Love making

Discussion in 'First Trimester' started by Yvonne, Jun 29, 2005.

  1. Yvonne

    Yvonne Well-Known Member

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    sorry i am posting something so personal but it is going through my mind like a whirlwind.

    Has anyone else gone off sex? since i was about 6 weeks i haven't wanted to make love to my partner- its not i have gone off him or anything but i just cant get my head round getting active- if you know what i mean.
    i dont even want him to touch me in that way either, its wierd cos i look at him and think phwoar but i never want to persue it!!

    i'm hoping its not just me being wierd :( i know you are supposed to feel sexy in your 2nd trimester but up to now there are no signs of it coming!!

    i hope no one thinks i'm being too personal it is just a genuine concern that i want a bit of advice on.

    :D :D :D :D
     
  2. Rosieroo

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    I've been feeling that that, apart from last weekend when I got my 'pot noodle horn' back for about a day, and then that was it. I'm starting to feel a bit more normal again now, but I still don't want to jump on DH at the moment, guess I better get myself in gear cos I really wont want to when I am huuuuge. :lol:
     
  3. Yvonne

    Yvonne Well-Known Member

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    i feel really guilty though, its been about 2 months!!!

    i did try it the other week and it hurt a bit so i didn't bother after that!!

    hopefully i'll get my pot noodle horn back!!! Lol

    :D :D :D

    thanks for the reply
     
  4. Sarah W Baby Belly

    Sarah W Baby Belly Well-Known Member

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    I haven't gone off it at all, but we are only managing it about once a week due to bad co-ordination. On the dats when I actually stop feeling nauseous and tired he is busy doing something more important like fixing his car (last night for example). I mustn't grumble at him though, he is being really great.

    I think it is really important that we all continue to show our affection even if just having baths together or cuddling. It is so easy to keep each other at arms length sometimes
     
  5. Yvonne

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    we kiss and cuddle but thats it, he is so understanding about it which helps but it still doesn't stop the guilt
     
  6. Layla

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    i went off sex at 6 week pregnant, my other half was very understanding about it.

    I got my drive back last night so we made the most of it, but today im really shattered and my morning sickness has worsend so i dont think he will get it again for a while! lol
     
  7. Kim

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    The last time we 'did it' must have been the day of conception :(
     
  8. Kerry

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    With my first pregnancy we had sex the whole way through, with my second I didn't want it after about 12 weeks and that was it then till after the birth.

    This time I don't really feel like it even this early, I am too tired and feel so queezy and want to wee all the time.......however, I am going to try and make more of an effort as it is so important for them to feel loved at the moment too.
     
  9. -Cat-

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    I went right off sex for the first trimester, we didnt do it at all. Now though I dont know if its increased blood flow downstairs or hormones but I feel permanently horney, I have to play with my rabbit at least twice a day, its not so much horney thoughts just my 'bits' getting tingly! will probably tail off again soon though as Im getting akwardly big now, found at the weekend that I could no longer stick my legs round the back of OH neck. The fraustrating think is though is that the sex isn't very, how should I put it . . . time consuming! Never had a problem in that depatment before, but because Im now producing so much erm . . . lubricant when I get turned on, it unfortunatly overstimulates my man, and he gets over excited over how wet I am and lasts about 2 mins if I'm lucky!

    Thank goodness for battery power!

    sorry by the way if thay was a bit to much detail!! :oops:
     
  10. bobtheunfortunateone

    bobtheunfortunateone Well-Known Member

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    Hi ladies, still off it! boooo, still find him sexy just cannot be bothered, we do it about every two weeks and it is great (I mean great) but just cannot be bothered anymore!

    Just to make matters worse, I found out he had been looking at porn sites on the internet! Just felt so un sexy, I would normally get some tips and giggle at him, but just felt gutted and unattractive, just want to cry even more now, He as sent me lots of sorry i'm stupid texts to day but still sulking with him! When I don't feel sexy, if made me feel even worse said he got the address from work, which made wonder what he as been saying! and there was about 10-15 different sites. (Never apart enough for him to get up to much)

    He is normally so loving and understanding and great support, but still soo mad, last month he said he was on nights when baby bean was concieved, which made me cry even more! But he is normally so loving and caring! so I don't understand if it just my hormones taking things the wrong way or if he is just feeling neglected? *Shrugs* and the other day I asked him to rub my feet and he said no thanks totally opposite to what he was like before we got pregnant would travel the world and back for me , now won't travel to the shops!

    Oh glum only pot noodle horn I get is if I won it in my pot noodle (Hmmm noodles)
     
  11. scared 19

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    its kind of different for me i am up for it :oops: But i worry about hurting the baby, is this possible??
     
  12. Kerry

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    Apparently not........I think the only time they say to avoid sex in early pregnancy if if you have a history of lots of miscarriages...........dunno why though!!

    Sorry not much help am I?? :?

    I don't feel up for it at all but can be talked round :wink: and usually enjoy it loads too!!!
     
  13. scared 19

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    shame :oops: same here lol :lol:
     
  14. Yvonne

    Yvonne Well-Known Member

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    well i thought i was a fool and being syupid but i'm glad i'm not the only one.

    i still do other stuff with him- well to him cos i don't want him to touch me!! dont know why cos i still think he's phwoar! but at the mo nothing appeals to me in anyway.

    thankyou so much for all your replies it has made me feel miles more human!!! Lol :lol:

    :D :D :D :D :D :D
     
  15. Rosieroo

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    Amen to that :D
     
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    when i hit third trimester i could not get enough, i want it every day, i agree with -cat- my parts are tingley too which dont help, mr bunny helps put me to sleep every night. but in early pregnancy i did every thing possible to avoid sex just weren't interested at all.
     
  17. Tara & Liam

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    Hi honey

    With me it is totally the opposite, it's him whos has gone off it. I am convinced that he thinks that he can reach the baby (wishful thinking).

    xx
     
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    My BF always panics afterwards and keeps asking if im ok and if the baby feels ok, i guess its difficult for men as they have no idea what it feels like to have a baby growing in your tummy!!
     
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  20. Rosebay

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    I love you ladies :) you're so honest!

    We're quite up for it but I'm often asleep very early which doesn't help! Thankfully he seems to think that my changing body is sexy- especially my tummy so that's cool as it makes me feel a lot better about it too! I've noticed though that he wants to make love more than he wants sex if you know what I mean- that in a way it's become more about being close to me than being lusty. It's taken me by surprise a bit as I kind of feel the same as I ever did (i.e. lusty!) but it's obviously taken on a new meaning for him. Has anyone else noticed similar?

    Also it takes me longer to get anywhere if you see what I mean but I get wicked aftershocks!

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