Lost the TTC drive.

[flopsybunny]

Have any of you had this slump? I am into my 8th month TTC and whilst I haven't lost interest, I feel like I have lost all positivity and good thinking about it.

How did any of you who have had this slump get your drive and positivity back?
xx

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Hey Flopsy,

YES! US!

We hit a brick wall, well more so me tbh and so I decided I would talk to DH and we then decided to bin all the charts, temps, opks, hpts and just get down and dirty when we wanted to and that we wouldnt avtivley TTC but obviously not preventing at all either!
And its the best thing weve done!

I notice that when we were actively ttc it was usually me saying right from this day till this day is our window and I would remind him its an early night etc, now hes wanting a 'cuddle' more than ever and its taken ALL that pressure away!
I may still not get my BFP but its a bit of reversed psychology isnt it thinking your not TTC when we can still get pregnant by not preventing!

I dont think Im going to chart etc as such next month either if no bfp this month as Im actually liking things the way they are, no pressure, no stress just lots of quality DTD!

Hope this helps and although I hated to admit it when the others posted things like Im saying...its true relaxing regardless of a BFP or not is def the best way forward xxx

 

[jarjar7]

I hit a wall in my 5th month and felt like giving up but just tried to keep going...then last month I had a total breakdown when AF showed up and just thought to myself 'I cant do this anymore' so me and OH had a good chat and have decided to try and ease off TTC a bit. Not stop altogether but I've stopped doing OPK's etc and we're just gonna have sex more and see where it leads us.
Good luck hun. xxxx

 

[Geminiblue]

have only been doing opks this month and have already hit a wall am thinking I might not test or anything next month and see where it takes us.... I was so obsessed trawling the internet researching etc etc but that didnt change the fact that I didnt conceive, its a dangerous place for me this obsessive thing... but I know I will be bac at it next month (which will actually be in about 10 days time when I generally ovulate) ahhhhh. So basically, yes you are in great company xxx

 

[hayley25]

You are not alone!! we have been ttc for over a year-not properly for the whole year but with no contraception. In the last few months i have started to use ovulation tests. I am currently in my 'extra fertile' stage and my OH cant do it as much as i would like!! I guess, i am soo desperate to get pregnant that i think i have gone a bit military-but i only have 24hrs left!
Its quite hard, knowing that actually you 'arent in the mood' but you have to do it!
I guess as they say-variety is the spice of life...so we should use that in the bedroom!
xx