I would appreciate your honest opinions xxx

 

[Mummyof3tobe]

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend and child. I personally think it will be very touching. It is her middle name after all so will not be used constantly.

A close friend of mine used the name of the baby that another friend lost - she specifically chose it as a name in remembrance and the other friend thought it was a beautiful thing to do.


Xxx

 

[wifeywifey]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'd suggest maybe telling them before you make it official. I'm sure they will be touched by it tho.

 

[mrswtobe]

So sorry to hear of the loss of your friend, and using her name as a middle name is a very thoughtful and nice idea, I am sure her husband would be touched. My Dad died two months ago and we are using his name as the middle name of our baby boy....my mum is so touched by this and says Dad would be so proud xx Sending hugs xx

 

[Mummybexee]

A sorry to hear about this - we lost a friend who was diagnosed with cancer 24 hours after having her baby boy - she died 13 weeks later and have considered if we have a girl using her name as a middle name

I think if you approach the family in the correct manner they would be touched - it's going to be a very difficult pill for then to swollow but I think they will see the gesture in it x

 

[Reeshes18]

I think it all depends on the person and your best bet is to discuss it with their family first. My mums neighbour lost her son to Muscular Dystrophy and when a friend of hers wanted to name her newborn after him she said she didn't want her to.

 

[Pudds86]

I agree they'll will be touched and I dont want to sound mean, its not at all intended that way but you are allowed to grieve to and to remember your friend how you wish and if this is your way to do that then i think you should xx

 

[mylullaby]

Oh goodness, how awful. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend and her baby. I think it sounds like a lovely idea, but why not mention it to her husband just to put your mind at ease? If anything, it's a reason to get in touch with him, find out how he's doing and show him that you care. It can be hard to do that with someone you don't know that well but obviously have a strong connection to.

 

[Ella1979]

So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend and her daughter. I agree with all of the above. We gave our son two middle names, one in remembrance of my OH's father who passed away 12 years ago.

 

[Poispinner]

So sorry to hear that. My friends mum died a few years bk at the same time as our other friend was due. She used our friends mums name as her babys middle name and the whole family were touched. But i agree with earlier posts you should probably doulble check with the family first x