Loss of sexdrive - affecting relationship

[sarah.connors]

Since I got pregnant this time around my sexdrive has completely disappeared. My partner and I previously had a lot of sex (like at least once a day, sometimes 3 times). Now I dont feel like it at all, I give him sex every once in a while to keep him happy, but he doesnt seem satisfied at all. He gets very offended when I turn down sex (which is quite often since he tries a lot). But concidering morning sickness, being tired and my loss of sexdrive I think sex every other day or so is realistic and reasonable. He doesnt though, he gets offended that I "dont want him anymore". It makes me a little angry and sad he reacts that way. Has anybody else had this issue during pregnancy? Complete loss of sex-drive, and your partner wanting more sex than you?

 

[WinterWolf]

Meee. I'm 16 weeks and since being pregnant the sex has dropped to like once a week. I am always sick and sex does NOT help. I feel so guilty about it sometimes but I'm lucky my hubby is really understanding. He knows its not because I don't want him, its because I feel like trash. Sounds like your partner is being selfish and needs to grow up a little - every other day is way more than most pregnant women are up for.

 

[Laura butchers]

Jeeez.. please dont take offence to this but he sounds like a sex pest.

If my husband wanted it every other day i would tell him to sling his hook or punch him in the face lol. Not many couples i know have sex every day.
On average we have sex twice a week. Sometimes not even once a week. I am a full time mum and my husband is a fisherman so 9 times out of 10 we are just exhausted!

I agree with winter wolf.. sounds like he needs to grow up and understand how your feeling.

 

[night owl]

Wow seriously who has time for sex three times a day? I don’t mean this in an offensive way but do yous both work? Or is it a fairly new relationship?

The only reason we and my OH have being doing it more then 3 times a month lately is because we’ve been trysing to conceive! Even then it’s only every other day during fertile week,

You’re going to just have to be a bit more assertive here and tell him no, you don’t feel like having sex, and that’s just tough titty, a grown man would just be understanding and respectful of that

I assume he’s got a fully functioning hand, if you know what I mean?

 

[Laura butchers]

Wow seriously who has time for sex three times a day? I don’t mean this in an offensive way but do yous both work? Or is it a fairly new relationship?

The only reason we and my OH have being doing it more then 3 times a month lately is because we’ve been trysing to conceive! Even then it’s only every other day during fertile week,

You’re going to just have to be a bit more assertive here and tell him no, you don’t feel like having sex, and that’s just tough titty, a grown man would just be understanding and respectful of that

I assume he’s got a fully functioning hand, if you know what I mean?

Yes night owl! Love this! Well said!

 

[Akua]

I think perhaps you need to be a bit more assertive. Put it plain and simple ‘No I don’t want to have sex you with as I feel I might vomit all over you if we do’. End of story.

But he is going to have to get used to less sex. Because trust me, you’re not going to want to be doing any sexy time after having the baby (episiotomies, stitches, having a baby looks great fun ) and you’re definitely not going to be finding time for sex three times a day when you have children running around. So he might as well start adjusting now

 

[night owl]

I think perhaps you need to be a bit more assertive. Put it plain and simple ‘No I don’t want to have sex you with as I feel I might vomit all over you if we do’. End of story.

But he is going to have to get used to less sex. Because trust me, you’re not going to want to be doing any sexy time after having the baby (episiotomies, stitches, having a baby looks great fun ) and you’re definitely not going to be finding time for sex three times a day when you have children running around. So he might as well start adjusting now

Ha ha akua! Great advice, I’m sure the possibly of getting covered in vomit is enough of a passion killer, mind you some people are into weird stuff so who knows, lol.

But seriously though you are right, he is going to have to get used to ALOT less sex, how can anyone be having sex three times a day with kids in the house that would be so inappropriate anyway as it would be so difficult to keep it behind closed doors, it’s just not going to happen!

 

[Loula]

He needs to sort himself out mentally and physically.
When I was pregnant I last had sex at around 6 weeks and then that was it until 9 weeks post pregnancy. My baby is 16 weeks old.and it's only been the once.
It's tiring being a parent and he sounds like he needs to grow up