May sound trivial...

[Sarah85]

But had phone call earlier off a friend of mine (family friend who is like a sister) she's due the same week as us (2 days before)
I'm so happy for them but got me thinking and a little worried about names lol
Might sound so pathetic but I think I'd be devastated if she chose same names as us how would you go around this?
We weren't going to tell anyone our names you see.

 

[SunnySue]

Have you ever discussed names with her in the past? Maybe if you have then she will remember your choices and steer clear? Unfortunately if you dont tell her your names she cant be blamed if she choses the same one, so I think you should probably just say that you have a short list and these names are on it - hopefully this way she wont consider using them. I would try not to worry about any of it though, you might have differnt gender babies anyway, or maybe she already has a name in mind. Just enjoy someone so close sharing this amazing experience with you

 

[Sarah85]

Yeah exactly think I might just have to tell her. she's such a big mouth tho lol think that's the risk you take with names isn I. Never discussed names before with anyone really. I've always had Sophie in my head since I was little that would kill me if she chose that

 

[SunnySue]

Sophie is a lovely name Just maybe say that and another name but say you are undecided, that way she wont know for definate that is the name you want but should have the decency to steer clear of using it herself.
And anyway you might have you LO before she does if there is only 2 days difference in dates and then it wont matter at all LOL

 

[Doob]

Hopefully you'll have one of each between you so won't have this problem
. Maybe ring and ask what she'd like to do or if she things it's an issue too. X

 

[CupcakeMummy]

I'd have an early gender scan and announce the name then!

I've given it a lot of thought as I'm VERY protective on our names and we have no back ups.

 

[talulahgosh]

I think if it is that important to you, you would need to say my girl name is X and my boy name is Y. What she does with that information is entirely up to her, unfortunately there is nothing to stop her using those same names if she chooses

In our group of friends we had Sophia Jane born in February, Sophia Ruth born in April and Sophia Louise just born in June. I wouldn't use the same name as my close friends but all the parents of the three Sophia's had liked that name forever and couldn't imagine using another. Personally I think it's a bit weird, especially when we are a fairly close friendship group. But what can you do? Can't copyright a name unfortunately!

 

[Sarah85]

Thanks girls your all completely right. We're staying team yellow (and so is she)
I think I might just wait until she asks (she will lol) I dont want to bring it up first as I know if I ask and she says "Sophie" technically she said it first lol
I'm sounding so petty arnt I! I'm really not Lol

 

[talulahgosh]

PS. I meant to say about the thread title, it isn't trivial at all. Choosing names is a huge *thing* and I know I'd be upset to have my names (which I don't even know yet!) swept out from under me.

 

[mumsy4]

Loads of people I know are pregnant at the moment, and having basically every person I went to school with (friends or not) on my Facebook name choosing is even harder. At the moment at least 10 of my fb friends are pregnant and I'm in the same situation as you. I dont wanna announce my names, I want to keep it a surprise, and sadly with my son I had chosen a name(mason) and then someone had a baby a week before me and they called him mason. So I ended up letting oh have his way and we called the baby alexander instead. This time I will tell everyone yep I've got my names (even if I havent ) so that if I end up with the same name as someone else I'll just take the tough shit approach
. Xx

 

[Sarah85]

Thanks yeah it's such a huge thing our boys name we chose and were half and half but not got anything else lol
But it's the Sophie I know I'll be devastated by. Think I'll give it a few weeks and just text her saying we've chosen our girls name and hope for the best with boys lol

 

[SunnySue]

PS. I meant to say about the thread title, it isn't trivial at all. Choosing names is a huge *thing* and I know I'd be upset to have my names (which I don't even know yet!) swept out from under me.

Totally agree you are not being trivial hun, it is a very personal thing and the thought of someone close to me getting there before me would do my head in!

 

[CupcakeMummy]

PS. I meant to say about the thread title, it isn't trivial at all. Choosing names is a huge *thing* and I know I'd be upset to have my names (which I don't even know yet!) swept out from under me.

Totally agree you are not being trivial hun, it is a very personal thing and the thought of someone close to me getting there before me would do my head in!

Another one who agrees it's not trivial in the slightest!! It'd break my heart if someone took our names.

 

[babyem]

I'm sorry but I disagree. I've had the name May in mind for my LO since I can remember, it's my mums name and I just really like it. SIL knew I liked it and used May in her name. Yes I was a little annoyed, but it's not going to stop me using that name! There will always be or it will be very likely that whatever name you choose, there will be another child with the same one (school, friends, nursery etc). Say if you chose Sophie and so did she, it doesn't mean she's copied you she may have her own very different personal reasons for it. I think it's unfair to say that because you like a certain name, someone else shouldn't use it.

Sorry, but thats my opinion. x

 

[Sarah85]

No that's totally fine Hun everyone's different. If it were a friend might be a bit different but seeing as she's pretty much like family would be like us calling niece/nephew same thing lol. This is her forth child so I'm sure she's used her fav names up if she's had them in mind for a while lol

 

[babyem]

My LO and my neice will have same name, but I know the reasons why I chose it, she has her reasons so doesn't bother me.

Sophie is a lovely name btw x

 

[Sarah85]

Thanks Hun I wish I had your couldn't care attitude I really do lol.

 

[Sarah85]

Haha my OH just said same as you "sod it we've always wanted this names tough shit" lol

 

[babyem]

Thanks Hun I wish I had your couldn't care attitude I really do lol.

I was a little pissed off about it when she told us her name, but it doesn't bother me anymore. Even if there were 5 babies with the name May in our family, each would be unique

I've spent far too long worrying about various different things and I can honestly say life is so much easier when I just let things pass and not care lol!

x

 

[Sarah85]

Totally agree I'm usually really relaxed but think this pregnancy has made me go nuts lol worry about almost everything now lol! God help me when it's actually born!!!